He said his best friend’s wife was more attractive than me.

[WTAFFF]

My DP said today that his best friend’s wife was better looking and more attractive than me. I didn’t ask him this question.

He can’t understand why I might find this a bit hurtful. AIBU?

What a prick. I hope you're dumping him asap OP?

I understand why it's hurtful.

You asked and he answered!

He's an absolute tosser.
He's got no respect for you at all. Tell him to fuck off to the far side of fuckery and take his weeny weener with him

I would tell him to F off . Asshole

Your husband is a right twat

He sounds like my ex. I am a lot happier and confident without him!

Why have you been putting up with a pattern of hurtful behaviour from him?

Why do people ask questions like this then get annoyed when their partner tells the truth or something they didn’t want to hear? You’re just setting yourself up for failure. It’s a stupid thing to ask.

Yes. You asked him something directly. He either had to lie or be honest.
You need to decide whether you want someone who will lie and make you feel better, or someone you can trust to be honest with you.

Don't ask unnecessary questions that you might not like the answer to.

What did he rank you as, previously?

That would be the end if he said that! I just asked my fiance and he said that was awful and he would never say anything like that but added in his opinion the person you are with should be the most attractive person in the world to you.

Ranking women generally, makes him a twat OP, and saying so was rude- BUT at the same time i find it impossible to believe that everybody actually thinks their own partner is objectively always the best looking- obviously the majority of us are hardly awaiting a call from a modelling agency are we ( and that is fine). I love and fancy my DP but there are plenty of hotter men in the world and some of my friends DP's are objectively better looking i'm sure. What does it really matter? Most normal people are not with their partner literally only for looks. We can find other people attractive.

Is this acquaintance actually very attractive? Not sure what sense there is in pretending she isn't, if not. Obviously it's rude to say in an unsolicited way that another woman is 'more attractive' but it sounds like you asked him. Would you rather he lied then?

He replied do I disagree and that she is much more attractive than me.

Does he disagree he’s more wankier than average?

Rating women is grim. It’s a vile school boy trait that you’d hope an adult male would have grown out of.

Tell him he gets a 10/10 for being single.

My answer to that would be bye then and try your luck with her.

Mrfartpants I have never ranked a man out of ten for their looks. Nor have I heard any women do this. I think it's primarily a male thing.

And anyway, for me attractiveness is not just about looks. Someone can be beautiful/handsome but not really attractive because they are boring or unpleasant.

I would have asked too as he’d already marked you and was giving this woman a higher mark, why wouldn’t you ask?

He sounds like a ‘lad’ - in other words hasn’t grown up about how to be respectful. You can either measure him up with other men in the next few weeks. Put up posters of sexy fireman in your bedroom. And watch ‘magic mike’ every night. Until he apologizes.

Or you can get counseling.

How old is he?!
Tbh I wouldnt want to be with someone who thought about women in those terms, end of.
Unless you are both 17.

Wow, he's not much of a "D" P. I'd lose him.

he scores 10 out of 10 for being a "tosser" "male chauvinist pig"

YABU for actually sharing a bed with such a despicable piece of pig-ignorant shit. Ranking women out of 10? There are men out there who actually do that, and do it in front of their girlfriends?
Yuck yuck yuck yuck yuck. Dump his minging arse pronto Op - I’ve never used this phrase before but “when someone shows you who they are, believe them”!

unless you are 110% ranked the best looking woman in the whole world(how you do this i have no idea) then every woman could be better looking than you in some way.but to the persn that love you you should be the best looking because you look at them and see beauty noone else can because your seeing heart,soul,looks,everything.your seeing the sticky out teeth as gorgeous or the mole on their chin.its part and only part of what makes them the best.and when you know someones personality that makes a sheen over them thats the most gorgeous.

Hmmm, 97% MNetters surveyed rank your OH as the pits.

The kind of man who gives women "grades" on their attractiveness (and apparently frequently discusses this with others) is, quite honestly, a very crappy sort of man to begin with. I think I'd tell him that upon consideration, you've decided that his personality is a 1/10, and you deserve better.

Hmm so basically he previously ranked you lower, which isn't hard versus a nine out of ten, was talking to a mate about how attractive his friends partner was, you jumped in to ask if he thought she was more attractive than you, he declined to respond but asked if you thought you were more attractive than her and now you're all upset?

Alright. Firstly ranking people in terms of attractiveness is shit. But don't bloody ask the question if you don't want to know the answer. Which he didn't even give. What were you looking for, him to tell you you were more attractive than her?

Honestly it's all so immature.

Op when he ranked you did you rank him? And what numbers did you give each other?

He didn’t actually say that though. He let slip that he thinks she’s more attractive and you cornered him into what he said. Obviously it’s still not nice but it’s not quite the same as a flat ‘Friend’s wife is more attractive than you.’