Holiday going wrong?

[Straightomyhead]

So I'm on a holiday, long haul type, with someone who I've been friends with for quite a while, but our first time away together. Was really looking forward to it until we got here.

When we arrived we needed to pay a £100 deposit on our apartment, which we be refunded and the £12each for the taxi transfer. (I've converted the currently to pounds for ease) Turns out she only brought £12 in the currency with her! So I paid the deposit. She has taken out a small about of cash since but of course it keeps running out meaning I have to pay. (Today she mentioned she had no money after ordering lunch from a beach shack and would need to pay on card. Of course they wouldn't take card)

She also put in no planning for what we are doing, how to get around or any of the language. And just keeps saying for me to do it. Today she had data switched on on her phone and I didn't and still asked me to do it. Eg. Work out the bus route.

I don't know what to do. She now owes me around £70 in the currency. I don't want to lose this friendship but don't want to ruin the holiday.

good luck - let us know how you get on!

Hope holiday is going ok OP.

Just to update as today is our last full day before flying home tomorrow evening.

We are doing separate things today, although she didn't say this until very late last night that she didn't want to do much. But it worked out well generally. She has tried to avoid paying and paying a tip in most places. But I've just corrected her and said the amount of her share (not spilt 50/50 but what we ordered as I like my cocktails). I did feel a bit bad last night when I had a full meal and she had reheated leftovers.

But we leave tomorrow, I get the deposit back (atm theres no reason why we won't) and we are going to a meal before the airport so it won't matter that we have our cases with us.

Then all should be well.

I have loved reading everyone's horrible holiday stories though and how they have ended up.

Safe trip home OP. Sounds like you outsmarted the Cheeky Fucker 👊🏻

How did the return trip go and have you been in contact with her since ?@straightomyhead.

I have two girl Friends who i go away with each year, and reading this Trip i am so grateful for them. We’re in different countries so planning together isn’t The easiest thing, but we make it work with groupchat and FaceTime. We’ve Been Friends since we were 6, that probably helps as we know each other so well we can be honest if we disagree about something and compromise on activities so we do to things we’ll all enjoy.
It’s it just me or would AIBU have a lot less threads if people just communicated rather than silently seeth over things?

OP, well done for taking the bull by the horns and not letting her CFery ruin your lovely, well-deserved holiday! I do think it's always a risk going on holiday with a friend - I've never actually lost a friend as a result, but there have definitely been some rocky times. Partly it's because a holiday is a thing that matters so much - it's lots of money, but we also hope it will be an emotional break and a switch off from stress and work. So it's much harder to deal with it not working out than it would be back at home, when you can just cut your losses, go home and cool off a bit.

I mostly travel on my own now, too, as a result. It's expensive though.

@luckylorca I like your style !

Did you get home safe and sound OP?

We go on hols with a family who never use cash. We bring plenty of cash and every time they pay on a card we put same in cash into a kitty which pays for cabs, drinks, snacks and the small stuff you need cash for. Everyone’s happy 😃

All home safe. Landed on Saturday morning after a lovely overnight flight.

We had a bit of a chat during lunch before the flight and was adamant that she was right. Everywhere in the world should be cashless and like the uk in the way of money customs culture etc. They aren't.

We've briefly caught up since we've been back All seems good now. Already planning my next (solo) adventure.

Thanks to everyone for your help.

Also @scumbleton the problem was the places not taking card. Not the differing views. It was fine the places that did take card. No problem with that.

Ha ha well done - I’ve lost several friends over holidays! Either over money or different ideas of what we should do!! I’m now very wary of who I go away with but I still prefer it to travelling alone - although i will talk to anyone I am a bit shy when it comes to eating alone etc

Nice to hear you are back and all is resolved 👍