to think that valentines day is pointless

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It only benefits the shops that sell all the gifts, flowers and cards doesn't it? I can't see the point in wasting money on it when it's surely the rest of the year that matters more?

Sometimes at work we see people getting stuff like bouquets of flowers delivered but who spend the rest of the year bemoaning how awful their wife/husband are.

We exchange cards (and body fluids if we’re lucky) and have a nice meal at home. Mr Human is also getting a single red rose this year because he loves the Rabbie Burns poem. The way the cost of everything doubles is so cynical, same as Mothers’ Day.

As it's totally not compulsory anyone can think anything like about it, if it's not for you don't celebrate it. Tbh I really see why you even need to ask.

We swop cards and token gifts and have champagne and a special meal at home. Mother’s/Fathers’ Day are irrelevant to us as we have no children or surviving parents.

Not as important as Mother's Day, wedding anniversaries or birthdays. Over-hyped and I wish it was just a day, not a 'weekend' or other such nonsense.

We don't bother with Valentine's day we're more interested in Shrove Tuesday we both have birthdays around the same time, and Valentine's day is just one celebration too much at that time of year.

We don't do Mothering Sunday in hour family either, nor did we when I was growing up.

I don't need DH or the kids to tell me they love me once a year, and to spend their money on the hiked up prices for flowers, chocolates, meals out etc that accompany both days. They tell me the love me in innumerable ways all year long.

I like it 🤷‍♂️ If you don't like it, don't do it.

I was wondering when the posts about how pointless Valentines Day is would start.

No one is forced to do anything for the day and if you don't agree with it/think it's pointless then just ignore it.

Me and DH do celebrate it and have done for the 40 years we have known each other. What we do varies each year but we always give each other a card. Sometimes we might buy a little present if one or both of us happens to see something the other will like. It's not flowers or chocolates though.

Some years we go out for a meal but not to somewhere that has a rip off special menu. Some years we get a takeaway and some years one or both of us will cook a nice meal. Depends how we feel. Some years we have gone away for the night or a couple of nights.

We often go out somewhere for the day and have a nice lunch too.

We think it's nice to do something on the day and on each other's birthday, our wedding anniversary, the anniversary of when we met etc.

We often buy gifts for each other throughout the year and show our love to each other every day.

I hate the snobbery of "oh we don't need a day to show love". Well neither do me and DH but we celebrate it because we want to.

As for going for meals and not saying a word to each other that certainly is not us and after 40 years we certainly have not said "all that can be said to each other". What a stupid comment

If you think it's pointless, ignore it, don't take part, carry on with your day as normal.

You could say the same about Christmas and Easter only benefiting the retailers too.

Well, yeah. This is just occurring to you now?

(I still will use it as an excuse for a takeaway and some treats though)

We give each other a card and he normally gets me flowers and I get him chocs and we’ll stay in and have a takeaway. We still do nice things for each other throughout the year too but it’s a little tradition for us to celebrate it together and we enjoy it. I don’t get when people post cheesy things on social media gushing about how incredible their partner is, along with photos of their valentines gifts etc. I don’t feel the need to try and prove to everyone how happy we are

As for going for meals and not saying a word to each other that certainly is not us and after 40 years we certainly have not said "all that can be said to each other". What a stupid comment

I agree. And comfortable, companionable silence can be wonderful too.

I rather like Valentines Day ..... it's our wedding anniversary.

Although I have to admit that I think DH suggested that day so he wouldn't forget it. When all those red hearts and flowers start appearing in the shops, he has the perfect reminder !!!

Tbh as well - in a world where we are trying to be less wasteful- Valentines Day kind of encourages waste - plastic heart shaped tat. Red coloured cards. Crappy chocolate

I like it and we have a card competition each year. After many years of being single we both like being able to join in.

I’d you think it’s a made up holiday so are Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. Mothering Sunday had nothing to do with mother’s, it was a day when people returned to their ‘mother’ church.

I can't see the harm in a day that celebrates somebody somewhere.

It just a money spinner op people can take part for the fun of it, it isn't obligatory. Christmas is a money spinner also but most people take part in that to some degree even without it's religious history. I was walking around tesco and mused at the mishmash of valentines, easter and pancake day stuff all in the same aisle.

I am single and won't be bothered about valentines but might take my singleton self to see Emma at the cinema when it comes out on Valentines day as I have some free time and like those kinds of movies.

Ah Valentines Day, or as we are calling it, Friday. I've always found it tacky and meaningless.

I don't get these posts because if you don't like something you just don't do it, but I always feel there's a judgy element i. e. I think it's tacky, so judging people who do give cards, chocs etc. As it is my Mum died on Valentines Day so I don't celebrate it for that reason, but don't judge people who do.

My partner buys me a plant and I get him a card. This year it says "you make me happier than a seagull who's stolen a chip"

We do plan to cook Jamie's beef wellington with spinach pancake but we've been meaning to cook it for ages.

Dh and I aren't bothered about it. Each to their own though. I have a friend who is expecting a proposal that I don't think will happen (dh is good friends with her boyfriend and is adamant it wont happen). I can see why people hate it - the pressure, the disappointment.

As the mother of a DC who works in a struggling restaurant, I'm pleased that Valentine's Day will give a boost to their income. Jan and Feb are tough months for retail and restaurants.
That said, I really hate eating out on Valentine's Day - I feel they pack the tables so close together that I'm having dinner with a group rather than my DH. And I dislike the factory feel of it.
But I do like getting a card and having a nice dinner at home.

It actually marks the death of St Valentine - he was decapitated - cheery.

We don’t buy gifts or cards but we’ll mark it. I think it’s nice.
Sometimes dh buys me chocolates.
We’ll just have a nice dinner and dessert. I’ve been looking at some nice Valentine’s Day cake ideas on YouTube. There are some amazing ones.
Dc will love it 😊 ❤️

I agree, sadly my boyfriend doesn’t so I’ve been persuaded to do this

www.nhm.ac.uk/events/valentines.html

YABU.

It's just a lovely day.

You don't need to buy anything or do anything. It's a chance to shine a light on a relationship - by simply telling the partner that they're still loved.

If that's not enough, then it's a chance to put aside some quality time together - go for a walk or make some tea together or watch a film.