Friend said I was BU and rude.

[Crumpetsforthequeen]

Name changing as I don't know if she's on Mumsnet.

So last night I took dd6 to her club and when it was over I was waiting for my friend to arrive to pick up her ds who goes to the same club and was hoping to quickly organise an upcoming night out.

DD came up to me and was asking me a question when my friend turned up and without even a hello started talking over DD trying to sort out the night out. I politely said oh hi give me 2 seconds DD just asked me a question and I answered her question then turned to friend and sorry right let's organise I'm so excited for this night out!

Friend immediately got in a huff and told me I was really rude to her, she was talking to me and DD could wait and don't bother about the night out, grabbed her ds and stormed off, leaving me sat there bewildered at what just happened.

Was I rude? Totally prepared to be told I was but I have always believed if you're talking to someone already, no matter their age you respond before moving onto the next conversation unless its an emergency or relevant to the conversation? Was ibu or was she?

I've tried texting her to find out if she's ok and what's going on about the night out but I've heard nothing back.

She was rude!

Friend overreacted. Does she have form for being a drama llama?

Not usually which makes me think she was either having a really bad day or something happened and she wasn't ok, not that it excuses her behaviour.

She was rude! Don't feed the drama. Let her stew.

She was very rude. Yanbu.

She's rude. Bin her off.

Nope. You were not rude.

She's a bit of a knob.

She sounds like a self-important drama queen. Why would you want to go on a night out with her?

I would back off and become pretty cool towards her. Put distance between you unless she comes back with a proper apology. Or perhaps even if she does apologise.

Let her come back to you. Your DD started talking first so she had priority.

She was rude. Don’t text her, wait for her to apologise.

She sounds ridiculously rude!

(My Dad would do this. Just comes into a room where people are already talking and starts talking over everyone. Why?)

Friend was rude

She was rude to interrupt your dd. As pp said, leave her to stew.

I had a friend who I would be talking to and whenever her kid interrupted which was like 59369 gazillion times she would turn to her kid in the middle of me talking and have a conversation with her kid.

She would let say "sorry just a sec!" Or "hold on dd, let me just finish this conversation."

It was so fucking rude.

She was a nursery worker, so I think she valued every single thing her kid had to say or ask, which is great but surely everyone needs to learn not to interrupt a conversation?!

*she would never say

She was very rude.

She was rude and extremely presumptuous to tell you how to behave. Leave her to have a little think.

Absolutely rude! One of those people who thinks what she says to say is more important than what anyone else does

Hmm. Are you sure that's how it happened? I have a few friends, who I could be talking to, and if their child interrupts, they talk to the child and leave me hanging. Sooo many conversations just never conclude. I find it really irritating.

She was rude. Don’t chase her/apologise.

If she wasn’t aware DD6 were talking to you, I can see how she might have thought you were rude

If it happened as you described, then she was rude. But I'd be interested to hear her side of the story

@HuskyloverI yes it definitely happened like that, I'd stayed for the club, she didn't and from the angle she had walked over to us it was obvious DD was talking to me as she was mid question when friend started talking over her.

I think you guys are right, I'm gonna leave her to it, if she messages and apologizes then I'll take it from there but if not then I'm not chasing her.

No. She was rude.
People who wouldn't dream of interrupting an adult have no problem interrupting a child and it's not ok.