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To think this class-obsessed country uses DC's names to change theirs?

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GinDaddy · 26/01/2020 14:32

I live in the South of England, I'm heading towards middle age, so this gives you some context before my OP, which is..

AIBU to think people are giving their DCs "posh" or "aspirational" names as status signifiers? (Which ironically immediately marks them out to me as such?)

I realise there's always been fashionable and unfashionable names since time immemorial. But what I'm talking about is the slew of names which I would previously only expect to hear on Made In Chelsea or Guy Pelly's guest list at Boujis.

Arabella. Annabelle. Isabelle. Amelia. Jasper. Oscar. Oliver (to be inevitably commuted immediately to Ollie in faux-braying tones). Hugo. Theo. Leo. Harry (not even bothering to use the proper Harold, just going straight to the diminutive because well, it sounds right).

It's just a bit odd really. People can and will call their child what they like, but why are so many folk (and it's always the same folk, the ones who are project managers, who love myWaitrose and head tilting, whose teeth chatter when grandparents offer DC a Kinder Surprise) enamoured with these names?

Can someone actually explain this to me? No one has ownership of names, but I cannot believe that some people aren't using this as some sort of social signifier. 15 years ago not everyone was called Ollie or Theo. I didn't know a load of Arabellas or Amelias, I knew a few but that was commensurate with the environment.

AIBU to think the popularity of these names comes from their associate social status?

OP posts:
ohwerehalfwaythere · 26/01/2020 14:34

No

JoJoSM2 · 26/01/2020 14:35

I’m not English and some of those would appeal as they work nicely in English and my language.

Also, I don’t know any Arabellas but do know adults with the other names so wouldn’t find them aspirational. Just what I’m used to anyway.

OhWellThatsJustGreat · 26/01/2020 14:36

Serious? A name is a name. I don't think there's anything aspirational about any of those names, they're popular and fashionable. In 10/15 years it's highly likely that those names will be as popular as Gary is right now...

JiltedJohnsJulie · 26/01/2020 14:36
Biscuit
Bluntness100 · 26/01/2020 14:36

Yeah, the country isn't obsessed with class, just you and some folks on here.

They are just popular names.

araiwa · 26/01/2020 14:36

Just because youre class obsessed doesnt mean the majority gives a toss

None of those names you gave have any class connotations to me at all

cormorantyes · 26/01/2020 14:36

What class would you describe yourself as OP?

OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea · 26/01/2020 14:37

It shouldn't be allowed. If a person is scum on benefits then they shouldn't be permitted to call their child Oscar or Theo and should stick to Kyle. Otherwise the poor kid will think they have a shot at an education and a future when we all know they are destined for a life of fags and the dole.

OP you are talking shit.

Bluntness100 · 26/01/2020 14:37

Oh and my grand mother was born working class, she'd be about a hundred now. And she was called Amelia.

gamerchick · 26/01/2020 14:38

Eh, I hear a name and it's just a name. I don't associate it with anything.

Surely the only people to notice are the ones who are bothered about 'status' themselves?

GinDaddy · 26/01/2020 14:38

@Bluntness100

We know they are popular names, hence the OP. Hmm

Care to venture any further as to WHY they are popular?

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Newmetoday · 26/01/2020 14:39

I agree OP

NotYourHun · 26/01/2020 14:39

You’ve got the measure of this really wrong.

Amelia and Isabelle are just the modern equivalents of Katherine and Georgina which I had about 5 of each of in my year group at school. Names tend to run in popularity cycles.

RuffleCrow · 26/01/2020 14:39

Whats the alternative? low aspiration names? The same names you already have? Weird thread.

BitOfFun · 26/01/2020 14:40

This has been covered at length in Freakonomics.

Lailaha · 26/01/2020 14:40

You do know that "Harry" is short for Henry as well as Harold, right?

GinDaddy · 26/01/2020 14:40

@cormorantyes

I went to a top university but came from working class background. I don't have a bloody clue.

I do think however there is still a large sector of British society who think about class.

I think it's fair to address that in a post. It doesn't make me class obsessed to notice something that's obvious. It wouldn't make me obsessed with violence if I pointed out a signifier for London stabbings, so why do I have to have a connection to this topic for me to talk about it?!

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OhWellThatsJustGreat · 26/01/2020 14:40

Care to venture any further as to WHY they are popular?

Because names like most things (clothes) go through cycles of being popular haha

redexpat · 26/01/2020 14:41

Names go in and out of style. People pick one that feels right for them, so that choice will probably reflect their class, at least in some cases.

OhWellThatsJustGreat · 26/01/2020 14:41

Sorry not sure where the haha came from 🤔

justgivemewine · 26/01/2020 14:42

Nah, you’re overthinking it. They’re just names that are popular at the moment.

ForInstance · 26/01/2020 14:42

Yes it just goes to show how obsessed we all are with class... Biscuit

GinDaddy · 26/01/2020 14:42

@NotYourHun

How do I have the measure of this all wrong, if you're saying I'm essentially correct in nothing a trend, it's just that the names were different 15 years ago?

There's no question for me that Katherine/Georgina were also considered solidly middle class names back then.

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Comeonbabyyay · 26/01/2020 14:42

Isabelle? Any version of it is very common everywhere
Isabelle, Isabel, Isobel, Isabella...

A name is a name. I don’t get why this seems to bother you.
Better than calling a child Jackdaniels which has happened

Bluntness100 · 26/01/2020 14:42

I do think however there is still a large sector of British society who think about class

There really isn't, just because you are doesn't mean every one else is.

And it's not obvious, because it's just popular names. It's only your class obsessed mind that thinks it is.

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