To not like this text message?

[Fidgetwonkam]

How would you feel if you received this message from your boyfriend/partner?

I had mentioned that I wanted to start again with my hobby that I haven’t done for a long time (well before I met him)

I know it was sent with good intentions but I just don’t like it. Aibu?

How would it make you feel to get a text like that?

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I think he was genuinely trying to be lovely. But it's very icky. Kind of like when a DP does or says something in bed that's a cringe. Hard to talk to them about it so it becomes almost 'take it or leave it', iykwim.

Am I the only person who thought he was trying to make some really poor innuendos?

I assumed "I need you 'pot'" was "I need your pot"

Maybe it's me with the issue

I didn't like it as soon as I read it.
He's making it all about him.
You should do the hobby because it makes him happy.
It's ok for you to do it because it will make you more attractive to him. Hooray. That's the only reason you wanted to do your hobby so now you can.

Id probably reply "That's sweet but it's not about you.It's something I need to do for myself "
On the other hand if I was your partner I'd be really annoyed that you shared my private texts with the whole of mumsnet.He's trying to be supportive I think.

Very clingy. He's basically made it all about him with "I need".

*cringey

I think in his mind he was thinking that knowing he is impressed by it, would give me extra motivation to do it.

Its definitely not a joke or innuendo.
It would have written earnestly, as a way to show his support. Just a bit clumsy in his delivery!!

I do feel guilty sharing it on here, but I didn’t want to share it with anyone irl and it would have been hard to explain without showing the whole text.

I feel like I’m tolerating this strange, harmless, inappropriateness too often now, and It’s making me question if we are right together. 😕

Love the witty poems you’ve all written btw 😂

*would have been written earnestly

He’s the cat in the hat?

"I need, I need". Does he always make everything about his needs?

Hmm I wouldn't like it.

I personally find clinginess a huge turnoff though. And it's not very well written either.

There have been a few posts recently about things that men do that give posters the "ick" and I would have loved mumsnet to have been around when I was doing all my dating 25 years ago as I would have had so much to contribute. One poster ended a relationship because her new boyfriend referred to himself as "muggins here" and that made me laugh as I could so relate to that being a deal breaker.

Your boyfriend sounds a bit earnest and using the term "lady" would be slightly offputting for me but clearly he's trying his best to be supportive in a clumsy way. Does he have much of a sense of humour as that would be important to me?

I don't think it's sweet. I think it's creepy and weird and yes, last line is deeply patronising. Ironically it shows he actually doesn't know you very well to think you'd be happy to receive it.

This would give me the ick bad and I'd probably have words or even dump unless he's amazing the rest of the time.

He’s lighthearted and fun to be around mostly. And very positive and patient and kind. Just tries too hard to please, in a way that’s not necessary for me.

The cringe factor is quite high with that one. ‘Good looking lady’, ‘I need you to...’ and all those bloody kisses. I can see why you don’t like it! Perhaps it’s just a small part of a bigger, better picture though?

Dump and run.

He was trying to be cute! Why be so harsh?

This reminds me of an ex boyfriend of mine, he just irritated the cr@p out of me and it didn't matter what he did, or what he said, it always seemed to be the wrong thing!

We were both young and living at home and be bad stayed at my house one evening and the near morning had attempted to make the bed. I have a real thing about bed making anyway and I like it to be done a certain way (IM WELL AWARE IM UNREASONABLE) but the way he made it infuriated me so much I realised there and then I could never possibly stay with someone who's bed making skills were seriously making me question our relationship. I broke things off the next day.

I'm now happily married with kids and my husband makes the bed horrendously every morning. And every morning I smile at the attempt, and remake it beautifully myself. That's the difference.

I hate to tell you, but you've got the "ick". And there's no way of getting rid of it.

It's mind over matter but you need to Derren Brown it or use the aural equivalent of eye bleach. My partner actually said poot poot when he first farted in front of me.
My bits withered there and then. But I forced myself over the ick (and two other ick things) and many months later ripped the piss out of him.

actually it was probably days
or hours
I am not good at keeping my gob shut

I have thought that I need to start making fun of his cringiness, in a lighthearted way, to make him see!

If I had received those messages I would have replied with “haha pardon?!” and waited to see how he explained it.
If he was drunk then I would just roll my eyes and ignore it as a one off. If he was making a regular habit of being weird like that (and also of getting drunk) then I would lose interest in him very fast.

I think some lighthearted piss-taking might be a good indicator of whether he’s just a sweet, well intentioned bad poet or someone who takes himself and his ‘needs’ a bit too seriously.

He is saying he wants all of you including your need to be a Potter. Its all good!

It’s not to my taste- patronising, sexist and rank. I guess only you know if this is typical behaviour and if you’re remotely on the same wave length. I’m not sure I could be with anyone capable of spouting that ridiculous drivel.