To keep my married name after divorce?

[Lifeonmars77]

Truth be known I just can't be arsed with the hassle of changing it back everywhere at the moment, explaining to the DC why mummy has changed her name etc. Plus my maiden name is two more syllables and has to be spelt out EVERY time, whereas my married name is a lot simpler and shorter. It's been a very messy breakup from a controlling narcissistic bully and my keeping his family name would infuriate him and his toxic witch of a mother (not that that would be the main reason as I'm not quite that petty )

I'd probably consider changing it one day when I can be arsed and when the children are older but at the moment my family think I'm nuts... they way they are carrying on, you'd think I was changing it to Hitler, Trump or Weinstein!

I would keep married name for now so you have same name as your children...

This is a common scenario, I assume you want to keep the same name as your children also. Changing your name back to your single name is a pain and not necessary

I did.

It really annoyed my ex-husband - so that made it an even better decision.

There was literally nothing he could do about it.

Not planning on changing mine unless I remarry, then I would obviously. Did change to Ms though in the last few weeks

I couldn't wait to change mine back, I did it by deed poll as soon as we split up. I also changed my DD's (age 8) to double barrelled too.

(DD wanted to, I wouldn't have forced it on her!)

I kept mine, was much nicer than the one I had before.

Would be the same for me.

His family are well known in the local area and the fact I've called him out publicly and through the courts on his abusive behaviour has begun to bring the family name into question.

They would hate it if I was still associated with their name! I guess I am more of a black hearted petty bitch than I thought

A relative who changed their name back after divorce said if she ever broke up with her second husband, she'd keep his name as it was such a complete hassle first time round.

And yes, I'd want to have the same surname whilst my children were still children. Once they were adult, I'd think about it again.

Or you could choose a totally new name...

If it works for you, why not?

My old employer made her name is business whilst married. When she divorced she kept the name as no one would know who she was professionally otherwise....everyone has their own reasons so do it if right for you

Why would you want to keep the name of a controlling narcissistic bully?

I changed mine as soon as I separated, why anyone would want to keep the name of their ex just to piss them off is beyond me. Surely if you're out of a toxic relationship then keeping that name is continuing to eat the poison?

I didn’t my kids were young and it would have been a statement I didn’t care enough to make

We have a friend who has kept hers, even though she has since remarried; I think it's so her daugher from first marriage can keep her dad's name as the first half of her surname, and so daughter and her DS by new partner can have same double-barrelled surname

made her name in* business

I wouldn't want to be associated with him anymore if it was me but if it doesn't bother you then carry on

I will be keeping my married name, it’s also my children’s name and I like sharing a name with them.

I didn't change mine. It's my name now, I didn't just borrow it.

And it doesn't give me a comedy name which is a bonus.

I kept my married name, it's fairly standard when you have young children, I would obviously change it in the unlikely event I married again.

It's your name; your ex doesn't own it. You can legally call yourself anything you like (so long as there is no criminal intention). In fact, your kids can use any "known as" name they like too. You can call yourself "Mrs Ex-Surname" even if you remarry - or if you remain single. Any of your kids can call themselves "Real-Name Ex-Surname known as Duke Potato-Chip" so long as they aren't pretending to be a real Duke. They're just names.

I've kept my married name. I'm not close to my family anyway so have no attachment to my maiden name. And most importantly it's the same as my young DD.
I also kept Mrs. I don't like Ms and didn't want to go back to Miss.
figure it's my business and no one else's. I get on with my ex ok and I simply told him I wasn't reverting back on divorce.

I kept my married name, maiden name was unusual and a pain to spell EVERY time!

Changing a name is nowhere near as complicated as it's made out to be on here. A few phone calls, most of it can be done online now. I think its sad that ex-wives hang onto their married name, and even sadder to keep Mrs!

I have kept my married name because I want to have the same surname as my DD. When I told my now ex-H I would be keeping my married surname he went through the roof and threatened to see a solicitor about it. I told him to crack on with that and let me know what they said 😂

If I was childless I would have reverted to my maiden name.

I've kept my married name, it's mine and changing it would be a hassle and an unnecessary statement I think...