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It’s rude to take one look at the dinner I have cooked then get lots of condiments for it.

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Wasail · 29/01/2020 22:32

I spend time preparing a meal that is tasty and balanced, H takes one look at it, doesn’t taste it or anything, just gets his collection of condiments from the fridge and smothers his dinner.
We are talking things like truffle mayo ( he is a bit wanky with his condiment collection) so things that will fundamentally change the flavour of the meal. And no, I didn’t make fish and chips. ketchup or mayo, not both, would be acceptable in that case.
I think it’s unbelievably rude of him, he thinks it’s perfectly fine.

OP posts:
FamilyOfAliens · 30/01/2020 14:17

All those posters who think it’s fine to add three different shop-bought sauces to a home-cooked dinner, would you think it perfectly ok to do the same when eating bc at a friend’s? Because if it’s ok to do it at home because he should be able to add whatever he wants to his food and it isn’t rude in the slightest, presumably it’s also not rude to do it at someone else’s house?

Maybe give it a try next time you’re at a dinner party, OP? Wink

LaurieMarlow · 30/01/2020 14:21

Agree . No such thing as "dated" food. You either like it or you don't.

As the poster in question, I never liked it and was pleased when it stopped being served up.

However it was an unnecessarily mean comment and I apologise for it.

HomeMadeMadness · 30/01/2020 14:21

@FamilyOfAliens

Surely you can tell the difference between the level of formality required at a dinner party and when eating at home every day of the week?

At a dinner party I'd eat food I didn't particularly lake and tell the host how wonderful it was. I wouldn't be prepared to do that every evening when I'm relaxing in my own home.

HomeMadeMadness · 30/01/2020 14:22

*like

Gogolego · 30/01/2020 14:23

Depends on the meal but in general yabu.

LagunaBubbles · 30/01/2020 14:23

All those posters who think it’s fine to add three different shop-bought sauces to a home-cooked dinner, would you think it perfectly ok to do the same when eating bc at a friend’s?

Of course, but I have friends that I spend time with because I enjoy their company and vice versa, including over meals, so they can put wherever they like on their food, it's theirs to eat.

but maybe some acknowledgement of her effort wouldn't go amiss

I do all the cooking on my house, DH does all the washing and ironing. I don't need him to "acknowledge my efforts" making dinner just as I don't acknowledge his when he deals with our boys school uniforms! Why would you, it's not a cooking competition.

Gogolego · 30/01/2020 14:24

Posted too soon. I like tomato ketchup with shepherds pie for instance. I tend to have it with any meal involving mash potatoes

AryaStarkWolf · 30/01/2020 14:25

All those posters who think it’s fine to add three different shop-bought sauces to a home-cooked dinner, would you think it perfectly ok to do the same when eating bc at a friend’s? Because if it’s ok to do it at home because he should be able to add whatever he wants to his food and it isn’t rude in the slightest, presumably it’s also not rude to do it at someone else’s house?

I'm a salt adder and yeah I add salt wherever I go........

PearTreeParty · 30/01/2020 14:26

OP YANBU

My DH is from a Mediterranean country. He squeezes fucking lemon juice all over EVERYTHING before he has even tasted it. Everything.

And if the dish is remotely Middle Eastern/Asian, it gets drowned in hot sauce/chili sauce/reggae fucking reggae sauce - before he has lifted a fork to his mouth.

I lost my shit once when his stupid lemon sprayed my 'completely and utterly non lemon requiring roast dinner. He is more careful with his squeezing now but just as active. It is rude. It is dismissing the tastiness of something you have created without even trying.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 30/01/2020 14:27

All those posters who think it’s fine to add three different shop-bought sauces to a home-cooked dinner, would you think it perfectly ok to do the same when eating bc at a friend’s?

Of course, I do not base my friendships on what condiments they use Confused

GlummyMcGlummerson · 30/01/2020 14:28

Do people REALLY think less of their friends because of the condiments they use 😂😂 or are afraid to ask friends for condiments so they don't appear "rude". If so you need better friends

Original poster
Wasail · 30/01/2020 14:29

Thanks for the apology LaurieMarlow I’ll add some Samphire to it next time in an effort to bring it into the 21st century Grin

OP posts:
Waterandlemonjuice · 30/01/2020 14:29

TLDR but Omg, over 300 posts on condiments 😂

LaurieMarlow · 30/01/2020 14:31

I’ll add some Samphire to it next time in an effort to bring it into the 21st century

Good idea Wink

AryaStarkWolf · 30/01/2020 14:32

TLDR but Omg, over 300 posts on condiments

You honestly should read it, someone literally said that it may be a sign that he's having an affair.........using condiments on his dinner.....I shit you not Grin

ZeroFuchsGiven · 30/01/2020 14:34

TLDR but Omg, over 300 posts on condiments

You really should! its batshit Grin

KrisAkabusi · 30/01/2020 14:44

I lost my shit once when his stupid lemon sprayed my 'completely and utterly non lemon requiring roast dinner. He is more careful with his squeezing now but just as active. It is rude. It is dismissing the tastiness of something you have created without even trying.

It's not rude. He grew up used to, and presumably liking, the flavour of lemon. It's no different to English people adding salt. Why shouldn't he be able to eat it if he wants without you shouting at him? That's what's rude!

Jaxhog · 30/01/2020 14:50

If he doesn't at least taste it first, then, of course, it's rude. Otherwise, it suggests that he doesn't like what you cook for him perhaps?

Throwaway2020 · 30/01/2020 14:51

Maybe you're just a shit cook?
Or maybe he just really likes horseradish with fish..
Get over it.
Or make him cook.

LaurieMarlow · 30/01/2020 14:51

You honestly should read it, someone literally said that it may be a sign that he's having an affair.

For that alone it should be in classics.

Skyejuly · 30/01/2020 14:53

I never taste first! I honestly do not care what people do or don't add. I can't say I care.

ClappyFlappy · 30/01/2020 14:53

I know what you mean. I don’t think I have ever cooked something which my husband hasn’t tinkered with in some way before eating it. I find it incredibly annoying.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 30/01/2020 15:06

I would be wondering if there is any other reason why he is adding all of these extra flavours? It is insulting, but there may be more behind it.
A good friend of mine complained about the same thing, and it turned out that he had been cheating on her (cliché, but with a younger, slimmer woman).

So he's not got a niggling for horseradish, he's cheating.

Hahahahaha hahahaha

Hahahahahahaha

Hahahahaha

I love MN

m00rfarm · 30/01/2020 15:09

Mine does this and it annoys me that he changes the taste before he actually tries it. So when he thought I had made a bolognaise and added chilli sauce to it, he did not realise I had actually made a REALLY hot chilli and disguised it as bolognaise - so when he tried to eat it, I could see the extra chilli sauce effect was nearly making his eyes fall out ... but he said nothing ... and now tastes before he adds condiments. And now often does not add condiments where before he would.

HomeMadeMadness · 30/01/2020 15:10

You honestly should read it, someone literally said that it may be a sign that he's having an affair

I think not only is he having an affair he's probably into some kind of hardcore fetish and might also have a gambling addiction.