AIBU re: lift giving: will she turn up on Friday or not?

[Whiskeychaser]

Second thread.

Thanks for all the support.

Dreading them coming out od school because I can see my dd getting it in the ear from them, and I'm really feeling for her.

Link to first thread to follow in a minute (when I figure it out).

Did she expect you to wait in the car for her to finish talking to the coach?? Incredible! So entitled

the dd asking where we were and that they're having to walk home.

having to! They’re truly beyond.

@Whiskeychaser you’ve handled this whole this with so much dignity and class. Well done to you for setting a great example for your daughter

LOL! She did that to make you feel bad and look bad!

‘SHE left us stranded! SHE drove off and didn’t wait!!! Over an hours walk away!!

Yeah right!

Did DD reply?

She has seen your text, OP, but she’s made her settings make it look as if it’s unread. I can read my texts without opening them. She’s trying to play games.

OP they stayed behind on purpose, knowing that you would leave, so that CF can now tell people how you “abandoned” them to walk home in the dark! She knew she wouldn’t be getting a lift home with you but will want others to see you as the bad guy in the hopes her CFuckery won’t get out

Did her DD spend time with your daughter. Did her litter talk to your daughter?

I agree they stayed behind to "tell on you" although, if the group leader is normal they should tell her its nothing to do with the club

Also think the text about walking was just guilt

Absolutely well done OP, I understand its hard to be assertive so well done. Youve set some boundaries, i hope you feel proud of yourself and your DD!

Youve handled this with far better class than i or i think most people ever could, id of lost my temper with her by now!

Be prepared to be the villian of her story now, but anyone with commen sense will see shes just an entitled bastard

Well done,

No looking after the dog. Don't even tell her. Let her assume it's still on and see if she has the cheek to turn up with it. She won't be nice about it, contrite or apologetic, she'll be sniffy and off with you but still expect you to do it.

Walking home my arse!

I think she'll have deliberately stayed behind for 2 reasons, 1 - so you'd have had to wait and it's a control thing. 2 - so she can say you drove off if you did t comply with her

Plus not reading the text will have her saying she didn't know you were going and you just left them

Getting her dd to text your dd is another deliberate step, so you realise they had to walk and should feel bad

She's a master manipulator OP and nothing less than absolute agreement with her and her requests will do.

Enjoy your wine and congratulate yourself and realising what a CF she actually is.

So after all the abuse she has fired at you, all the texts she has chosen to ignore, the grief your dd got in school and she expected you to wait. Yeah right!!

Ignore everything from now on. I know you said you were feeling bad a while ago at the loss of a "friend". At least now you know where you stand in this regard.

I feel so bad on your behalf because you have done nothing to deserve any of this treatment.

have a few more. You really deserve it after the week you have had.

The CF will have bought a second massive dog by then.

What they hell were you meant to do? I sit for them in case they came out?

She's had no contact with you so how are you meant to know what she's doing.

She's not only a CF she's also a dickhead.

Cheers

Ouhc very manipulative to say they're walking home.. what utter bullshit.. and Momster doesn't have the balls to text OP direct, she HAS to go through her young teenage daughter.. CRINGE

You did right OP

Yeah, I'm not convinced they are actually walking home. I think it was said to guilt trip us, but even if they are, I'm past caring.

I will let her know I'm no longer prepared to look after the dog too, as I don't want there to be any grey areas.

Well done OP
Remember - the other Mum has brought this all on herself.
She had so many options, but she chose not to use them.

Did she expect you to wait in the car for her to finish talking to the coach??

I imagine she wanted to delay the OP’s homeward journey by making her wait to gain some sort of oneupmanship.

Thankfully the OP wasn’t playing tonight.

I'd get dd to reply

"oh! Your mum didnt reply to my mum about the lifts so she assumed you weren't coming back with us anymore. How ironic this all came about because your mum didnt want to walk the 10 mins to our house and now your having to walk 80 mins home instead"

Obviously wouldnt really but would be so satisfying!

They seriously see you as an employee! Honestly you have done great. My blood is boiling on your behalf!

Just leave her a while then tell her no to looking after her dogs. She's a drama llama bitch.

@Whiskeychaser dont get in touch about the dog yet, only mention it if she bothers to get back in touch.

No more contact with her unless it comes from her first!

Oh OP seriously stop texting her now, shes not going to drop her dog to you after all this. You should just block her number now

I wouldn't text about the dog. I'd print out a list of local kennels and post it through her door (when you know she's at work) and add a note saying "You may need this as I will not be looking after your dog #notbeingusedanylonger".