AIBU re: lift giving: will she turn up on Friday or not?

[Whiskeychaser]

Second thread.

Thanks for all the support.

Dreading them coming out od school because I can see my dd getting it in the ear from them, and I'm really feeling for her.

Link to first thread to follow in a minute (when I figure it out).

Don't text her anymore!

And definitely do NOT give them a lift home.

Get your DD to come straight out and get in the car so you can go.

Please don’t text her! You keep giving her opportunities to disrespect you. When she comes out if she tries to get in the car lock the doors and tell her you aren’t going to allow her to continue using and disrespecting you

Or nip in after for a quick ‘word’ with the coach and stay chatting ..... other mum will feel awkward and it breaks the pack so you can skip out, wave and get in the car

If they have the (almost admirable) brass neck to present themselves at the car looking for a lift, I think I’d just stand expectantly beside the locked car and wait for them to apologise and ask for a lift. With a “please”, because they are both big enough girls to know how it works.
They will either apologise and ask nicely...
Or start their stroppy entitled demands again...
Or feel awkward and fuck off.
No need for you to say a word, OP. Let them fill the silence however they choose.

I wouldn't text her again, just leave it.

Just pick your DD up in the car and say “bye!” And drive off. Don’t give them a lift OP after the way they’ve treated you.

No lift home!! Are you nuts??
Or you will be back to square 1 next week!!

And don't text her!

She hasn't bothered telling you what she's doing. She got a cab - twice - that your DD could have shared. Nope - she went off and did her own thing and kept quiet about it. Fine, but that means you don't have to tell her anything.

Why text her? Fuck her! Just fucking take off and leave! She comes near your car you just tell her, 'You need to make other arrangements. I'm not available for lifts anymore.'

Why are you showing your daughter that you allow yourself to be bullied and mistreated by cunts?

No texts, no lift. You can do it OP, we’re all with you

Argh. Well done OP. Good luck for 8pm!

Ha stay in the car or sit somewhere else. Shes been rude as fuck

@Whiskeychaser for the love of God DONT GIVE HER A LIFT BACK

Oh please don’t give them a lift home.

Can you park elsewhere and text your daughter. See what happens when you aren't sitting there.

I actually have nervous butterflies for you op. I think if they actually the balls to come to the car for a lift I would say something along the lines of "oh we're not going straight home, DD has had a terrible week with all this lift business that I'm taking her out for a treat, take care"

I'm parked right outside the entrance. I'm not moving, I've done nothing wrong, and I'm not going to lie and say "I can't give you a lift because I'm not going home (or whatever)".

If she has the audacity to come over for a lift home I will simply wind my window down and say:

"After your behaviour over the last week or so, I'm no longer prepared to give you a lift there or back. You've brought this on yourself, and I can't believe you've got the front to expect one after all you've done". I will then leave.

The anger is definitely going to help me be assertive.

Tell her that she clearly could have given you and dd a lift this evening with her but chose not to so why on earth would you be offering them a lift back?

If she moans in any way just say I'm sorry but it's your responsibility to look after your own child, and not my responsibility. I have tried to help you but you have been ungrateful and unpleasant so I'm not willing to help you any longer. You need to make your own arrangements.

Then text her later and say to be clear please make your own arrangements for dog sitting from now on as it is no longer something you are willing to help out with.

I wouldn't text but go in there and face up to the mum whilst the children are in class. Ask her what the plan is from now on regarding lifts because it's all a bit odd. Let her do the talking and then...so how are you getting home tonight? If the answer is - with you then it's to ask why this is assumed, that actually you're really fucked off yourself.

I like the idea of standing with a locked car and waiting for an apology or even request for a lift. I would say no either way.

Do they finish at 20:00?

Surely she’ll not expect a lift home after all this if she does she’s more front than blackpool!!!

I’d just stand expectantly beside the locked car and wait for them to apologise and ask for a lift. With a “please”, because they are both big enough girls to know how it works.

This is what I would do.

Well done op. She’s taken you for a ride up until now so it’s good you’re making a stand. And, as you say, she brought this on herself