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to think that valentines day is pointless

154 replies

ippdipdo · 08/02/2020 10:33

It only benefits the shops that sell all the gifts, flowers and cards doesn't it? I can't see the point in wasting money on it when it's surely the rest of the year that matters more?

Sometimes at work we see people getting stuff like bouquets of flowers delivered but who spend the rest of the year bemoaning how awful their wife/husband are.

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bingbangbing · 09/02/2020 14:46

I agree dear god, it's all about forced fun and conspicuous romance. Flowers delivered to the office type shite.

DearGod1 · 09/02/2020 14:46

It is

Pathetic flowers and chocolates being delivered to the office and the showing off that ensues

You lot get over yourselves ...Biscuit 🖕🏻

doublebarrellednurse · 09/02/2020 14:49

I like it. I think of it as an opportunity to spoil DH and us focus on each other rather than just life together itms

I don't see it much differently to Christmas / Hanukkah being a chance to get together with families

Porcupineinwaiting · 09/02/2020 14:50

I like it. Yes we are kind to each other day to day but it's rare for us to have an occasion to go out and celebrate, just the two of us, without kids/parents/friends in tow.

lynsey91 · 09/02/2020 14:50

@NameChangeNugget oh do piss off with your stupid pointless comments. Jealous that you don't get anything for Valentines?

lynsey91 · 09/02/2020 14:56

@bingbangbing so nice of you to enlighten us with your opinion of it being forced fun etc.

I have never had a bunch of flowers delivered to the office on Valentines or any other day. I think it is a bit of a pretentious thing to do any day of the year personally not just Valentines.

As I said before, but maybe you can't read properly, I don't post about it (except on this thread) or tell anyone what we have bought each other, where we are going, what we are doing etc. So how exactly is it conspicuous romance?

Are you all trying to outdo yourself in how loving you are all year but you make a big effort to do nothing on Valentines?

Of course this is mumsnet where if your OH phones you even once while away for any time you are needy

JacquesHammer · 09/02/2020 15:02

Jealous that you don't get anything for Valentines?

To be fair that’s just as pointless a comment. “You’re just jealous the moment anyone objects is such a lazy trope.

You’re happy doing stuff for Valentine’s Day. Why does it matter to you what other people think?

Zoey92 · 09/02/2020 15:02

We sort of celebrate but as alot of people in our own way.
We'll not go out to resturant/hotel plainly because they take the piss by upping the price.
OH always sends flowers (which i try not to have a go at him for because i know florists cash in on v-day) & i always cook a nice 3course meal, its not much but we like it.

Alsohuman · 09/02/2020 15:05

I got these from my bloke last week. They made me smile.

to think that valentines day is pointless
Prepenultimate · 09/02/2020 15:11

I've been widowed for 8 years now. I buy myself and my boys some chocolate for a nice treat.

bingbangbing · 09/02/2020 15:15

All that red and pink shite, all looks so visceral to me. Like a half done autopsy.

That's not romance, that's landfill.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 09/02/2020 15:16

@prepenultimate

I’m sorry for your loss. I think it’s nice that you celebrate the day with your boys.

My mum used to get me a heart something every Valentine’s Day, it’s been a long time since she’s done it , but the last one she got me was a keychain. I still use it 20 some years later.

Ginnyrellas · 09/02/2020 15:27

Myself and Hubby have never previously celebrated valentines day but this year we have decided to give it a go for the sakes of humour. we both got a £10 budget to spend on the naffest cheesiest Vom worthy gifts. I already can't wait to see what he's got me I assume he's stitched me right up.

Prepenultimate · 09/02/2020 15:32

Thanks @saltinesandcoffeecups , very kind of you to say so. I've learned that I can either feel sorry for myself and get nothing.... or I can just sort out what I want for myself! Same for birthdays and Christmas too. No point being a martyr.....

lollybee1 · 09/02/2020 15:33

Totally agree. So cringey. Fake affection.

bingbangbing · 09/02/2020 15:35

I have received two valentines cards in my life. One was anonymous and creeped me out, the second I'm pretty sure that his Mum bought for him.

Yuck

NameChangeNugget · 09/02/2020 15:35

Thank you for proving my point @lynsey91 Flowers

bingbangbing · 09/02/2020 15:36

Never met a man that did it with enthusiasm either.

That's why they invented steak and blowjob day

nameymcnamechangeagain · 09/02/2020 15:43

We always get each other cards and dp always buys me flowers, it doesn’t mean anything, we don’t go out, it’s not a big deal but sometimes just nice to have an excuse to consider each other a little? Not gonna lie I’ve gone all out this year. I’m missing my Christmas decorations and we have all of our children that day so im decorating and we’re having a family valentines meal, just an excuse to make time for each other and a bit of fun!!

Alsohuman · 09/02/2020 15:44

Fake affection

10/10 for the most gormless post on the thread.

bookmum08 · 09/02/2020 15:49

Ooh heart shaped crumpets! Yum.

lynsey91 · 09/02/2020 15:58

Why can't the posters who think it is all so silly, so pointless, so childish etc and tell us all that they show love ALL year just shut the fuck up.

If you don't want to celebrate Valentines then don't. Why is is necessary to belittle anyone that does celebrate it? The same things are said every year and I find the ridicule posts pathetic.

What are you all trying to prove with your "we don't need to be told when to show love" posts?

Me and DH have been very happily married for 40 years and are still very much in love. We like celebrating Valentines, our birthdays, Christmas, the day we met, our wedding anniversary. It doesn't mean we ignore each other the rest of the year, far from it.

We have no children but we give each other a card and small gift on Mothers and Fathers Day which is supposedly from our dogs. It's a bit of fun and, in our view, being nice to the other.

I bet living with some of you is a bundle of laughs

bingbangbing · 09/02/2020 16:02

Because this is a discussion forum.

Why so defensive anyway?

Valentines is either creepy or showing off. Never actually come across anything genuinely meaningful.

Do you do steak and blowjob day too?

I don't do that either.

JacquesHammer · 09/02/2020 16:03

Why can't the posters who think it is all so silly, so pointless, so childish etc and tell us all that they show love ALL year just shut the fuck up

Why can’t the posters who are going to get bizarrely angry at an internet post just ignore a fucking post that is very clear from the title what the content will be.

I’m very much getting the sense that some people doth protest too much. Are you trying to convince MN or yourself?

bookmum08 · 09/02/2020 16:10

bingbangbing showing off to who? I am going to make some cupcakes, probably buy some of those heart shaped crumpets and get my daughter a little Valentine's themed soft toy because she collects them. Who am I showing off too?