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So worried please help, DS Mental Health Journey, Part 2 *title edited by MNHQ at OP's request*

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WhatNowFrantic · 04/02/2020 18:38

I got the last thread deleted as it became quite outing but the support on here has been such a help to me so I've started this thread.
So DS started AD at the weekend and is so far feeling awful, he's pale, pupils dilated, feels anxious and dizzy. I don't think he realises how ill he is.
He's off work so I'm hoping they start to kick in soon. I'm worried he's got too much time on his hands while he's off and don't want him sat thinking.
Of course it's all my fault at the moment as I dragged him to the GP and got him to have time off. He's just not in a good place right now.

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madmumofteens · 05/03/2020 18:46

Hope your son doing ok Frantic x

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WhatNowFrantic · 05/03/2020 19:57

He is doing ok thanks, he's continued with the second box, different brand, he does seem to have more nausea with them but otherwise ok. Could be a coincidence of course.
He has been doing a few 'private' jobs which is good.
He's still socialising and drinking too much at weekends. He's realised that the pills make the alcohol more intense. So has said he doesnt want to stay on the pills very long Confused

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madmumofteens · 05/03/2020 20:54

Glad to hear that he is doing ok and is picking up some work. I hope he continues to do well and that he cuts down the alcohol at the weekends kids eh 🙄 take good care of yourself OP 💐 xx

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WhatNowFrantic · 05/03/2020 20:58

Thankyou @madmumofteensFlowers

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WhatNowFrantic · 11/03/2020 21:10

Hi just thought I'd give an update; DS is still taking sertraline, 50mg, they seem to be helping. He's had abit of nausea but very little other side effects which is great. It's been almost 6 weeks now and he seems alot better.
I see more and more glimpses of my boy, we've had singing and laughing and conversation.
He's had 4 sessions with the psychotherapist and she says he doesn't need any more sessions right now.
I can't believe how far he's come, I'm under no illusion that it could all go wrong again but for now I'm optimistic.
He's still drinking too much at the weekend and still looking for a job but small steps.....

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Srictlybakeoff · 11/03/2020 23:32

That’s great news. Glad you are seeing an improvement. Hopefully it will just continue to get better from here

Wigglewaggle01 · 12/03/2020 09:22

I'm really glad things are looking a bit brighter for you OP and OP's son.

Without sounding flippant the better weather and a bit of sun will hopefully give a little boost too.

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WhatNowFrantic · 12/03/2020 12:43

Thankyou both, I didn't think we'd ever get here but thank goodness for antidepressants! I was scared of them to begin with as you hear such horror stories but they've most definately helped.
And you are right about the good weather, he's been out with the dog in the (limited) sunshine while he's off work.
There are a few rumours of works flying around so fingers crossed he gets and offer🤞

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dappledsunshine · 12/03/2020 15:06

Brilliant news! Onwards and upwards 👍

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WhatNowFrantic · 12/03/2020 16:01

ThankyouFlowers

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madmumofteens · 12/03/2020 19:48

Aww brilliant update so happy to hear your son is doing so well 🥰 xx

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WhatNowFrantic · 12/03/2020 20:18

Thankyou @madmumofteens 😊

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Whitegrenache · 13/03/2020 01:33

Fantastic update! And don't all young people drink too much at the weekend Grin

WhatHappenedThen · 13/03/2020 02:11

Only just seen this thread. I had posted on your last thread and was hoping things were going ok for you and your son. You sound like such a supportive and loving Mum.

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WhatNowFrantic · 13/03/2020 08:52

thank you all so much Flowers

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WhatNowFrantic · 13/03/2020 23:14

DS was so drunk tonight, when he txt to ask if I could pick him up he didn't know what pub he was in!Angry
Why do they do it??!

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madmumofteens · 14/03/2020 14:57

Oh Frantic I hope you managed to find out which pub he was in last night kids eh?? They are a law to themselves xx

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WhatNowFrantic · 14/03/2020 19:03

Yes I found him, his mate had to tell me where they were🙄
Mad thing is, he was up and in the shower by 8am this morning. He never gets a hangover!
No pub tonight tho, he's staying in for a Chinese with us which is lovely.

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WhatHappenedThen · 14/03/2020 19:28

Glad you found him. That's so annoying that he doesn't get a hangover 😅

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WhatNowFrantic · 14/03/2020 19:35

I knowConfused maybe if he got hangovers it might put him off a bit!
I've only got to have 2 glasses of wine and I feel rubbish🤣

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madmumofteens · 14/03/2020 21:20

Glad to hear you got him OP; maybe if he did suffer from hangovers he would moderate enjoy your night together x

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WhatNowFrantic · 14/03/2020 22:39

Thankyou, had a nice evening, had to collect the Chinese as they arnt delivering due to the virus! Watched some TV and he's back on Xbox/PlayStation whatever it is🤣
He said he needs to stop the AD as they make him get too drunk🤔🙄 I said how's about stopping the Alcohol, apparently that's not an option!
Happy that he stayed in tonight tho.

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madmumofteens · 15/03/2020 12:12

I'm glad he stayed in and you had a good night OP they don't listen do they at that age? Fingers crossed he will see sense and keep taking his meds xx

Blacktip · 15/03/2020 12:54

I have just read your thread and thought I’d share my story as it seems similar. DS1 attempted suicide at 19. There on followed a few years of him taking setraline, thinking he was better and then coming off them only to go downhill again. He drank alcohol throughout and despite me pointing out it wasn’t helping he continued to do so. He had sessions of CBT and psychotherapy which we paid for and did seem to help. Like you I am a great believer that Mums are only as happy as their least happy child. He was living away from home and I had a constant knot in my stomach when I couldn’t make contact with him. He had a job but I know he took a lot of sick leave and eventually he left his job and came home. With hindsight I wish he’d left it sooner so you have done the right thing in encouraging him to resign. Anyway he got another job but stayed at home and commuted. He continued with the setraline and took it properly with no breaks but was still drinking until he got so drunk that he did a stupid thing. That was the catalyst to stop drinking. He is now 25. Still on setraline but for the first time since taking it properly is talking about coming off it. Is back living in the city in his own flat with a good job. And I don’t have that constant knot in my stomach. You will get there but it’s a long, slow ride.

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WhatNowFrantic · 15/03/2020 22:55

@Blacktip Thankyou for sharing your story, it sounds familiar to ours.
A bit worrying about your son drinking and doing something silly. This is still always in the back of my mind. I hope my DS realises that he has to cut back on the booze! Saying that tho, he didn't go out yesterday or today.
He seemed quite worried that Ireland have closed their pubs and what will happen if the UK follow🤣
I totally get that knot in the stomach! it's horrible. I'm glad your son is in a better place nowFlowers

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