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Original poster

To have left friends wedding after ceremony and not gone to reception - FUMING!!

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Hannie55 · 01/09/2007 19:05

The ceremony was fabulous. Everyone was happy. I went to congratulate friend and new husband afterwards and she looked me up and down, wrinkled her nose and said "nice dress" in a really sarky tone.
I felt so embarassed as other people noticed. She can be blunt sometimes but has never made me feel like this. I am so angry.
I didnt want to make a scene or even let her know I was angry, I just pretended not to have noticed her tone, made my excuses and walked to speak to some other people.
I maid a snap decision (after two other people mentioned that they had saw the incident)that I would not be going to the reception.
I didn't see my friend but have asked mutual friends not to mention anything but if she notices my absence to say that I had to leave as DD was unwell. Not big or brave I know.
Did I do the wrong thing?

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3andnomore · 01/09/2007 19:24

If you and your friends wore similar style dresses...then I think more and more that maybe there was nothing inapprorpiate about it...could it be, that your firend is envious of you? I. e are you naturally more pretty then her, have a better figure...for her to feel the need to be bitchy?

Original poster
Hannie55 · 01/09/2007 19:25

Off out now for meal with DH to cheer myself up!!
Thnks for comments so far guys. big breath, okay here it is www.revolutionclubwear.co.uk/product-detail.php?pid=194
by for now.

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grouchyoscar · 01/09/2007 19:25

Unless you turned up in a shell suit or fetish gear it was just an inappropriate thing to say.

More I think about it the more I think she was BU

lionheart · 01/09/2007 19:26

Hannie, it's her problem--her behaviour was ugly.

kitsandbits · 01/09/2007 19:26

uhhhhh, you wore THAT?

seriously??

tiredemma · 01/09/2007 19:26

what colour was it?

themildmanneredjanitor · 01/09/2007 19:26

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NAB3 · 01/09/2007 19:27

TBH IMO a little revealing for a wedding but still a nice dress in the right circumstances. Sorry.

grouchyoscar · 01/09/2007 19:27

Hell, that's a great dress. You must have a fantastic figure to carry that off.

Maybe she was jealous

dissle · 01/09/2007 19:27

erm, really?

still wouldnt comment.

really???

smeeinit · 01/09/2007 19:27

you were wearing this wernt you?!!!

tiredemma · 01/09/2007 19:27

its not for me- but if you have a nice toned figure i dont see why not.
unless you have flab hanging out

kitsandbits · 01/09/2007 19:27

its totally innapropriate for a wedding, im not surprised she commented

this is a wind up - surely??

lou33 · 01/09/2007 19:29

i agree it isnt right for a wedding

i am guessing she felt upstaged by you, it is a bit of a showstopper

3andnomore · 01/09/2007 19:29

Lol, well, not the kidn of dress I would choose for a wedding...but you say you and your friends all wore that sort of style...so I assume your friend that got married would wear somehting like that, too? Usually....
wouldn't say inappropriate, as such, but possibly more appropriate for the reception part then the church one....

tiredemma · 01/09/2007 19:29

yes but kits- if there were other people there dressed in similar attire?

smeeinit · 01/09/2007 19:29

oh! erm,its not really wedding attire is it? would look gr8 for a night out though!

Isababel · 01/09/2007 19:29

erm... hmm..mmh

Lets get a good bonfire and forget about the incident! shall we?

I would have chosen something different but I still believe that it was not nice of her to be mean to you

Sobernow · 01/09/2007 19:30

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tiredemma · 01/09/2007 19:30

I want to know if it was in the UV pink or UV orange or UV yellow

themildmanneredjanitor · 01/09/2007 19:30

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Original poster
Hannie55 · 01/09/2007 19:30

I feel a bit better already. Sorry!!
Of coujrse i wore something alltogether more respectable!!
You all are so sweet though. Ok definitely off now.

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LucyJones · 01/09/2007 19:30

tbh wearing a dress like that I would expect comments
were other friends imialrly dressed?
Maybe she thought you were trying to upastage her?

tiredemma · 01/09/2007 19:30

TEASE!

LIZS · 01/09/2007 19:31

nooo !! Sorry but that isn't really a wedding outfit. Could you nto ahve made a point, come home and changed for the reception ?