to think that valentines day is pointless

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It only benefits the shops that sell all the gifts, flowers and cards doesn't it? I can't see the point in wasting money on it when it's surely the rest of the year that matters more?

Sometimes at work we see people getting stuff like bouquets of flowers delivered but who spend the rest of the year bemoaning how awful their wife/husband are.

It’s not compulsory, just don’t bother if you don’t want to.

We’ll be having a family meal this year with all the kids involved cooking/ decorating the table just for a bit of fun.

It's up to you, I suppose.
I'd rather be told daily, made to feel special on a daily basis. Go out of our way for each other regularly,, than once a year.
But each to their own.

I'm on the fence. I don't like the commercialised stuff and the fact it becomes a show who got more presents etc on the day, but I do feel it's good to have a romantic day with your other half. Life gets so busy at times. I think its helps to make a day when you spend some loved up time together. Saying that as a single person!

I’ve never understood the hate for holidays or special days...I mean as far as I know nobody is obligated to celebrate them if the don’t want to and for those that do, days like Valentine’s is a nice diversion from the daily grind.

Valentine’s in particular is a low effort kind of day depending on what you’re into. But I guess if your way of celebrating is to piss on other’s fun..have at.

I think it's nice for teenagers.

We do it as a family thing. Pre kids dh and I would go out but now he gets us all a little bunch of flowers and set the table up

We also tell each other that we love each other all the time, go out for meals etc so it’s not an either or.

Some people are just grumps

Well if you think of St Valentine being pesecuted for his faith then it,s not pointless. But if you just want to buy some cards then yes.

I think it's so cheesy and naff, but some people like it and who am I to judge.

I cringe so hard when partners send flowers to their loved one in work.

It's basically a show to say 'I'm an amazing spouse. LOOK HOW WONDERFUL AND LOVELY I AM. LOOK GOD DAMN YOU!!!!

Its totally pointless fluffy crap.

It's basically a show to say 'I'm an amazing spouse. LOOK HOW WONDERFUL AND LOVELY I AM. LOOK GOD DAMN YOU!!!!

Eh...mine will do the flowers at work from time to time on Valentine’s Day. It’s not really my thing but it makes him happy to make the grand gesture. And it makes me happy that he’s happy.

Other years it’s a card or something silly like a heart shaped pizza.

I like it. February is so dismal. It's lovely to have something to cheer you up. I've been with my husband now for 18 years and we normally make a nice meal and if I'm lucky I get flowers. This year our kids are old enough to be left and I'm not working so we are going out on an actual date. I'm excited and hope to we won't be one of the boring couples with nothing to say to each other!! I know we could do it any time and it's commercial blah blah and I don't disagree. But stll, it makes me smile seeing couples together and men going past with bouquets

@Drabarni well judging by this thread, there are plenty of people who do celebrate Valentine's Day AND show love and affection year round too.

Some people seem to want to show off that they don't do anything because they are so loving all year round. It's pretty childish

Our dc 6 and 8 are v excited about Valentine's day and plan to set the table, make cards and make us 'romantic snacks' ie fruit salad. It's very sweet!

I had never been in a decent relationship before I met Dh aged 30 and used to feel sad on V day. Never had a card or celebrated it before him. I guess now it reminds me to feel grateful to be happily married with kids.

It seems to be all about show, people wanting gifts so that they can show off on FB. Waiting for the posts moaning about lack of gift, the gift was wrong etc.

I agree completely. Valentine’s Day is commercialIsed nonsense, perpetrated by corporations who seek to make profit from it and celebrated by people who can’t think for themselves.

I am perfectly capable of telling DP that I love him on any day of the year, and not just on the specific day when the marketing department of fucking Tesco tells me to.

I agree. Pointless, boring crap

It's pointless, but most things are.

I've always disliked the cringeyness of it. DP and I don't do soppy, goopy love - it makes both of us want to vomit, so we ignore it.
He's romantic (in a way we can both tolerate) year round and I don't need big red hearts, flowers, chocolates or any of the other stuff they try to sell you to know he loves me. I'd be pretty pissed off if he only made effort on certain days!

To each their own though. If a couple want to mark the (hallmark) day, then so be it - it doesn't effect my life in any way.

In fact, not long after we'd first got together, he spent a stupid amount of money to buy me a huge box of Venus et Fleur roses (the ones that last a year.)

They arrived at my door and, on opening them, the first thing I thought is 'What has he done?'

(Disclaimer; I had no reason to think that, he is lovely in every way, shape and form - it was just so unusual that I was taken aback. Especially when I saw how much they cost )

We all lead busy lives and its very easy to take your partner for granted. Having a specific day of the year makes you slow down and spend time together.

meh, you can make it as tacky or as nice as you want. You can cook a nice diner at home with a good bottle of wine, or go away for a break and there you go.

if it makes someone happy to receive a card or a teddy bear, why not. That doesn't hurt anyone

@AgeLikeWine I too am perfectly capable of telling my DH that I love him any day of the year and I do.

I don't get why people that don't do anything on Valentines are so nasty with their comments. If you don't like it then just ignore it and let the rest of us romantics celebrate it.

@Topseyt what's pointless boring crap? The "gifts" sold in card shops and supermarkets for Valentines? Well many people, including myself and DH, don't buy those. If we buy each other a present it is likely to be a book or cd or DH might buy me a pair of earrings. I love earrings and wear silver ones which are hardly expensive.

Also I have never ever posted on facebook about any present, card that I have given or received nor about any meal we have had on Valentines or anywhere we have been so it's not about showing off

DP usually gets me a card and writes that he loves me just as much as any other day of the year. I get him one with a funny pun on the front, we don't make a big deal or go out for a meal, but it's a bit of fun I guess.

No need to partake if you don't want. I hate halloween!

I have told DH not to bother getting me anything except a card maybe. I don’t need anything this soon after Xmas, and I could do without eating chocolate. I think it’s a bit pointless and is another way to get us to buy things we don’t really need.

lynsey

I did say each to their own. It's lovely if that's what you want.
Me and dh spend most days together and somewhere in that day we make the other feel special.
If that wasn't the case we'd probably celebrate the same as other couples, especially those who are busy with little time for each other.

We don't celebrate any of the Hallnark holidays.