to think that valentines day is pointless

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It only benefits the shops that sell all the gifts, flowers and cards doesn't it? I can't see the point in wasting money on it when it's surely the rest of the year that matters more?

Sometimes at work we see people getting stuff like bouquets of flowers delivered but who spend the rest of the year bemoaning how awful their wife/husband are.

Valentines is for teenagers. I’d rather celebrate our wedding anniversary which is special to us than be encouraged to celebrate on the same day as everyone else in the world.

We’ve not ‘done’ Valentine’s Day since we got married 20years ago.

I quite like Valentine’s Day.

Lots of people throw around ‘everyday should be valentines’ blah blah, but it’s not. Work, kids and life take precedent and although you may have regular date nights, it’s nice to have a day specifically for romance!

From the pov of a happily married person, to me it is just one of the small feasts that mark the seasons and give a bit of interest to an otherwise dull time. Dh and I buy each other a box of chocolates and then sit down every evening with a cup of tea and eat 3 pieces of chocolate each, alternating between boxes. A pleasant cosy bonding ceremony. And I can't see it benefits the retailers any more than the Easter egg I buy the children at Easter or the bottle of gin my son bought me for Christmas.

As a medieval historian, I can't accept Valentine as a holiday invented by Hallmark: there are examples of Valentine's gifts and poems going back to the 15th century. If you want to stop benefiting retailers by indulging in recently invented crap then the Christmas turkey and the Cadbury cream eggs would seem more sensible targets.

I think its a great day amongst the bore of the year and although I'm single i love to treat myself and last year me and my kids all went for valentines dinner. Lovely jubbly

"It's nice to have a day specifically for romance!" We already have our anniversary. If other couples want 2 special days that's up to them but it's really not for us.

Yanbu op.

It's there if you want it and if you don't...then don't get into it !??
Simple

@Drabarni maybe it's me being touchy but it still seems as if your posts are having a dig at anyone who does celebrate Valentines.

Me and DH spend a lot of time together (I am retired and DH semi retired) and we too like to make the other feel special.

We have never been too busy to have little time for each other. For many years we worked together and loved it

We already have our anniversary

Some of us aren’t married yet 😂

@firstimemamma we celebrate the day we met, our wedding anniversary, both our birthdays and Valentines. I think making quite a big deal out of 5 dates plus showing love and affection the rest of the year is lovely and much better than just 1 day

Yes, in the grand scheme of things it’s quite pointless, just like any other construct. But on the other hand it’s nice to celebrate things like Mother’s Day/father’s day/birthdays etc so why not a little acknowledgement of love and appreciation of the privilege of being together and happy. We don’t make it all about consumerism - we don’t do gifts, we don’t go out. We exchange cards and cook a special meal at home. Often it’s not any more special than our other meals, but we’ll have wine and candles and a new bunch of flowers. We have nice meals, candles, wine and flowers quite regularly throughout the year, but the point is we’re doing it specifically on this day. I like it, I think it’s good to stop and have special moments as often as possible.

I’m sure I wouldn’t see any value in it if it was just a day full of empty token gestures, though - luckily my OH is kind, loving, generous and thoughtful 365 days of the year, and I try to be that way too (I’m not naturally as nice a person as he is). We’re happy every day, so Valentine’s Day is just a bonus.

I like to celebrate everything from the day we met, to when we got engaged and our anniversary. On valentine's day we used to give each other gifts but we now have dd with a March birthday and we like to focus on that and mother's day. We always go out for a meal though usually with the kids so this year we will be going somewhere child friendly for lunch on the Saturday instead of actually Valentine's day. Dh always gets me flowers, yellow tulips if he can get a hold of them and I am happy. We do exchange cards though.

Yabu, why celebrate anything? If getting heart shaped choccies cheers someone up why not?

It is pointless.
If you love someone you show it all year round ,not just on one day a year.

@Likefootball pointless in YOUR opinion. As I, and others have said, it is possible to show love on Valentines Day and other days in the year.

What's wrong with doing something on that day along with birthdays, wedding anniversary etc?

Me and DH quite often buy each other a small present if we see something the other would like whether it is a book, a cd, dvd, bunch of flowers the other likes, plant, earrings (for me). We don't always buy each other something for Valentines but if one, or both, of us see something we will likely buy it.

We don't often go out to eat because most restaurant meals are a waste of money in our view but we will sometimes go for a meal on Valentines, our birthdays, wedding anniversary, anniversary of when we met to mark them as special days. We almost always go to an indian restaurant as it is unusual to have a bad meal there.

If we don't go out to eat we will probably cook a nice meal. We also like to go out for the day (which we also do on other days throughout the year!)

Dh and I do show each other we love each other all year round, but we still like to something on Valentine’s Day.
It’s hardly any effort and it’s probably more lighthearted.
Do all those who show each other they love each other all year round, specifically not show each other they love each other on Valentine’s Day then?

Well for the sake of £1 at card factory
It stops the not-so-subtle comments if you forgot.
£1 well spent.

It's just a bit of fun.

My dh always does something nice, but he's lovely all year round.

Ignore it if you don’t like it. Or just do a homemade card and a nice bit of food- you don’t have to make a big deal of it.

Events in life can be pointless if you want it to be pointless. Or events in life can have a purpose and meaning and something to aim for if you want them to. As someone up thread said days like Valentine's Day show the changes in the seasons. It's important to be aware of the changing seasons I think. Otherwise life will be the same 365 days. Nothing to look forward to. Nothing to aim for. Nothing to look forward to.
I am going to make some cupcakes for Valentine's Day. Are cupcakes pointless? Yes because from a nutritional point of view we don't need them. But I LIKE cupcakes and it will be a treat. We all need treats in life.

I thought the point of Valentine's Day was to declare your love anonymously to the person you fancy. Dh and I don't celebrate it at all.

Be a curmudgeon if you must but i dont see the need to piss on other peoples people's chips

In the office of is just an opportunity to make everyone who is single feel like shit

I don’t celebrate it and I think its pointless, others don’t and that’s fine

And for the pp who asked is also happily ban mothers/fathers day too!

@DearGod1

Get over yourself...it has nothing to do with making single people feel like shit. You as a single person don’t enter into it at all.

It’s for people who aren’t the sharpest tools in the shed

And @DearGod1, what a ridiculous post