to think that valentines day is pointless

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It only benefits the shops that sell all the gifts, flowers and cards doesn't it? I can't see the point in wasting money on it when it's surely the rest of the year that matters more?

Sometimes at work we see people getting stuff like bouquets of flowers delivered but who spend the rest of the year bemoaning how awful their wife/husband are.

I’m not a massive fan of it and my birthday is a few days after...however I would be upset if I didn’t get a card!

@lynsey91

Eh...while you, me and all the others are having a bit of fun on Valentine’s Day, reading a cute card, smelling a pretty flower, or having a nice meal with our loved ones some others will be enjoying sanctimonious fun policing and disapproval. I say leave them them to it and let them moan about it all they want. It’s quite sad really.

And I say this knowing I’ve already commented on this topic. Maybe reading some of these post has made me realize how pointless the debat is.

@bookmum08

Whoever you've got on social media after you've uploaded the photos probably.

It's like those 'haul' photos at Christmas.

I prefer pancake day- at least that is fun.

We quite like the M&S meal deal

I won't be putting pictures of crumpets on social media bingbangbing I will just be eating them.

Of course not...

If you don't want to celebrate Valentines then don't. Why is is necessary to belittle anyone that does celebrate it? The same things are said every year and I find the ridicule posts pathetic

Have you read the post title @lynsey91?

@bingbangbing it's not creepy showing love and how exactly is it showing off if you don't post about it on facebook or have a massive bunch of flowers delivered to work?

No we don't do steak and a blowjob day either. We are both vegetarian and don't need to be told which day to do blow jobs.

As I have said NUMEROUS times we just buy each other a nice present not the plastic tat specifically sold for that day. Are books, cd, dvd's, earring etc tacky? A nice bunch of flowers? Not all florists put their prices up nor do all restaurants.

@JacquesHammer I get annoyed because of people don't want to celebrate it fine but why see the need to belittle those that do?

Yes we celebrate it but I am not telling everyone they should. I don't honestly care if they don't but in this horrible world why not a bit of happiness, pleasure, fun?

I don't need to convince myself or mn just don't know why there as so many nasty sour people here. It's more the people insisting they do wonderful loving things all year that seem to be trying to convince mn or themselves.

I'm not bothering to post any more but while me and DH are having a lovely day on Friday I will think of all you miseries and be grateful for 40 happy years with a loving man

Don't celebrate the day then if it annoys you so much?

It's quite funny though that so many people go 'we don't need to celebrate it as we do nice things for each other all the time during the year'. Yet you can't be bothered for one more day? It's just a card after all, don't need to buy flowers, chocolates, a bear etc. Don't even need to buy a card, text happy valentines day and watch a movie together.

I actually worry about relationships on both sides. The ones who go OTT and flaunt it on FB, I wonder what are you hiding? The ones who are grumpy about it, I also wonder what are you hiding? If you were in a happy relationship, a single day of the year wouldn't make you this angry. Or shouldn't at least.

I'm not bothering to post any more but while me and DH are having a lovely day on Friday I will think of all you miseries and be grateful for 40 happy years with a loving man

Sounds great. Spending time with the man you love thinking about people you’ve never met on MN who have made you irrationally pissed off. Maybe look at why you’re so incensed rather than secure in your decision.

It's the mass commercialism of it, the fact that so many people see it as an obligation which I find quite depressing.

Just wait until Feb 15 on Mumsnet with all of the valentines disaster threads.

Deargod if I worked in your office I’d be sending a fuck off bouquet to myself just to watch your head explode.

Dh bought me a present last year and I was shocked. Was nice of him , but I wasn't expecting anything at all. We usually don't bother with any of it as it's just another event for card shops and supermarkets and restaurants to make a quick buck and been made into another big commercial venture.
The Mother's Day cards will be in the shops by next week! ( another big money spinner)

@tssndcop

Might I suggest this? It was a surprise by husband a few years ago as I was out of town traveling for work. He worked with the security guard to surprise me.

Luckily I drove that trip instead of flying!

We celebrate by having a meal out. Gifts are exchanged but usually flowers and beer no tat. But it's nice to do something with someone you love and recognise itS yup celebrate anniversary too even though we are aren't married

Funny how you don't see as many of these threads on Mother's Day. All these types of celebrations could be viewed the same. Don't celebrate Easter or Christmas if you aren't religious.... just let people be.

Yanbu but this year, for the first time in ages i actually have someone i fancy at this time of year and i'm working on letting them know. It's purely a coincidence that things are coming to a head in mid February though.

saltine he’s lovely.

I once got an Oasis CD from DH, then DB. It had a poem:

Roses are red
Violets are blue
Oasis are great
Happy Valentines Day

Who could turn down the Bard?

*Although when he rejects me i'll be cursing feb 14th with the best of 'em!

We don't buy anything apart from possibly a card each.. I cook a vat of bolognese as my oldest and his girlfriend love it, and we set them up at a small candlelit table - restaurant style in the dining room - whilst we and the youngest sit at the kitchen table with the dogs watching us and enjoy the evening together. No added expense, just a nice excuse to pencil in a bit of family time 6 weeks after christmas.. The youngest is 17 now so he may yet bugger off out!

I love it! If I'm with someone I get a gift and have a bit of a fumble. If I'm not, a FWB brings a gift and we have a bit of a fumble. Win win! I have a box full of cards, lots of pictures of flowers and a black bag of teddy bears🤣

tssdncop

Love poem! And that totally illustrates that Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about giant bears and anything else. It’s also about the little things that we share with our loved ones.

Another year DH had a work meeting in the evening of Valentines. So he set me up with a replacement ‘date’ which was a character built out of random snacks from the kitchen. I found it standing next to a beer from the fridge. I can’t remember what all it was made of, but I remember it had a marshmallow head.

Can we make this a bit more light hearted

Anyone remember the rhymes they put in the cards they sent out in adolescence years ...I'm cringing at mine.

Oh Heavenly Father Up Above
Please Protect The Girl I love
Sealed With A Smile
Sealed With A Kiss
I Love The Girl Who's Reading This

Oh my god....Did I really write that...!!

There's a second verse...I'm too ashamed to type it!!

YANBU, it’s tacky and pointless consumerism.

It’s been going since the very early Christian Church was formed. The relics are in a church in Rome. It’s an Anglican religious feast day, so not entirely grounded in consumerism.
St Valentine was martyred for marrying soldiers who weren’t permitted to marry under Roman rule.
Nobody needs buy tacky padded cards or chocolate hearts if they don’t want to but celebrating enduring love is no bad thing.

We’re having a drinks party with like minded friends on Friday. The hosts will have been married 54 years in April. Definitely worth a glass or two.

I totally agree OP. I find it unutterably naff. People who loathe each other most of the year and spend loads of money on cards and gifts because Clinton’s tells them to. Yuck.