To think that this is not the act of a decent person?

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Name change for obvious reasons.

I was looking at pictures of my kids on DH's phone yesterday when I came across a photo of an overweight woman wearing leggings. He'd clearly taken the picture secretly as she was minding her own business walking in front of him towards the station, he must've have the picture on his way to work.
He has form for this and I know he would have sent the picture along with a nasty comment about weight to a friend whom he regularly sends/receives porn to/from and other sexist memes/jokes. I have a real problem with this but he claims it just male banter and I'm being uptight. I just feel this behaviour crosses the line and is damn right nasty!

I’d be so embarrassed if it was my DH.

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’Banter' is taking the mick out of each other.
As soon as you start mentioning an uninvolved third person=bullying.-
^ please read this @Butterflyflower1234 @BigusBumus @Greggers2017 and raise your standards.

No my partner wouldn't take things like that but he is in plenty watsapp groups where people post pictures and memes that some people may find offensive. He often doesn't respond but what one person may find funny another may find offensive. It's the same for everything in life.

My youngest brother has Down Syndrome, I don't find jokes about disabled people funny but if I saw someone making a joke out of it. I'd roll my eyes and carry on with my day.

My youngest brother has Down Syndrome, I don't find jokes about disabled people funny but if I saw someone making a joke out of it. I'd roll my eyes and carry on with my day.

What if you were married to the person making the joke? Would you just roll your eyes then, or would you be wondering about the person you married?

Do you know that he took the photo? My whatsapp saves sent photos to my camera roll as if I had taken them. If someone else sent them to him that doesn’t mean he is ok with it.

@Vanhi if it was in a group chat with his mates I wouldn't know because I dont snoop on his phone but I doubt he would to be honest.
The OP doesn't know if what her husband said about the photo so she doesn't know or have proof of the context of the picture

My youngest brother has Down Syndrome, I don't find jokes about disabled people funny but if I saw someone making a joke out of it. I'd roll my eyes and carry on with my day.
Any day now would be a great time to start standing up for people who can’t stand up for themselves.

I'd go fucking mental with anyone who made fun of anyone with any sort of disability be in physical mental or learning. I work with people who have all but even if I didn't I wouldn't tolerate it. Disgusting.

Whenever people say “it’s only banter” I guarantee that it is always something really lame, hurtful, not in the least bit funny attempt at jokes.

If you think this is what constitutes a funny thing, you need to up your game. How you would feel if someone took a photo of your tiny brain and passed it round, look at this idiots ridiculously tiny and useless brain, hahahahaha top bantz mate.

God and they say women are bitches. This is really cruel, spiteful behaviour. Slagging off and humiliating innocent people going about their everyday business is not banter fgs! You are married to an immature, sexist idiot. I should really feel sorry for you but, unless it was an arranged marriage, you did chose him, so I will save my pity for that poor woman and other unsuspecting victims of your delightful husband's 'banter.'

@Butterflyflower1234 no we haven't all done something similar in the slightest.

I'm the farthest thing from an angel and relatively proud of that fact but there is a limit and a difference form being an angel to being the kind of person that is so pathetic that they have to mock others to get any form of attention.

Neither my DP or my Exdh (that should tell you something....I'm divorcing him and he still wouldn't be such an asshole) hate people who do things like the OP states.

Not to mention , if you find things like this funny , if I were you I would hope and pray you and your fiancee look like supermodels because how do you know someone wont do it back to you?

OP I'd be furious, it's a nasty horrible thing to do.

I hate people that do things like this , a while ago in a work setting some colleagues were laughing at something similar, I voiced how angry I was and the response came " Why do you care , you are tiny , it's not like you are like her" I have to say I saw red and pulled all of them up on it (i was in a senior position). Theres no bloody need for it , and why the actual ^%%& do people believe any woman with a brain is going to agree and join in taking the mick is totally beyond me.

We need a new acronym. DHHARF: Does he have any redeeming features?