AIBU to ask what those of you who are happy with your lives do?

[Elle7rose]

Just that really...

• What job do you have?
• Do you have a partner/DH/kids?
• Are you financially very well off?
• Are you in good health?

• Or is it just an attitude?

I'm a SAHM just now but plan to do a post grad next year when my youngest DS starts nursery. Probably in teaching to fit in with the kids.

Married for 12 years. Two sons. It's a good marriage.

We are all healthy.

Financially ok just now which has allowed me the time at home with the kids. Will be better off when I start working again obviously.

I'd also add that I have an amazing wider family (cousins, aunties etc) and amazing parents and inlaws who all dote on my kids and help us out alot.

We also have a very close knit friendship group.

• Yes I'm very happy.

What job do you have? Holiday let owner

• Do you have a partner/DH/kids? Yes to the partner, DC are grown and gone

• Are you financially very well off? Not particularly no but we don't have to worry

• Are you in good health? Pretty much

I'm a SAHM. Husband. In good health. 100% not wealthy. Just getting by. But very happy.

Happy (always loathe to jinx it by posting but things are good atm)

• What job do you have? Creative or sahm
• Do you have a partner/DH/kids? - yes three, two boys one girl who was a nice addition
• Are you financially very well off? Not stressed about money which helps
• Are you in good health? Yes

Attitude - remember to feel grateful for stuff that could have been worse, take a lot of contentment from nature etc (even in London) and the city

I'm a stay at home mum and have been for almost 4 years
We worry about money but are fine. Have a car and a van. We shop and eat well. Not materialistic
I've got a house bigger then my friends but it's not huge a 4 bed semi 1930s by the beach
I'm in good health. I was in very poor health but my health is now so much better. Having good health again after being sick for years has given me an immense amount of gratitude

I'm a senior academic. My husband works in an office, and loves his job too. Two great DC. I'd describe us as comfortable (verging on well off). Health is good, thank goodness.

My job is key to my happy life. It's extremely stressful, but I absolutely excel at it, and have a stellar career. It makes me very, very happy every day.

I'm retired, my health is crap (high blood pressure and cholesterol, I have asthma and copd, I had part of one lung removed due to lung cancer), I'm happily divorced and I share my home with DD and her partner.

I'm happy, overall. I think its A state of mind /attitude.

Oh, and financially, I'm comfortable

• What job do you have? Government Admin, 40k/pa which will increase by 20% in 3 years as I progress.
• Do you have a partner/DH/kids? Yes, together 14 years, married 9. No kids
• Are you financially very well off? Mortgage, enough cash in bank for deposit on second home but trying to decide where. No other debt, but definitely not well off. We wouldn’t worry about a bill for £100 but would worry about a bill for £1,000.
• Are you in good health? Ok health for the moment. Two long term health conditions, one of which will lead to early medical retirement, but overall still active and able. Could stand to lose 3 stone but it’s a work in progress.

• Or is it just an attitude? I’m content. Some days I’m frustrated (colleagues, traffic, politics), but overall I’m blessed - DH who I love and he loves me, two DCats and otherwise we’re ok. Like PP. lottery win would go amiss.

*wouldnt go amiss

My attitude statement should have had an I in it. It’s how I feel, not advice.

Work for the NHS, have a DP and getting married this year, financially OK, I have an autoimmune disease. I do think a lot of it is attitude.

I work part time in a low-paid job that I really enjoy. DH has a good job, so we are OK for money. I'm able to carry out my hobbies, cook from scratch and spend time with DH.

Fortunately in good health too.

I’m very happy
Job : retired nurse , took early retirement at 48 due to health issues
Married for 30 years with 2 dc who are 20+ , ones a teacher the other has health issues and is still at home .
We are comfortably off
I have multiple life long medical conditions , one of which resulted in a very near death experience in 2017 .
I do think a lot of happiness is down to attitude and approach to life and it’s problems .

I’m in PR husband owns his own financial consultancy. Two kids, and dogs. Ok for money. Have a second home we rent out. Generally good health.

• What job do you have? I work in a charity tbat provides really practical help to a generally very impoverished client base. It helps put things in perspective. When you see other people living so desperately it really puts it in perspective. I'm mostly office based though.
• Do you have a partner/DH/kids? Married and hoping to start trying this year.
• Are you financially very well off? Nope. I rent and feel like I've been saving for a mortgage for an eternity with nothing to show for it!
• Are you in good health? Mostly- just minor things. Enough to feel their impact bit not enough to hold me back.

It's all about perspective. I'm surrounded by people worse off and had a hard upbringing so I probably wouldn't be quite as grateful for all I have otherwise.

• What job do you have? Legal work, 32 hours a week
• Do you have a partner/DH/kids? No partner, one child.
• Are you financially very well off? Not loaded but don't really have to think too much about money. Small house, small mortgage through choice so we can spend on other things.
• Are you in good health? Yes. I do have a chronic health condition but it's well managed when I eat well and exercise, which in itself contributes to my wellbeing.

