To think this friend is being ridiculous

[lastqueenofscotland]

I’ve got a friend who brings her three year old to most things, including when occasionally inappropriate. But usually it’s ok, she is the type to kick off when she gets invited to a wedding and her daughter doesn’t but otherwise it’s ok.

We all thought it would be fun to go to a beer festival and bought tickets about a month ago. It starts at 7pm in a city centre on a Friday. She has since found out it is (I’d think obviously) no under 18s due to licensing.
She is kicking off sideways about this.
Aibu to think she’s being bloody ridiculous and to tell her so!

How dare you go to an event that doesnt allow her precious dc in as well you bad bad friend that you are 😉😂😂

She needs a brain! How ridiculous to ever think that a beer festival would be of any interest to a child of 3!

Your friend can’t be this dim seriously!
Emailing the organisers too, really?
She’s too stupid to be a parent!

Bad parenting too. We went to a day festival in nearby city. We left our older kids (then late primary) with family. There were people there with toddlers! Finished at 11.30 lots of drunk people etc and these families! . Judged the hell out of them totally inappropriate

YANBU. Your friend is really quite dim. I can't believe she kicked off at the organisers!

JosefKeller Sat 11-Jan-20 15:31:32
A 3 year old should really be in bed at 7pm.
that's MN. 3 year old apparently have tea at 4pm, are in bed at 5pm and parents moan they are up at 5am. It's at thing. Bonkers but it is!
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I agree. Mine never went to bed that early besides which we'd usually be finishing off our dinner at that time, all sitting around the table. We needed family time too and if kids go to bed very early, parents are just like a couple without children. It wouldn't have worked with mine anyway, not sleepy at all at seven o'clock.
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However, back to the point of the thread. I don't understand why your friend doesn't relish the idea of a child free event with friends. She has her husband and in laws at hand, you can't spend 24/7 with a child until they are grown up. What on earth would she be like if she went to work? I presume going to work isn't on the cards for her right now.

It sounds as though she has a deep seated anxiety. Not your problem of course but something to bear in mind.

My DD is quite often in bed by 7.30. She's 9. At 3, she was a nightmare and if I put her to bed then, she napped for a couple of hours and then it was playtime until at least midnight. To save my sanity (& my ability to remain awake at work) I put her to bed around 9 and watched netflix on my laptop. That's what a normal person does, I think. I wouldn't have taken her to a pub, let alone a beer festival. Even child friendly pub/restaurants have a curfew for minors.

doesn't seem to be fair or right for the child in the middle of all this brewhaha. The mother seems to be needing a pointer that not all folk want to have her kid around at every event.

Your friend is not being a proper parent.

Sorry wrong thread I have asked for it to be removed 😳

my coisin owns and runs one of the london ones.id love to know what he would think to this!

And it's not even as if this deranged mum could have more than one drink! You can hardly get legless tiddly with a toddler in tow.

I would really have to stop inviting her to adult occasions.I go out to get away from my own kids.Not to be annoyed by someone elses.

Your friend is an absolute knob, please feel free to let her know that most of MN think the same HTH

I fail to understand why so many parents these days seem to imagine its ok to take kids everywhere.Ok im childess but none of my friends ever expected to take their kids everywhere when they were young,but today it seems to be the norm.Surely a beer festival in a city centre in evening full of drunks is not a suitable place for a childdoes she not want some time away from child,most mothers do and she has grandparents and a an ex happy to baby sit.I d tell her shes being ridulous and i wouldnt go with her.Children need to know they cant control someones life and this child is old enough to be left with trusted relatives,

I really don't get why she would want to take her to it? Surely it's an adult night out, I would never dream of having my 3 year old tag along on a girls/adults night out 🤪 (not that they would be allowed) it's inappropriate place for a toddler.

What an utter moron. I'd be choosing things to go to deliberately to exclude her child

surely the kid will be bored stupid (like it’s mum) it’s unfair all round really.
Stop enabling her.

I think you should egg her on.

In the name of inclusiveness, she should email the organisers to suggest that alongside the ubiquitous souvenir pint/half-pint glasses there should be some festival logo sippy-cups.

Shouldn’t her 3 year old be in bed at 7pm?

She’s obviously a control freak parent. Just say No. that you don’t want to hang out with a 3 year old. How bloody annoying

All the 3 years old and slightly older are in or go to bed around 7pm.

You friend is an idiot and I would be taking a step back from this so called friendship.

@lastqueenofscotland - are you going to update us with what's happening?

I think she is odd, far too clingy with the child and storing up trouble for the future.