He said his best friend’s wife was more attractive than me.

[WTAFFF]

My DP said today that his best friend’s wife was better looking and more attractive than me. I didn’t ask him this question.

He can’t understand why I might find this a bit hurtful. AIBU?

Tell him that his mate's penis is bigger.

I think in this context it's not great but it's thoughtless rather than malicious

I think in ANY context this revolting talk of "ranking" women is malicious. WTAFFF - your DP is a shallow, arrogant twat, & you deserve to be valued for your intrinsic qualities & unique "you-ness."
Are you able to LTB, with a resounding "I ranked the attractiveness of your personality, & sadly your score is too low to be viable." ?

I simply could not tolerate this, in any man - partner or mate. I don't tolerate it from women, either. What a poisonous load of old baloney.

Sorry he is too shallow to deserve you OP -

Maybe the OP asked to be ranked once? Lots of conclusions being jumped to here. And of course, women never rank guys do they

It is dreadful he had been scoring women in front of you, it is disrespectful to you but also to his friend’s wife.

Now asking the question “so you think Jane is more attractive than me’?” is totally unreasonable unless you are using it a preamble for sending him packing.

Why did you stay with him even a minute after he ranked you?
What a shit, I would be ranked men all over the town, random walks past, “oh he’s a 9... you? You are about a 3.

He's ranked you lower?

Well he sounds like a fucking zero so tell him where to stick his 'ranking'

He has previously ‘ranked’ me much lower.

Yeah, negging you to keep you in thrall.
Nice.
You know you're not contractually obliged to accept his wanking ranking system, don'tcha? Gordon Bennett. Ditch. Life is far too short to waste it playing the "pick me dance" to prop up some arsehole's ego.

@iklboo 😂😂

Men who "rate" women like that are delusional entitled pricks: who makes them the arbiter of beauty? It's horribly sexist, and, to be honest, risible: are we supposed to fall at their sweaty feet in gratitude that they have deemed us acceptable?

I'd bin him for being one of 'those' men alone. Him being so crass and lacking in sensitivity is just the icing on the turd.

Well I wouldn't want to be with a ranker wanker tbh.

But I know that lots of women are more attractive than me & it wouldn't bother me if my husband said so if I asked.

@iklboo or rank the mates penis!

I have sent him home. I often think of some of the things he has said/done to me and think I wouldn’t do or say those things to him in a million years. So either he lacks empathy or he’s doing and saying these things deliberately. Neither are great traits if I’m honest.

The fact he is even ranking women is a red flag. Arrogant prick.

And of course, women never rank guys do they

Not sure about you @MrFartPants, but I don't, & nor do any of my women friends.

I know this is extreme but another group of people who ranked people in terms of attractiveness/ usefulness and gave them numbers were the nazis. Ever since I made this comparison in my head I stay clear of anyone who assigns a number to another human being.

Yanb unreasonable to be upset that you have a pig of a partner who ranks you and women you know out of 10.

YABU to ask him to compare you to other women and then be upset at the answer. I do not believe that physical attractiveness is entirely in the eye of the beholder.

Are you with Henry Cavill? If not he can fuck right off! Even then Henry wouldn't be such a dick.

He is vile OP.. and certainly does not respect you .. your relationship.. or your family unit... I am so sorry you have chosen to commit yourself to such a disgusting man.

Who the hell does he think he is 'ranking' you like that. He's a twat. Find a normal decent fella.

What a wanker..bin him and then pull his more "attractive" mate..

Op he is trying to undermine you and make you insecure most likely down to his OWN insecurities. It seems you don't live with him or have children. I urge you to strongly consider leaving this man.

Marking women out of 10? What a fucking nobend. Can you get rid of him?