Dh thinks I should make his lunch

[williams345]

Name change for this because I'm fuming,
Dh keeps moaning that I don't make his lunch for work , I look after the kids, I work, I clean the house. Why doesn't he make my lunch ?
I keep saying to him we are not in the 19th century just because I'm a women doesn't mean I HAVE to make your lunch. He has hands why can't he make it himself and in the past when I did used to make his lunch if I ever missed a day he would rather spend money on McDonalds etc than to not be lazy and make his own lunch !

Has he lost his hands, why can’t he do it himself

OP did you say you do not want to feel inadequate if you had not BEEN his lunch? Is this what the other wife does- morph into his her DH lunch😄

@atomicblonde30 - I have a one day out of date yoghurt in my fridge as we speak. And my grapes have seen better days (should probably throw them out).

Ignore the negative nancies on this thread.

Absolute gold 🤣🤣🤣

OP who cooks dinner?

DH has always made his lunch, even when I was a SAHM. He knows what he wants in his sandwiches so better he does it.

Comparing you to someone else's wife is never going to win an argument.

Omg I can't even imagine my husband saying something like this

@Cantuccit @Soen waheyyy! I’m not the only terrible fruit mum on mumsnet 😂 my fruit may be mouldy but my wine is fresh and plentiful so swings and roundabouts ha!

Also yes I’m very glad I left him too, he was a nobber of the highest order!

My husband makes my lunch. And we both work. And his job is more ‘senior’ than mine. But if he didn’t I probably wouldn’t stop to get something and then be hangry by home time so I can see why he does it. And he loves me natch.

@Highonpotandused Thu 16-Jan-20 19:52:31
@williams345

I am assuming that you would be making his lunch while he is still pottering around getting himself ready? I which case, hell no. I would make dh a packed lunch at same time as DCs if he needed it (he doesnt) but that's because in our house ij the morning I do breakfast and lunches while he gets the kids up, gets them a drink, oversees dressing, teeth and hair etc.

So really, it depends on context. It sounds like your dh just thinks an extra hire should be added to your list. Which makes him a twat.

Ds makes his (he's 12) but he moans. I don't think it's my job and I say it's definitely not my job because I have a vagina....

Tell him to cook dinner every night. He can then cook an extra portion of whatever he makes and put it in the fridge to take the next day. My colleague does this and I think she is terribly efficient! Also it means you don't have to cook so it's a double win!

I am going to assume from your posts that he won't like this suggestion and whatever he thinks, you definitely shouldn't make his lunch!

I still don't really understand why he thinks having a penis makes him unable to slap a slice of ham between two bits of bread.

I'd smile sweetly and say you're glad he brought it up, since he likes his colleagues set up so much, you have handed in your notice, you're going to be giving up work and trying to make a living out of instagramming the fancy lunches you're going to make him.

I have in the past ironed DP's shirts or made lunches - but when part of a team effort to get everyone out in the morning, where there's finite time, and i iron a shirt quicker than he does, or he's getting the kids dressed while I put the sandwiches together.

As some kind of duty though? Fuck off. I'm a partner, not a housekeeper.

Having said that, if I needed a lunch every day I'd have a freezer full of batch cooking or M&S ready meals and zap something every day. I like a proper lunch if I'm working in an office. And in fact at the moment DP is on a diet, so is doing exactly - a big pot of food that he eats for every meal until it's time to cook another big pot of food, while I feed myself and the kids (well, sometimes he feeds the kids too - just not from his pot of gruel)

I confess admit to making dh lunch most days, but this is left overs tarted up , and I tend to make suppers that have friendly easy left overs. Dh is happy with those and not too fussy. I
He is appreciative, so its not a bother nor expected which is key.

This is 2020 not 1955. I make my lunch and ds when he had a packed lunch once a week. Dh can make his own

@BehavingBadly I'm confused who's a troll

My dad makes my mum's packed lunch! Even when they were both working he did it while my mum took the dog out for her morning walk.

I'm jealous. I had to make my own when I lived at home!

@williams345 Thu 16-Jan-20 21:00:35
@williams345

Not you! Sorry! accidental copy/paste!

I think yanbu. You have to refuse on principle here. He is not your child and neither is he helpless. What he is though is a backwards lazy waste of space.
Oh but my friends wife makes his lunch so why can't I have packed lunch....... That sounds so whiney and unattractive.

Interesting that so many people on this thread seem to think that women should make their adult sons’ lunches.......

Interesting that so many people on this thread seem to think that women should make their adult sons’ lunches.......

Something else, really. As I said, my son has HFA and ADHD. It is my job as a parent to try the best I can to teach him to be an independent adult and not expect someone else to adult for him. I mean, really? I have taught my surviving daughter who is NT the same.

My father left home to be in the Army. He got married to my mother 56 years ago and knew or figured out how to be an adult on his own.

Flem sandwich??

DH makes his own lunch for work. He also makes ds' lunch if he wants sandwiches for college and when I worked FT outside the house he made mine too!

He irons his shirts too (because I don't do them well enough apparently).

You need a different husband! Or maybe my DH needs a new wife