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AIBU to think taking a “Mental Health Day” is a bit wanky?

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Throwawaytheatre · 09/02/2020 09:34

Honest disclaimer: I’m not trying to minimise mental illness... I’ve suffered with depression myself and attempted suicide three times since I was 16.

I work in management in a corporate environment. Over the past couple of years I’ve seen a rise in my staff (and I hate to say, it does tend to be the younger ones) taking what they call “mental health days”

Now if your mental health is so bad that you cannot get out of bed, come into work and do your job (or at least reduced duties) then you have my upmost sympathy. And when you come back, I would expect occupational health involved and a support plan to help you manage your illness.

But... you shouldn’t take a day or two off - which will have a detrimental impact on the rest of the team - just because you are bit tired or stressed. Especially as in my industry, you don’t work weekends and so are never more than five days away from your next day off.

I firmly believe that if you are capable of being in work, you should be in work. You are an adult, with contractual obligation and responsibility that you get paid to fulfil.

To further clarify; I’m talking about when members of my team call in sick for one day (often a Monday or Friday) and upon their back to work interview tell me that they were just “mentally exhausted” or “needed to recharge”, when I suggest the route of occupational health or support they don’t want that - they agree there is nothing we need to change to support them.

I had one young lady take three days sickness, go to Disneyland Paris which was plastered all over Facebook; and then upon return tell me it was a “mental health break”. She had not diagnosed condition and no intent on seeking any medical assistance she just “needed a break”

Prompted by a member of my team texting me this morning to say they will be having tomorrow off as “it’s been a stressful week, and [they] don’t feel they have fully recovered over the weekend.”

OP posts:
thehorseandhisboy · 13/02/2020 16:25

I hope that you feel better soon NameChange2306.

You're right that taking time off for GAD if you're close to breaking point is as necessary as taking time off for something like glandular fever.

larrygrylls · 13/02/2020 17:18

Thehorse,

She tss as kid about a ‘back to work’ interview and suggesting support or occupational health.

That sure as hell sounds like managing the situation within formal policies.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with venturing opinions on a website (anonymously). If you don’t like that, I suggest you stay away from ‘AIBU’.

larrygrylls · 13/02/2020 17:20

Talks about..

thehorseandhisboy · 13/02/2020 18:48

Well, if her managees are being managed as per company policy, I can't see what the problem is tbh.

They took sickness absence, the company intervened as per policy.

Everything's in hand.

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