I’ve already posted that I think there is something wrong with a 29 year old that wants to pursue a teenager but out of interest...did your kids think he was creepy/a “paedo” before?
I unfortunatelyknow a 50 year old that was married to a 16 year old. He was able to give her a home, and a business, and fancy holidays and support her financially to be a sahm to their 8 kids. They were “happily” married for 15 years.
Except they weren’t. Because he wasn’t normal. He was an abuser. She was trapped and by the time she was in her 30s he’d turned his attentions to their young teenage and preteen daughters. Eventually the kids were removed from both of their care. She was left with nothing. No kids, no education, no career, in a women’s shelter.
But oh the people that turned a blind eye. It was 16 so it was legal. He was a “father figure”. He could give her the kind of life she “would never have otherwise”.
Just because something is legal doesn’t make it normal.
One of my closest friends was targeted by a man 27 years older when she was 18. She dropped out of education. Became a sahm earlier than she’d planned to have kids because he wanted kids ASAP because his time was running out. She’s never had a job because he believes mums should stay in the home like his mum did. No pension. Lovely house, fabulous holidays, no money worries. She also isn’t allowed nights out. Friends have to go to hers. She has to look after his elderly parents as well as two kids who are currently being assessed for SEN. She has no employment prospects. She is trapped. As her kids get older her life is feeling more and more empty. She’s not as keen on sleeping with a 62 year old at 35 as she was when she was 18 and he was a fit and well 45 year old.
There was undoubtedly a reason he went for a teenager as opposed to a woman his own age or even a woman who was over 25. They wouldn’t have put up with someone as controlling. They would have known that they were entitled to a life other than being his wife, his cook and cleaner, mother to his kids, carer for him and his parents. She tells me, she “knew her own mind” at 18, enjoyed “playing house” initially, felt she was “onto a good thing”. But looking back, he came into her life months after her father died. She had already been vulnerable. She’d been incredibly sheltered growing up.
On the outside - happy family, age gap success story. Truth? She’s miserable and doesn’t want the same for her kids and now she’s older feels grossed out by the fact he pursued her as a teenager.