Am self employed - love that
Am studying for a PhD - really love that
I don't have loads of money, but I have a nice little house, food in the cupboards and my bills are paid (more or less). I don't have any debts to speak of. Bit more money in the bank would be nice, but I'm not stressing about that
Healthwise - I have a few problems, being investigated, have decided not to worry until I know what there is to worry about
I have 4 kids, all adults, and a grandchild. They are all happy and healthy. I am happy with that, though I do wish that they cost me less.
I don't have a partner and I am extremely happy with that!
I do think that some people concentrate on what they don't have, rather than on what they do. I don't mean that we should all go round smugly counting our blessings, but you should allow yourself to enjoy your life, your family and your achievements without comparing them against an ideal, or worse, against someone who has more than you.

I’m happy
Not working at the moment
2 DC at uni, one DC left home and working.
Married almost 25 years.
Well off financially
Lovely house
Health-had cancer later last year, looks like it’s all been removed.
Friends-amazing, I’m so lucky to have them.
Pet- love of my life.
I have hobbies.

I'm a specialist small-animal veterinarian and love my job.
Live with DH, who is pretty all-round wonderful, and two utterly adored dogs.
No DCs and don't want any, never have.
We're very comfortable financially - nice house, two 4x4s and a camper van, savings, investments, high disposable income etc. I earn well and DH is a very high earner.
I'm mid-30s and very fit and healthy, for which I'm extremely thankful.
We live in a stunningly beautiful (albeit currently freezing cold!) part of Canada which was always my dream. I'm very outdoorsy and can indulge that fully here.
I travel extensively and have been all over the world, we always have more travels planned and booked which makes me very happy.

I miss my family and friends in the UK but I realise I'm very fortunate.

Retired - I did mostly enjoy the various jobs I had, but nothing was as lovely as not working!
Live with DP, her lovely DCs are heading for middle age, I never had any.
We are lucky enough to have enough money.
I am in remission from cancer, otherwise very well. DP well, apart from age related aches and pains.
I think both of us are good at being happy, and we have a good relationship, lovely families and friends.

Pretty happy

• What job do you have?

Self employed- small business work from home.

• Do you have a partner/DH/kids?

Yes to all

• Are you financially very well off?

Comfortable.

• Are you in good health?

I am, but I am a carer to two other famiyl members.

• What job do you have? Foster parent to a almost three year old and a 9 week old baby who was born addicted to class A drugs
• Do you have a partner/DH/kids? Yes, a partner who works full time. Two adult kids of my own and DP has an adult DP
• Are you financially very well off? No, foster care will never make a rich person
• Are you in good health? Yes, I am 56 and in good health.

• What job do you have? I don’t have one! In the UK I was a secondary school teacher, now I have 2 babies under 2. My husband has his dream job and in a way I have mine (being a mum!) Eventually I hope to be a published writer.
• Do you have a partner/DH/kids? Married for 13 years, 2 kids.
• Are you financially very well off? No but we’re the most comfortable we’ve ever been because life is more affordable where we are (outside the UK).
• Are you in good health? Yes, but my husband has a serious but manageable illness.

• Or is it just an attitude? Maybe! I think you probably need to have the basics - a secure home, a stable relationship (if you’re not single), a job you can at least tolerate, good health, maybe a car, and enough money to not have to worry about it too much and to be able to spontaneously buy, say, cinema tickets or a new book or a takeaway when you feel like it. (Those things sound easily achievable but it’s taken us forever to get there and so many people never do!) But it’s also about your attitude. It helps if you don’t want a lot of “things”. I wish we could afford to travel more but I don’t wish for material objects.

For us leaving the UK was a big part of it too. It’s been hard to adjust to our new country and to accept its limitations but when we weigh up the pros and cons we have such a good life here.

I’m a happily married SAHM of a toddler.

We're lucky enough to have a (mortgaged) house and two cars, and we don't have to count the pennies. Having said that, we can't afford much in the way of holidays, and I'm pretty frugal (eg second hand clothes and furniture, and grow some of our own food).

We're both overweight, but otherwise our health is pretty good. I'm rather anaemic after a miscarriage but that should be temporary.

We have lots to be thankful for - my husband and I adore each other and think our little girl is wonderful. But I think we're mainly happy because our (Christian) faith gives us a sense of peace and joy even when times are hard.

Job - self employed working with horses, hard physical work but I LOVE my job

Home life - LDR with non-EU living partner of 3.5 years, love of my life and I visit 5 or 6 times a year. Also DD8 who is my mini-me and best friend

Money - I do Ok, enough for my trips abroad (although I only pay for flights) DD has everything she needs

Health - pretty Good, although regular massage and physio are a must to keep me up together for work