Dh thinks I should make his lunch

[williams345]

Name change for this because I'm fuming,
Dh keeps moaning that I don't make his lunch for work , I look after the kids, I work, I clean the house. Why doesn't he make my lunch ?
I keep saying to him we are not in the 19th century just because I'm a women doesn't mean I HAVE to make your lunch. He has hands why can't he make it himself and in the past when I did used to make his lunch if I ever missed a day he would rather spend money on McDonalds etc than to not be lazy and make his own lunch !

Been married 23 years and DW has never made my lunch!

I would happily make his lunch.
With dog food!
He would only ask me to make it once.
In almost 40 years of marriage I've never made my husband's lunch, nor has he ever asked me to.

I like making DP's lunch. I also like ironing his shirts. I like doing things that make his life a bit nicer/easier. Shoot me now.

See you say that Straycatstrut but he might like it! DH's colleagues laugh at him because he pretty much makes himself a junior school childs packed lunch every morning - chicken sandwich, carton of juice, crisps and a chocolate biscuit. He also brings himself an apple or a banana to eat mid morning when he has a tea break

@20CMB20 nobody's saying you shouldn't do it. People are taking offence to the fact he expects her to do it.

Tell him that not only should he be making his own lunch, he should be making the DC's as well as his morning contribution to childcare/household needs. You're not the maid. You're equal partners in this.

I do make OH's, but I just make an extra portion of whatever I cook for our lunch, and bung it in a lunchbox (he does night shifts) so it's not really any extra effort. I'd not be putting myself out to do it though, he's a grown man and I have enough to do.

20CMBC but does your DH expect you to do this?
There's a world of difference between wanting to and being expected to.

I remember the midwife coming to visit when DD was a couple of days old. She said to DH, "when you make your lunch, make one for Thewheels too and put it in the fridge". His face! I could've kissed that woman.
Don't make the lunch.

Is he a bit, err,you know ,thick?

@Graciebutterfly 'Straight up tell him I bet you work Colleagues give their wife's better dick too.'

LOL!

@Whynosnowyet 'When mil met fil she made his lunch as requested. Filled the box with sarnies and love notes.
He never asked again...'

Is that something he had a problem with? :/ Or do you mean that he was embarrassed in front of his work colleagues?

Hand him a tin of tomato soup. Job done.

So funny.

Make his lunch. An apple and a cereal bar. Just like all you have time for. When he whinges, tell him, That's what busy adults have in this house.
He is an arse.

Give him a sachet of cat food and a brillo pad.
He will soon work it out.

Don't do it. Don't do his laundry or cook his dinner. You work full time too. I would do nothing.

The 1950s called - they want your husband back 😂

Poor ickle manz not getting the level of service he feels he deserves...
YABU OP - what a wicked woman you are

How have all these men survived to adulthood if they're incapable of making themselves a sandwich?!

My dh once moaned that his work colleague Dave’s wife made him lunch. I made dh lunch, he didn’t ask again

If I worked and my husband stayed at home I'd expect him to make my lunch.

Pressed post too soon!

But if both of us worked then I'd expect we look after our own lunches, unless it was leftovers or something.

If I worked and my husband stayed at home I'd expect him to make my lunch.

Why? Does having a job suddenly make you incapable of feeding yourself?

This is just too pathetic to answer, grow a back bone please

@BehavingBadly she’s already said no