Partner hit me with a pillow this morning in anger

[Milosunshine]

I’m aware a pillow isn’t the worst thing you can throw at someone however my partner has gone into an angry outburst because I haven’t made his breakfast this morning. For the past 2 years I have created a rod for my own back and woken up at 5am (2 and half hours before I am due to leave for work) and made his breakfast and lunch. I mentioned last week I was getting tired so at the end of last week he let me lie in. This morning he is infuriated and said it was one off. Just venting really as I feel so emotional and guilty 😞

Good luck OP.

It’s fantastic that your work are supportive and you’re absolutely doing the right thing.

Well done!! You’ve just made one of the best decisions for your life.

So glad you've taken that first step. You are a brave woman. Your deputy head sounds ace today. A new life is waiting for you.

Also sending hugs and a huge “Well done!” to you, for finally accepting the reality of this abuse and getting yourself away from it.
Don’t be lured back, either- he might put on an act of crying and begging, or promising to change, but it will all be bullshit designed to get you back into his control again. Stay strong. Focus on how much better and less exhausting your life will be from now on, without that bastard dragging you down.
My prayers and best wishes for a very happy future.

Good luck and well done. Keep going. It's going to be hard.

Well done, stay strong xx

Well done OP

NettleTea I am appalled. Your poor MIL and what a vile man your FIL is.

Well done OP. That was incredibly brave and a wonderful first step. Keep strong girl.

You are amazing OP. By seeking help and going to your cousin's you have shown that you are a brave and courageous woman who deserves so much better that what he is offering you.

Stay strong OP, you can and need to do this, you deserve better

Well done OP.

Yours is the story of what a life looks like at the beginning of a life of domestic abuse.

When people wonder how it started, it's stories like yours.

Then children come along and the abuser has more and more💐💐 control and another generation of children have the legacy of DV to live with.

You have the power by doing what you have done this morning to

CHANGE YOUR STORY and LEGACY.
💐💐

Well done for opening up and taking the support when it was offered. I echo the PP who advises not to be in the house when your partner gets home from work.

Take all your important paperwork with you - birth certificate, driving licence, passport etc.

Someone may hopefully be able to post a list of key things to pack.

@Milosunshine Glad to read your Update. You deserve better than to be treated that way. I hope you can stay strong and follow through with it, imagine if you had a daughter with this man, you would be showing her that's how relationships work (or teaching a son that that's how women should be treated) Keep that at the front of your mind and best of luck to you

I was with a man, 2 years we were together before he pushed me into the bed. 12 years I stayed with him and in those years it went from pushing me to stabbing in the face with a screwdriver and everything in between. I ended up with 2 children and fearing for my life. Please leave it will escalate

Gosh I'm delighted for you OP. Stay strong. You'll be tested over the coming months. Just remember you deserve better and why you've done this. You say you love him but you don't love the way he treats you. Remember that.

Well done, you are doing the right thing.

Just remember you’re better than that, he doesn’t get to treat you like shit. Someone who loved you, genuinely loved you wouldn’t treat you like that.

You've done the right thing. This is emotional, verbal amd physical abuse. Best wishes for your new life. Please don't let him win you back.

Well done OP.
Don't let him talk you into going back to him.
He is dangerous.

Another person cheering you on, OP! You have no idea how strong you are...the first step is so hard. He will test your resolve, you will be tempted, but as pp have said, he will not change.
I'm so glad you have supportive colleagues, and a family member to go to. Keep talking, and stay fucking angry...no one who loves you should ever treat you like that. 💐

Someone who loves you wouldn't be so horrible to you.

My advice is the same as everyone else's.

Get out as soon as you can. You are worth much more than this.

OP what a brave and strong woman you are! Best of luck with everything

Ah - just read your update (my post didn't post when I wrote it..)

Good news then.

Stay strong. It will be so worth it.

You have done the right thing OP. There are so many nice men out there. I have been with my dh for 29 years. He’s never called me a name, never raised a hand to me. Did 50:50 housework when I was working.

You deserve that. Your ( hopefully soon to be) ex is a nasty selfish abusive twat. Please don’t subject yourself to a lifetime of being his handservant in fear of him calling you names and throwing things at you in a tantrum.

If he begs forgiveness then just think why he wasn’t sorry when you texted him? Be strong

Jesus. This man has issues and is seriously entitled to your time and labour. He has absolutely NO right to hit you and you should not feel guilty for not making his breakfast and being his domestic slave.

As others have said, do the freedom programme. This creep has brainwashed you into shame and servitude. Get free now.