To take a pregnancy test?

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Been TTC for 4 years. Failed rounds of IVF, without even so much as a late period. It's been hell.
My period is 2 days late, very unusual. I'm now day dreaming that I might be pregnant. We really tried this month and I had a smear mid-month and dr commented was showing signs of ovulation. DH wants me to give it a couple of days, not jump straight to POAS as he knows how heartbreaking I find the all negatives. All
through IVF he was dead against early testing, always waiting for the bloods. But that was torture and inevitably we got the call either with me at work or out for lunch with was devastating and embarrassing as I'm led sobbing from a restaurant.
AIBU to buy one on the way home and put myself out of my misery? Or should I live in a hopeful bubble for a couple of days?! HELP!!!

@Dolceandi what a spectacularly unhelpful and callous comment, I hope you're very proud of yourself?

Again I'm sorry OP.

So sorry you didn't get the news you wanted, don't give up hope, I had 3 gorgeous healthy boys post 40, the last one (my 5th boy and yes I know I need to change my user name!) was born 3 months short of my 47th birthday, so don't believe all what you read about declining fertility.

What, you own a time machine so the op can go back ten years?

I started trying at 25 and it didn’t help me.

I was actually trying to be helpful to you and others hmm guess the truth hurts

You're embarrassing yourself. A quick apology would have been far better given how vastly you missed the mark.

Who would read the OP and think that was a helpful comment?!

Get your husband to try taking DAA powder - apparently it's disgusting but it's supposed to help increase testosterone (and sperm count) and the month after my DH started taking it I fell pregnant. I hope you fall pregnant soon :)

These magic remedy suggestions just aren’t helpful.

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Sorry you're going through this, OP. I hope you get your baby soon

@Dolceandi how is asking "why did you leave it so late" stating the truth? It's a fucking irrelevance and sounds like you're intimating that OP only has herself to blame?

I'm not apologising for stating the truth. I thought Mumsnet was supposed to be about the truth and Netmums was supposed to be, "Aww sorry hun xxxx." If a person wants children it's not sensible to leave it until you're that old. It's also not sensible to drink a bottle of wine whilst you're trying to convince

You stated an ill-thought out opinion on a sensitive thread. An adult would say "sorry OP, I totally misjudged my response" instead of getting testy because you've been called out on being a wazzock.

I repeat you have utterly embarrassed yourself with your lack of social awareness and empathy.

You know when you read a comment and then have to reread it like "did they actually say that...?"
@Dolceandi wtf?

35 is the age women are classed as 'geriatric mothers,'

How the fuck is that useful to the op?

You are enjoying being cruel.

Even more interesting is the fact that the unpleasant character has either namechanged or joined especially to stick the boot in.

What a sad, sad little life.

Very interesting first post @Dolceandi you're proving a very popular MNetter!

Ahh @JacquesHammer snap!!

What a bizarre mix of judgement, pseudoscience and downright pish.

Dolceandi

You’re a fucking idiot and a callous one at that.

The pain you are causing with your words is unacceptable.
If you can’t understand how you might be upsetting the OP then you have absolutely no emotional intelligence and you need to work on bettering yourself.

What a nasty, sad little piece of work that poster is. Actually, that term is outdated bollocks. Advanced maternal age is what the NHS use now. I know, I am one. Well over 35 too. Ignore it op. I'm so sorry it wasn't this time.

Unless you're Doctor Fucking Who, it's pretty irrelevent to the OP isn't it?

I'm m not embarrassed and I'm not apologising. I have nothing to feel embarrassed about or apologise for

So you're obtuse in addition to your myriad of other failings?

I had my youngest last year and was referred to as a geriatric mother by my NHS Trust. Didn't bother me one single bit

Well of course it wouldn't. You were HAVING A BABY i.e. not in the OP's position.

Crikey you've got the brain power of a wet quilt haven't you?!

@Dolceandi just stop bumping your fucking gums and try a bit of empathy. A love of speaking the truth isn't a licence to be a callous cow.