AIBU re: lift giving: will she turn up on Friday or not?

[Whiskeychaser]

Second thread.

Thanks for all the support.

Dreading them coming out od school because I can see my dd getting it in the ear from them, and I'm really feeling for her.

Link to first thread to follow in a minute (when I figure it out).

You need to be going somewhere else after the activity finishes rather than going straight home
It will be very, very interesting to see what happens when the girls come out
Also, if they do have a lift from you, how uncomfortable will that be for everyone. What would you have to talk about?

No you shouldn't give them a lift back.

Oh god don’t give a lift back!! They’ve tested you both like shit.

But how can you not if they walk to the car?
Totally agree you shouldn’t give them a lift but how can you send them away

Park around the corner and text your DD to come find you there. Tell her to make sure she's not followed!!

Maybe I’m just weak 😵

I'd just drive off without waiting for them. If she tries to get in say " you've been totally rude and had a massive overreaction to a simplr request that would have enabled me to keep giving your daughter a lift. You don't recognise I'm doing you a favour. You involved my child in your pettiness. So I'm done here. Goodbye". Then leave. I hope you will stand up to her, please, for your sake xx

Easy.

"No CF. After your conduct you will not be using me anymore."

They don't deserve a lift unless they apologise for their rudeness and for being a pair of ungrateful brats!

Do as PP suggests and park around the corner. Get DD to shoot off as soon as it ends so they don’t have a chance to follow. They are taking the piss!

If you give them a lift back, and there is an atmosphere, then I, for myself, would be texting the mother and saying, 'I'm not being treated like this, I'm not having my daughter treated like this, I'm not having this atmosphere in my car at the end of the week. As of now, you'll need to find your own way there and your own way back, I'm no longer enabling this for you and your daughter at all. Oh, and that goes for your little dog too - you'll need to make alternative arrangements for his care'.

And yes, I would do that.

No lift home. Genuinely if it was me I would take DD for ice cream or something just the two of you after her activity!

DO NOT GIVE THEM A LIFT BACK.

When you play bitch games you get bitch prizes. If the CF can get herself there without your help, then she can do the same to get home.

Text your DD and say to meet you on the main road as there's no spaces. Or get out and walk to DD, say goodbye to friend and walk to your car

My god, if they expect a lift home I think you have to call them out on it.

I think I would say something like 'I'm sorry, you are expecting me to do you a favour after treating me so badly all week and not having the decency to even ask me nicely?'

And I would expect a full and sincere apology before even considering giving them a lift home (or just refuse to do it, but I can see how that might be hard to do.) but if she refused to apologise or ask nicely for a lift then I'd definitely tell her to sling her hook, and that that's the last time you'll ever be willing to do her a favour.

I'm sat in my car.

I debated going in once I knew the mum was inside, but even I have my breaking point, and I actually have quite a temper on me, although I control it very well, so hardly ever lose it.

I'm really pissed off though, and didn't want to lose my temper with her if she carries on saying this situation is all my fault, so I'm gonna send a text instead, basically saying I'm done. Make your own arrangements from here forward.

Be ready for when your DD finishes and bundle her into the car and then speed away!😂

Maybe text your daughter to come to a slightly different spot outside and slip away. Or tell her you have some Friday plans with your daughter. I would not give someone a lift after behaving this way.

But how can you not if they walk to the car?

By saying 'sorry we're going out somewhere' or 'fuck off' depending on how brave OP is feeling

That woman is an ARSE!

If she expects a lift tell her your not going her way

Text dd to ask to leave 5 min early so you can dash off.

Agree you'd be a mug to be treated like that and then meekly give them a lift.

Or go in and speak to mum and say that lifts and dog sitting are no longer available due to the way you've been spoken to. Or text it to her?
Tell dd you've parked somewhere else other than normal

She is so f*cking rude, really what a bitch.

Hugs

Why are you going to text her?!?!

Can your daughter leave 5 minutes early?