DH and I have been married for 3 years. We are going through a rough patch at the moment in the sense that I’m not feeling sexually attracted to him and haven’t been able to have sex with him for months. This has reached the point where DH is questioning our marriage. We are both early 30s. Recently I’ve started to think about how disgusting some of his habits are. Many of these have developed over the years as he’s become more comfortable in the marriage and I wonder whether this is what has caused the ‘spark’ to go for me. I’ve listed some of the worst below:
- loudly passing wind, often in the middle of me talking to him
- shitting in the en-suite with the door open, whilst I’m in the bedroom
- general laziness/procrastination around house, constantly having to have a ‘10 minute sit down’ (which is always much longer) or ‘quick relax’ before doing anything that needs doing
- not carrying any of the mental load
- pestering for sex on a daily basis (apparently he can’t help that I’m so gorgeous)
- groping me whilst I’m cooking (see explanation above)
- using the back of his hand to wipe food off his mouth after eating (kitchen roll is on the table!)
- loudly coughing up phlegm and spitting it out in the sink or during a shower then not washing it away properly
I’ve spoken to DH about these and he refuses to accept that his habits are anything other than normal behaviour and just part of living together. Personally I feel that they are disrespectful and not in the slightest bit sexy. According to DH, if I really loved him then none of his habits would put me off of making love to him. Interested to know whether you’d still feel attracted to your partner/DH if he exhibited any/all of the habits listed above?