To not like this text message?

[Fidgetwonkam]

How would you feel if you received this message from your boyfriend/partner?

I had mentioned that I wanted to start again with my hobby that I haven’t done for a long time (well before I met him)

I know it was sent with good intentions but I just don’t like it. Aibu?

How would it make you feel to get a text like that?

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I'd think he was clearly drunk but was trying to write a poem. I certainly can't see anything wrong with it

As pp said what is it about it you dont like

There was lots of spaces between each line, I just removed them for this post.

Did your boyfriend happen to see the film 'Ghost' at a critical point in his formative years?

You’re being very literal. Do you really think this means there’ll be a relationship issue if you change your mind about doing it? Seriously?

It’s shit English, and I’d dump him for the random smattering of X / x. But you seem to be having a real sense of humour bypass about it. Sounds like that stage of a new relationship where you realise you’re not that into them - and everything becomes irritating, and jokes were once funny are just lame.

Cardi and Anon. Obviously the OP does pottery.
Op, I think partner is trying albeit very clumsily to say that they know you are more than just a pretty face and that they support you and think hobby will be great.
Suggest that if their true hobby is poetry though that they either give it up or take classes.

I think the point you're getting at is you're annoyed that he "needs" you to be more than one specific thing FOR him, and that he's worded it in a way which makes it sound like anything you do is to make you more appealing to him?..... Or am I way off the mark?

Regardless, I don't think that was his intentions here.

@TheMemoryLingers 🤣

But they rhyme (ish). I think it was meant to be a poem. And I'm sure he doesn't mean he literally NEEDS you to make pottery. You're reading too much into a silly exchange.

It's cringy and I wouldn't find it attractive but presumably he hasn't hid his personality so far.

Similar with DH and I. If he's really lucky there's a "are you coming upstairs soon?" text now and again! grin

Haha yep same here or the classic “where are you?”. That is literally it 🤣

Ellisandra, maybe that’s it!
It’s just not my style to be so gushing.

And no obviously I don’t think he would dump me if I didn’t. I don’t know. It just irritated me! 😩

Right, well the Xs make more sense now you’ve explained this wasn’t the format you actually received
And you know he’s drunk.
And you still haven’t said what the problem is.
I think you need to unclench on this one!

It would irritate me & I’d want to reply ‘I
AM much more than a ‘good looking lady’ whether I start doing pottery again or not. I’m not doing it to please YOU

...but he & I would last 5 minutes - max.

Not my type - is he yours?!

@TheMemoryLingers haha yes all men remember that film 🤔

@AmelieTaylor yes I’m starting to wonder if he is 🙈

You say I know it was sent with good intentions

A bit of a clumsy poem. Maybe he had been drinking or feeling sentimental and sent it on the spur of the moment without thinking it through. He could be feeling embarrassed about it now. I wouldn't make a big deal of it.

It's actually quite sweet. Would you prefer he sent you a dick pic?

I know he did mean well. It was just the delivery of it I thought was cringy and I wondered if it was just me being a horrible bitch.

I guess I am!

Context is everything! I mean if my dh sudddnly came out with something like this, I'd ask him if he was feeling ok, and we'd probably laugh about it! If it was someone I'd started seeing relatively recently, who I didn't feel completely at ease with, then I think it would unsettle me. It could be funny or it could be weird - it depends on your relationship with the author. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, maybe you should talk to him about it?

He's just sending drunken love messages. Sort of crap poetry. Of course it's irritating if you're sober. If you were drunk you'd be all 'I luv him so ooo much' I'm sure.

How long have you been seeing him?

I dated a guy who said, “isn’t it though?” a lot.

• it’s sunny today
• isn’t it though?

For a few weeks, I was with neutral to it, or thought it was a quirky little thing about him that I quite liked.

After 10 dates, I knew he wasn’t for me. By that time, I wanted to scream, “fucking shut up!” every time he said it.

Sounds like you don't want to continue the relationship. Remember you don't need a reason to dump him beyond "don't want to continue"

Thinking he's not funny this early is not a sign of compatability..

He sends me wordy gushing texts all the time. It’s just his way. It’s not mine though.

I do t think he needs you to pot, it was just a line that fitted his poem!

Been together nearly 18mths.