To buy hideous shoes that DD loves

[mamamilkmachine]

?My DD is three and loves purple and sparkles. While looking for new shoes together she spotted these and she really wants them. The last ones she had were pink sparkle converse and I was fine with them but her Dad hates them and complains and makes comments any time she has them on 😡 it really annoys me. I think she should allowed to have an input and wear things she likes but he thinks she's too young and she should wear what she's told. So do you buy your kids clothes that you like or clothes that they like?

They're cute :)

I grew up in the 70s in flat brown tie ups and felt like the ugliest person in the world so I’m very biased. My vote is for the pretty shoes, let her feel special!

Not something I would choose but did aged 2 would and I would buy them even if I didn't like them as long as they fit properly and won't hurt her feet... My dh is the same though.

You obviously don’t understand what I meant. Giving young children all these choices isn’t really good for them. No wonder they want flat screen tv’s and iPhones by the age of seven.

This is ridiculous!I allowed my DC to choose clothes (within reason) from a young age. Took my DS to a different shoe shop (having tried 2 already) when he burst into tears because the shoes offered were plain and he really wanted ones with Thomas on (aged 3).
None of my children wanted iPhones, or flat screen TVs. My eldest in their 20s still doesn't have an iphone (has something better). None even asked for an expensive phone until 13 ish? (They got a phone at 11 for secondary school - its a 45 minute walk away.)
None has a flat screen TV, or even wants one - we do have a family one. None had TV in their bedrooms, and still don't. But they do have laptops - for work and entertainment.

My DCs Primary school used to ask parents as part of preparing them for school to let them make some decisions - especially about food. As some Reception children really struggled with making a choice at lunchtimes.

God he sounds really uptight. Why the hell shouldn't she have shoes she likes, honestly would struggle to be with someone who wanted to suck the joy out a kids life like this for no good reason.

You can always buy some she doesn’t like & she’ll refuse to wear them & you’ll end up buying these anyway.

With shoes I always let the DC choose - memories of only having one pair to choose from throughout school due to my long narrow feet!

We did two choices , this one or this one , kind of thing when little, but not till 5 ish
To much to soon , little ones need to know that you are in charge it makes them more secure later on .it starts with glitter and pink
But a few years on you will wish you had set things up differently. Teen fashion is super expensive as are the latest trainer must have
Or posh phone upgrade.
Think carefully about the messages you send
Now it’s difficult to change track later

I let my DC choose some of their clothing some of the time because wow, poor kids: Never having a choice, always doing as they're told.

Ive always let mine choose their own shoes as long as they fit well and i can afford them

Not had a problem with them wanting the latest iphone/big tv/ most expensive trainers as teens

Does anyone else have an advert for sparkly shoes from schuh coming up

Im 41 and have a pair of dms with blue skulls and red roses all over them

I think their cute and would look adorable on a 3 year old.. Her dad doesn't have to wear them! I'd rather buy the children shoes they want after all they wear them every day. They look good quality and hard wearing to. Perfect for a 3 year old

Buy her the shoes if she loves them, she’ll have grown out of them in a few months and you can then choose some nicer ones!

They're cute and fit for purpose.

Just tell your OH to mind his own business and remind him she's 3 years old and to 3 year old purple sparkly shoes set their world on fire... tell him she will probably still like purple sparkly shoes when she's 33.

Miserable git.

Yanbu!

I want the rainbow pair in the same style for my girls. DH often eye rolls at shoes the girls have (mainly rainbow Van's and rose gold glitter converse) but I'm a size 7 so I cant have all the bright pretty shoes so I'll live through them 😂

Buy them! I’m sad when I think of all the lovely dresses my girls had that I was saving for a special occasion that never arrived. But the shoes, let her enjoy them!

I'm jealous.

I have three sons and whilst I never wanted girls necessarily, I do love little girly ales and hair clips.

I want to buy pretty shoes and hair clips!

I actually think it’s important that children get to have some autonomy. As parents we decide so much about their life. Where they go, who they see, what they can and can’t do. So something like choosing your own shoes is the start of your DD having opinions about herself. Learning what taste she has and starting some decisions. And shoes is a perfect way to start that. Because so long as they’re suitable, it really doesn’t matter if you like them or not. Her dad is being horrible going on about her shoes. He’s basically telling her that she’s wrong to like something. And I don’t think you should do that to children. Unless there’s a very good reason.

My mum dictated what I wore for as long as possible she is very old fashioned and not stylish so I wore some hideous stuff.

I remember being particularly distraught when I was 7 and needing school shoes and her making me have the what felt like the ugliest pair of shoes in the shop...

Too many people on this thread talking crap about how giving young kids choices means they'll be materialistic and demanding later - such nonsense. Talk honestly to your kids about the value of money. If you can't afford something, don't buy it and be honest as to why. Talk about the influence of commercials when you're watching kids TV. And teach your kids to make sensible decisions.

All 3yos go through phases of wanting pink/sparkly/Thomas/dinosaurs/any combination thereof. It isn't going to turn them into brats to let them pick what they want.

They're not that bad, young kids are not supposed to wear sensible plain trainers.

The opposite happened to me last summer- I tried on some sparkly birkenstocks and my 16 year old walked away , telling me I was embarrassing myself by considering buying such an item.

Your husband sounds like a male appendage, those shoes are cute. She should be allowed certain choices and so long as the shoes fit well and support her feet then I cant see the issue.
I currently wear rainbow sparkle Doc Martin's which my oh got me for Christmas a few years ago!

My dd has an extremely outrageous taste in fashion. She thinks nothing of wearing a rainbow wig and sequins on a trip to Sainsbury’s.
Count yourself lucky it’s just some sparkly trainers

She's 3. Not 25. She's allowed to be 3 and like hideous pink shoes , though personally I think they're cute. Dad should bog off , tell him to stop being so negative as she won't be 3 and like pink and sparkles or purple forever and time will go so fast, they are so little, they are a pair of shoes fgs not a crime against humanity.

Just wait for the teenage years, her Dad will probably be appalled at her fashion choices. {grin]

Once the shoe is a proper fitting shoe for her feet, of course it makes sense to allow her to choose something she would like.

OP, I would find it utterly bizarre if my husband had an opinion on this, and would tell him to get a grip🙄