He’s 4 weeks old and I hate my life

[clairindespair]

Hi I’m gonna get so much shit for this but I absolutely hate my life after having my son. Birth wasn’t pleasant resulting in emergency c section and I am in a financial crisis after student loan hasn’t been paid leaving me with 70p as formula just siphons my money (unable to BF)

He screams for food and doesn’t do anything else. Just screams. Cluster feeds all through the early hours of the morning. I’m a single mum and have no one, I’ve had 4 hours sleep in 5 days and I am struggling to keep my eyes open. My house is a mess cos I have no energy or time to clean it. I am stuck on a third floor with no lift and feel so isolated as I can’t even find the energy to take his pram down the stairs in 3 bits then reassemble it. He doesn’t smile or coo or make any noise except a horrific cry and the occasional grunt. Just cries and looks blank most of the time. I’m starting to hate him. I want my old life back. I’m off uni till May and I want to go back now. I’m so fed up. I hate my life.

Sorry if this has already been mentioned but where is the father? Can he not help?

Thank you everyone! I’ve been worried about so much and this thread has given me so so much reassurance xxxx

@glorioussilence half my family are dead therefore aren’t able to offer support from beyond the grave 🙄 my mum and dad had me later on in life and my grandparents, and father are no longer with us, their siblings passed away and my only remaining uncle has a brain injury with 24/7 care
Have no siblings and I rarely speak to my neighbours as I don’t see them often and don’t feel comfortable knocking on for help
My friends do not live close by as I lived in a different area until last year therefore can’t just hop on a train to see me

Hormones are so awful in the beginning, they take a while to settle and will make a difference to how you feel about things. A sling could help with his reflux (if that's what it is), as it helped my baby boy being more upright, and means you can move about more easily. God the early days can be so tough! There won't be interaction yet, he's adjusting to life in the outside world just as you're still getting over the labour. I am so sorry about the financial mess with your payment not coming through, that kind of stress is not what anyone needs let alone after having a baby! Keep talking to your HV, and GP, it's great you've been seeing them xx

I’m sure you’ll be fine OP. You can certainly stand up for yourself.

@glorioussilence she shouldn’t have to stick up for herself on this thread

But she is

None of your business is it? Personally I prefer to be kind even when I suspect someone is not genuine, and never offer anything I couldn’t afford. It’s the risk we all take. If you’ve read the whole thread you will see MN have commented to say they have no reason to believe OP is a troll. Of course, that’s not guaranteed, but it’s still none of your business.

It's not your place to decide that. Report the thread if you're not happy about it.

And also people have PMd OP with offers of sending medicine and things she needs, and OP has rejected.

Quite Niffler

No, it doesn't.

Troll hunting is still against the rules though

For Christ sake. OP hasn't asked for anything or accepted anything offered other than support and someone to listen.

Just bugger off if you don't want to help her.

Op your doing amazing. Xx

glorioussilence Mumsnet is a support site. Making parent's lives easier is literally mumsnet's mission statement.

Clair hasn't accepted any financial help, although it's been offered.

She is using the site in EXACTLY the way it was built for.

You, on the other hand, are using this website to try to bully a young mother in difficult circumstances.

Shame on you.

I’d love to hear from the OP here confirming she has accepted no gifts or money

She's already done that, upthread and posters have confirmed it

You obviously haven't even RTFT before throwing accusations around.

Why should the OP repeat herself for you, when you can't be arsed to RTFT but are happy to have a go? She shouldn't.

I think that apology is due now, don't you?

The OP owes you nothing, glorioussilence if only your name was representative! - and she probably couldn't give a shit about your faux apology.

Why do you think it's any of your business? Why is it your concern? Why do you think you have the authority to ask people to prove their integrity to you?

OP I'm so proud of you, you've come so far in just a small amount of time. Asking for help was the best thing you could of done, that alone shows how much you really love your son. Small steps and you'll get there