To be bothered by this comment re extended breastfeeding?

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Possibly being a bit sensitive but it has slightly changed how I view someone I considered a friend.

Met up with a mum friend i hadn't seen in awhile. General chat about how our kids were doing, sleeping, nursery etc

She asked how long I breastfed my son for, I answered truthfully that we stopped when he was two.

Her reply was well "it clearly didn't do him any harm!" And burst out laughing.

AIBU to find this a bit hurtful?

I'm basically your stereotypical sling-wearing hippy and she is more career driven

You see I think that comment could be viewed just the same by her, is it some veiled swipe putting her down, she could be hurt and ask what are you implying?

She may have really really struggled going back to work just as you really really struggled with breast feeding.

Works both ways.

You were way too over sensitive about this. Just looking for a reason to be offended. And you sound the judgy one really; not her. As others have said please don’t pigeon hole woman. I’m another who breast for extended periods (well beyond 2 years, for 2 of my 3 children), co-slept, wore a sling, but was/am very committed to my professional life and am ‘career driven’ if that is your choice of phrase. And surely she is a ‘friend’, not a ‘mum friend’.

That comment wouldn't bother me tbh and my youngest fed much longer than 2.

I think you are being oversensitive. What was the right thing you wanted her to say?

You're being over-sensitive - and trust me, there are far worse things people can say about extended breastfeeding (breastfed both of mine till they were 3.5).

Is your son fat?

I think it’s meant as a compliment.

YABU both to use the term Extended Breastfeeding and to be so judgemental of the other woman.

She's an idiot. There are so many health benefits to both you and your child for breastfeeding. You did the best thing you possibly could for your child and should feel very bloody proud. It's not easy! She's just clearly misinformed (or secretly jealous) so I'd take no notice unless she pulls this bitchy crap all the time, then I'd just drop her judgy ass as a friend!!

I am another thinking you're feeling sensitive.
Though lots of people do think it isn't necessary if the DC is eating a healthy balanced diet.

What's all this she's 'jealous'

How on Earth would you get to that explanation

Odd

I don't find it offensive. I was expecting something nasty from your thread title.

Just shows we all interpret comments differently.

If you fed him until he was 2, it wasn't extended breastfeeding (which is a rubbish term anyway).
She didn't say anything very bad, I think you're over sensitive about it.
Your stereotypes are far more offensive.

I breastfed my daughter until she was 2.5 ands this comment wouldn't bother me at all.

I think it's just people still aren't used to it and aren't aware that it's more common these days because many over ones only feed morning and night so it's not as visible as breastfeeding younger babies.

YANBU The fact that she found the answer two years something to laugh at is strange. Is there a joke Op and I'm missing?

Your comment stereotyping both of you was unecessary.

I take it to mean he looks very healthy!

I wouldnt be offended by it. In the uk the cultures been to breastfeed for 6 months old. Now many mums are starting to extend it which is great. She just used an old phrase to mean that it worked out fine. As in the scaremongerers can do one because your child is perfectly fine after being breast fed for longer than the cultural norm. Well done you, be proud.

We're all stereotypes to a certain degree- tho most of us pick and choose bits from the various approaches.

Pretending that we're all perfectly uniquely and original isn't either true or helpful.

Sounds like a perfectly innocent, friendly comment to me.

I find your stereotypes of the two of you far more offensive. Seems like you were looking to be insulted by this innocuous comment

It sounds like a supportive comment? She knows that mums get slack for extended breastfeeding and so she was saying it clearly did him no harm? It was just a throwaway comment... you need to work on your resilience or people will be afraid to open their mouth around you.

'Jealous'?!

What about her comment has suggested in any way that she's jealous?

Personally I can't think of anything I'd rather do less than breastfeed my child until it's 2, I certainly wouldn't be jealous of someone doing it.

I dunno, you were there so you know if it had a tone, and most of communication is the con verbals. Reading it here I would take it to mean he's thriving and it was clumsily put.