To take a pregnancy test?

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Been TTC for 4 years. Failed rounds of IVF, without even so much as a late period. It's been hell.
My period is 2 days late, very unusual. I'm now day dreaming that I might be pregnant. We really tried this month and I had a smear mid-month and dr commented was showing signs of ovulation. DH wants me to give it a couple of days, not jump straight to POAS as he knows how heartbreaking I find the all negatives. All
through IVF he was dead against early testing, always waiting for the bloods. But that was torture and inevitably we got the call either with me at work or out for lunch with was devastating and embarrassing as I'm led sobbing from a restaurant.
AIBU to buy one on the way home and put myself out of my misery? Or should I live in a hopeful bubble for a couple of days?! HELP!!!

So did I and I am having another this year and was specifically told that term is outdated rubbish. I don't much give a shit either way but you are using it to try and make the op feel bad.

Be that as it may, you have the emotional intelligence of a doorstop.

Kindness and tact isn’t everyone’s forte I guess.

Sending you love op. Keeping everything crossed 💐

Ignore the rubbish here OP. Infertility sucks big time and you haven't done anything wrong. I know of quite a few people who have had their first babies after hitting 40, either naturally or via IVF. Some have gone to have their second babies later on. There's always hope! I sincerely hope you get your positive test soon.

Actually no, I have a PhD. I did a degree, then a PhD, then worked for a year during which time I got married and got pregnant with my eldest child. I've worked part-time on and off in a graduate job ever since

Of course you have. Even if the above were true, I'm sure your dazzling intellect would furnish you with the knowledge that academic intelligence and emotional intelligence are two very different things.

@Dolceandi you may claim it's not offensive but can you really not sse that its insensitive to tell someone they've left it too late and they're a geriatric mother when they have been trying for a while anyway? It is needlessly cruel and if you're as educated as you claim to be it shouldn't be a big leap for you to understand that.

Yes the truth hurts, we're all aware of that. The question is, why would you deliberately want to hurt someone who is already suffering?

Like I said before: The truth hurts

So why feel the need to deliberately attempt to hurt a poster who is obviously in distress?

Why either join/name change to do that? What’s missing from you that you need to do that?

Bet it feels wonderful being so perfect.

I said the truth hurts because people are objecting to it!

I'm going to use tiny words here, because your fake PhD doesn't seem to have furnished you with much in the way of comprehension.

The fact that it is harder to conceive the older you are isn't in question. People aren't objecting to that. They're objecting to the fact that you have come on a thead with a desperately upset OP and have made an utterly irrelevant comment which we can only assume is either down to your lack of intelligence or a deliberate desire to hurt.

@Dolceandi but why are you asking why OP left it so late to try to conceive? She didn't come on to ask people to question her life, she asked if she should take a pregnancy test?

Your PHD stops you from being able to read and respond to a simple question?

And not one person on this thread cares that you've had seven children, it's irrelevant again!

Honestly, crawl back under your bridge and stop being so utterly vile.

You can try to hurt me as much as you like saying my PhD is fake, you won't succeed, because it's not fake.

I don't think anyone would be able to hurt you, you're heartless!

You can try to hurt me as much as you like saying my PhD is fake, you won't succeed, because it's not fake

I'm not trying to hurt you. Rule 1 of the internet - take all vehement declarations of intelligence with a massive pinch of salt.

Dolceandi - have you thought about getting assistance for your obvious issues?

@Dolceandi, are you a man? The way you speak about 'females' and your bizarre inability to understand why not all women pop out babies in their early 20s is really weird. Also, do you have any scientific proof that drinking wine means you cannot convince even if the egg is fertilised?

Because I'm genuinly interested why some people, more and more people recently, especially around London/the South East leave it so late.

You're not really are you @Dolceandi you're just a goady fucker?

And why ask a woman suffering this question? For your own "personal market research"?

Look at yourself, look at how unkind people think you're being, then decide if your post was reasonable.

@Dolceandi out of interest (like you!) were all your children from the same relationship? If not what happened to the first relationship(s)?

Look love, why don't you just do one? You're not helping, you're just derailing a thread and getting in the way of those of us who genuinely want to support the OP.