To think this friend is being ridiculous

[lastqueenofscotland]

I’ve got a friend who brings her three year old to most things, including when occasionally inappropriate. But usually it’s ok, she is the type to kick off when she gets invited to a wedding and her daughter doesn’t but otherwise it’s ok.

We all thought it would be fun to go to a beer festival and bought tickets about a month ago. It starts at 7pm in a city centre on a Friday. She has since found out it is (I’d think obviously) no under 18s due to licensing.
She is kicking off sideways about this.
Aibu to think she’s being bloody ridiculous and to tell her so!

Why would she WANT her three year old there?? I'd never take mine. Neither one of us would enjoy it 🤦🏼‍♀️

I am going to guess she is using her kids constant presence to mask/reduce her anxieties. It's awful and she needs to either have a good talking to and boundaries, or help. It's dreadfully unfair on her daughter and her daughter's relationship with her father. Her daughter won't thank her for it either.

I don’t even know where to begin
What mother would want to bring her child to this??

She’s an idiot. I couldn’t be arsed with someone like that.

Presumably the people who have their 3 year olds in bed before 7pm have one parent at home, or have a nanny or something

I know that getting 3 yr olds into bed before 7pm isn’t always practical, but I do think that most parents of 3yr olds will be thinking about winding things down for bedtime by 7pm.

Whereas OP’s friend seems to be thinking that 7pm is an absolutely fine time to take a 3yr old out for an outing that could easily last for several hours.

Your friend is a twat. HTH.

A 3 year old should really be in bed at 7pm - eh? That's bonkers

My 5 year old is in bed by 7...

There are lots of things I'd keep my 3 year old up past 7pm for (family wedding or special party/BBQ etc). A beer festival which would probably not even be getting going for another hour is not one of them.

Not read every post - but does she have separation anxiety in terms of her daughter?? I mean, not allowing her DH and father to look after..... Think things don't sound healthy!

Can't understand why she would want to take a 3 year old to a beer festival possibly and more than likely with a load of drunk adults.

That’s just bloody stupid . Who on earth would want a very young child around a load or beer-ed up people ? Tell her to look up the word “Emmeshment” ...really harmful to her daughter.

*Enmeshment

You're friend is pathetic. You should tell her what an asshole she is. From now on I wouldn't include her in any outings you plan if she assumes it's ok to bring her child along. She would seriously do my head in so I wouldn't be able to maintain a friendship with her. The only time to bring kids is when it is pre arranged to include the kids. I'm sure the organisers had a good laugh at her complaint.

Please do tell us what she said after you tell her to give her head a wobble.

SIBU. Why does she want to take a 3 yo to a beer festival anyway? She needs to let her OH look after his DD and she needs child free time too. She has trust issues

Really simple really, just stop inviting her out. Then she makes a thread on here , wondering why her friends are leaving her out 😂

She is being utterly ridiculous. She’s making herself look stupid, leave her to it. Enjoy your beer festival, hopefully she’ll stay at home!

In her defence, we actually have a beer festival weekend which caters to families! There are rides,bouncy castles, music and beer!

But she is ridiculous. Under 18 means no under 18!!

I’d go further than saying she’s a twat.

It bloody stupid to drag a toddler to an boost adult event that starts at 7pm.

Total nonsense, she mounds like an annoying brat (the Mum
Not the poor child)

Yes. It is an adult night out. Doesnt everyone need one sometimes?

you're right she's wrong

What on earth does her DH think about his wife wanting to take their three year old to a late night beer festival? I would be pretty upset if I were him, both the taking to the festival itself, and her apparent unwillingness to leave the child with her dad.

A 3 year old should really be in bed at 7pm.

This was my comment. But do you know what, yes most 3 year olds are probably not quite in bed at 7 (mine were certainly not all the time!). Perhaps in the bath or getting ready to go to bed, and being cared by their parent who’s not going out!!

My point was that if you’re going out in the evening, most of the time you expect it to be an adult only event! My kids are 9 and 11 now. Most of my friends have kids ranging from 2 to 15. Not once have I been out with my girlfriends in the evening have any of the kids joined us. They’ve been at home with their dads, which is where the op’s friend’s 3 year old should be.

I've been to family friendly beer festivals but they are usually held during the day then the little ones go home before the evening session. Your friend is being unreasonable.

Yanbu . As organisers have specified event is not child friendly and moreover child would not enjoy being there . Better to stay at home . Friend has issues