To think this friend is being ridiculous

[lastqueenofscotland]

I’ve got a friend who brings her three year old to most things, including when occasionally inappropriate. But usually it’s ok, she is the type to kick off when she gets invited to a wedding and her daughter doesn’t but otherwise it’s ok.

We all thought it would be fun to go to a beer festival and bought tickets about a month ago. It starts at 7pm in a city centre on a Friday. She has since found out it is (I’d think obviously) no under 18s due to licensing.
She is kicking off sideways about this.
Aibu to think she’s being bloody ridiculous and to tell her so!

Yeah she’s being ridiculous! It’s too late and not suitable for a 3 year old anyway

Yanbu at all.
Why the hell would anyone want to take a three year old to that event?
Yes tell her to get a grip.
Has she no common sense?

Doe she maybe not have any childcare but still wants to maintain a social life?

Yanbu. Our town has a beer festival every October for 3 evenings. I have never seen a child there. It s inappropriate, goes on too late, obviously full of drunk people and no under 18s allowed.
Why does she think her dd would be happy there? Mine would have been upset by the crowds and noise at that age.

Is she a single mum who struggles to get childcare? I have no idea why she would even consider taking her 3 year old to something like that, especially given the start time! If it was a day thing in a pub garden, perhaps, but not a Friday night in a city centre!

To be honest, even if she is a single mum, you’d surely just decline the invite than think of taking the little one?

I agree with you completely. Years ago we went to a beer festival and one of the couples insisted on bringing their very poorly behaved 6 year old. The organisers told them to bolt, they kicked off and the organisers backed down because they couldn't stand the fuss and we had to entertain their irritating brat for the weekend.

Evan a single mum with no childcare would realize this isn't an appropriate place for a child. Yanbu to tell her that.

YANBU.

She has a husband who is a great dad and often bemoans that fact he is hardly ever allowed to have his daughter unsupervised and her PIL live 3 doors down!

Yes your friend is being ridiculous she should have checked when booking if child essential. You would never assume a beer festival allows children.

Why would she think a 3yr old could go to a beer festival and that it’s an environment for her precious babeeee??

YANBU.

Even if it is because she’s got no childcare that’s just tough, lots of people don’t so they just knock events that aren’t child friendly on the head for a few years. I won’t pretend it’s not shit but it is what it is.

I’m going to infer she’s a bit of a twat for wanting to take a 3 year old to that kind of event anyway tbh.

BTW I mean in a general sense, not this particular example, I should clarify. This event is clearly not suitable. Ask her if she wants you to sell her ticket?

Doe she maybe not have any childcare but still wants to maintain a social life?

That doesn’t stop her from taking responsibility for herself and her child - which means checking if the event is open to children. That was up to her, not the OP or any of her other friends.

OP - tell her to sell her ticket and to check next time. I couldn’t be doing with an adult throwing tantrums because she couldn’t take her child to what is clearly an adult-focused event.

Cross posted. She’s just a twat then.

I hope it wasn’t just the pair of you and you’ll still go and have a good time. Maybe invite her DH instead

Your friend sounds a spoilt, entitled little madam.

Aibu to think she’s being bloody ridiculous and to tell her so!

Call yourself a friend, Lastqueen?
You are selfish, insensitive, & quite probably a child-hater.

Your only option to retain the friendship & any sense of decency is to immediately cancel, apologise fulsomely, & never again attend any event unsuitable for under-18's until 2035.

Obviously your friend's parturition 3 years ago should entirely dictate your social life going forward, but to play it safe you should run through your last few social calendars & own any previous nefarious adult activity you have engaged in during that period. With sufficient contrition, & guarantees not to re-offend, you may escape reparations.

Also think very carefully about leaving your house after 7pm in the future, as this could have a serious impact on your friend's child. See you in 2036.

That's very odd. She has a husband and parents in law on hand but wants to take her child to a beer festival at night

If friends want to meet in the week then they know I will be bringing my one year old. I am sahm and I have no one else to look after him.
If it's the weekend, and certainly an evening event, I would not be taking him. My husband would look after him. I don't really like being away though, plus I am pregt and knackered, so these events would be few and far between!!

@messolini9

She is kicking off sideways about this

In what way? With the organisers of the event?

She has messaged the organisers. Said it’s ridiculous the event isn’t more inclusive
She’s been moaning that it wasn’t absolutely clear that when it said over 18s it meant that excluded very young children to

That's rediculous. Why would she WANT to bring a 3 year old to an adult event anyway. Nuts.

In that case I would tell her not to be so ridiculous, how did she get to adulthood without realising that under 18s can't got to most licensed events. I'd also be tempted to drop her as a friend, I wouldn't want to go out with someone who always took a younf child along

YANBU at all!

What kind of idiot would think a beer festival was a suitable place to take their 3 year old to? Especially one that starts at 7pm in the city centre.

My 3 yr old is usually in bed by 7pm. Anyone with any sense in this scenario would leave the 3yr old at home with their DH or with the PILs who live 3 doors down the road.