It’s rude to take one look at the dinner I have cooked then get lots of condiments for it.

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I spend time preparing a meal that is tasty and balanced, H takes one look at it, doesn’t taste it or anything, just gets his collection of condiments from the fridge and smothers his dinner.
We are talking things like truffle mayo ( he is a bit wanky with his condiment collection) so things that will fundamentally change the flavour of the meal. And no, I didn’t make fish and chips. ketchup or mayo, not both, would be acceptable in that case.
I think it’s unbelievably rude of him, he thinks it’s perfectly fine.

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Does it make you feel good to be so hateful to a complete stranger?Do you teach your children to treat others that way??

I think not only is he having an affair he's probably into some kind of hardcore fetish and might also have a gambling addiction.

Truffle Mayo is a dead give away of a pron addict

porn even

unfortunately I can see 2 sides to the argument on this one..
You cooked him something and so you want him to like it, but at the same point , are you a michelin star'd chef who has correctly balanced the dish and poured decades of experience into it?
I get annoyed if people do that with salt and pepper, because they haven't tasted it, so don't know how much salt I had added, but it's them who will end up buggering up their blood pressure, not me.

Did he ask you to cook that particular dish? Maybe he doesn’t like it so he found a way to make it more appealing to himself. Maybe he is a condiments obsessed person and uses sauces on everything - so what?

I bet condiment porn is a thing (not going to google it though )

You don't have to be a Michelin starred chef to be a good cook, who correctly seasons food at the time of cooking.

I bet condiment porn is a thing (not going to google it though blush)

I was curious, Yes it is

I bet condiment porn is a thing (not going to google it though blush)

I was curious, Yes it is

Saucy

I was curious, Yes it is

Haha, thanks for taking that. I’m on my phone, which is a work one, so I thought it unwise.

'You don't have to be a Michelin starred chef to be a good cook, who correctly seasons food at the time of cooking.'

There is no such thing as 'correctly seasoning food'; you can do it wildly wrong, of course; but within broad limits, it's a matter of taste. In restaurants and cafes, condiments are usually made available, and people can add them or not, as they choose.

@Mitel1 The only affair her husband is having is with his condiments.
Two's up with the ketchup.
Bukkake with the mayo.
Chilling with the chilli.
Threesome with the rest.
It's the start of a slippery slope, I tell thee.

Of course it's a matter of taste. And if people have completely deadened their palate by excessive use of salt, pepper, and sauces, then they're not going to enjoy a meal that is perfectly well seasoned for someone who has not.

So you might as well not bother going to any effort seasoning food, or really, in cooking food for them. Give 'em boiled mince without seasoning, and a couple of boiled spuds without salt, and let 'em rip.

No sense in wasting the time or the energy.

'Because if it’s ok to do it at home because he should be able to add whatever he wants to his food and it isn’t rude in the slightest, presumably it’s also not rude to do it at someone else’s house?'

No, you should be able to be comfortable at home! At someone else's house, you're not at home, so you have to be more formal in your manners. You can go around in pyjamas at home, for example, but it would be inappropriate to turn up in pyjamas at someone else's house.

But at a restaurant or cafe, whle it would be inappropriate to turn up in pyjamas, it would be fine to add condiments to your food!

The only criticism that I would make of the OP's dh is that perhaps he should occasionally cook the meals himself, and not expect his wife always to do it. Otherwise, he should be allowed to use whatever condiments he wants, so long as he doesn't insist that others should do so as well.

And if people have completely deadened their palate by excessive use of salt, pepper, and sauces, then they're not going to enjoy a meal that is perfectly well seasoned for someone who has not.

Equally, some people like their food on the bland side. Which will be too plain for others.

There’s no ‘right’ here.

For me, if everyone enjoys the meal, despite their differing palates, as it was seasoned while cooking, then that's 'right'.

To add to that, if everyone bar one person enjoys it as it was plated up, then the person that felt the need to smother it in sauce is not going to be taken as the key arbiter of the meal!

For me, if everyone enjoys the meal, despite their differing palates, as it was seasoned while cooking, then that's 'right'.

In this instance, everyone didn’t (without ‘help’)

I thought it was just OP and her DH?

I was speaking in general, rather than specifically pertaining to the OP and her DH.

If the best chef in the world cooked my meal, I'd probably still add condiments. It's just what I like, not a reflection of the chef's abilities. I didn't realise condiment shaming was a thing

No sense in wasting the time or the energy.

This is it for me - why did I bother spending the time cooking something nice for the other person not to even try what I've cooked? I'd be perfectly happy with marmite on toast and a cup of tea, or tuna & tomato salad but I'd bet they'd get huffy that that's "not a proper meal".

I mean, unless he's smothering everything with ketchup, it's not that big a deal. I'd say there are much bigger things on life to contemplate

he is a bit wanky with his condiment collection

😂 That has made my day

People like their food how they like it.

Better they smother it before they have tasted it than after they have tasted it and decide it isn't good enough.

I'm not sure why people take this sort of thing so personally. Why do his tastebuds bother you so much?