To not tell anyone about birthday of baby for 2 weeks

[girlanonymous]

Not due until April, but me and DP want to have a week or 2 to ourselves with DC when she's here.

We're planning on not telling anyone until after 2 weeks that's she's here.

Has anyone done this?

What happens if baby is 2 weeks overdue? People will wonder/be extremely fuckin worried that you’re a month overdue and noones seen or heard from you in two weeks. Should probably expect a police welfare check at that point tbh.

What a bizarre thing to do to your family

This is either a reverse or a case of extreme PFB. Or there will be a massive drip feed.

I understand the desire for no visitors for a few day but to pretend the birth hasn't happened at all? That's bizarre and to people who love you actually quite cruel and offensive.

What’s the point of posting then ignoring??

Boring post.

If you want to break your all parents’ hearts, by all means go ahead. I can’t conceive of why anyone would even contemplate this.

Yes, that will work

Can't you just say baby's here but no visitors for the first couple of weeks.
That's what we did.

Agree with @Ginger1982 . Things seem less than straightforward. Is this something you really want or is it an attempt to engage your p? April is a long way off. Do not alienate your other sources of support.

i wouldn't. But does depend if you have people who just can't keep away?

I would just announce or text, and say "we are requesting privacy for a few days until our new family is settled", or something.

I had none on the first few hours, made me quite stressed and anxious

FFS UnaCorda why shouldn't a woman be proud? Being pregnant and giving birth isn't easy. Parents will go on to be proud of their children for all kinds of reasons should we not be, just in case someone else is jealous?

Of course a new mum should be proud. Birthing my first baby was the hardest thing I ever did.

Well you're going to need your friends and family around you when "d"p does the dirty on you again considering he was shagging his ex last month.

But yeah, lie to them and deceive them for a couple of weeks if you really must

Nrtft but it's mad and selfish.

By all means have as much time to recover and find your feet as new parents as you feel you need.
But I don’t see the need for the secrecy and to not tell anyone at all seems really self involved IMO and will really set the tone for your ongoing relationship with these people as you’re sending a very clear message that these people are not regarded as important to you, people you care about or in fact people you consider family.

Why not just say you’re high risk and that the baby will not be allowed visitors for two weeks? Most reasonable people will be more understanding of that than hiding the delivery date

I think this is a hugely hurtful thing to do to friends and family. I absolutely dont understand this attitude. I dread to think how PFB you will be down the line also.

Sounds very attention seeking to me.

My DD's DH was on the phone immediately after each of their babies were born as she wanted us to come to the hospital to meet the beautiful new arrivals straight away.

She was proud and excited and wanted us to share that with her.

So bloody precious. I can’t imagine doing that in a million years.

My family and friends would’ve thought I’d lost my marbles. And they’d be right.

Just tell people ffs and if you can’t face visitors (another ridiculous concept I’ve only ever heard of on MN), just tell them not to come.

Do you get on with your in-laws?

My favourite memories are of those 2 weeks after the birth of my babies with friends and family here. No one is going to stay longer than you want. Just embrace a happy time and stop being so utterly self-absorbed.

I an only assume you have a peculiar family arrangement as I couldn’t keep mine away.

Has the original OP disappeared? As I don't think this post went the way they expected...

I agree with the majority on here, @girlanonymous - it would be very unkind to lie to your close family like this (not telling them would be lying by omission), and it would be far better to tell people the baby has arrived, send the grandparents a picture, and then say you want a week or two to settle in and bond, and will be arranging to see people after that - and get your dh to be firm and say “It’s not convenient right now” if people pester for a visit or just turn up.

I had three babies, and I loved seeing people after they were born - it was a really special thing, showing them our tiny newborn baby. Our friends and family were good about not overstaying their welcome, and dh was wonderful at looking after me, the baby and the older children as well as the guests.

@UnaCorda I'm incredibly proud of my child and I was the very moment she was born. I'm also proud of being a mother. I don't think anyone should take that away from me. It doesn't mean I've done anything exceptional or that those who sadly can't have children should be anything like ashamed??
I personally think there's two different contexts in which you can use the word proud. I think it has two slightly different meanings.

Is that you Meghan!!

You do realise that by the time your baby is due you’ll be getting a barrage of texts every day along the lines of ‘any news?’

@girlanonymous OP, I think if you do this you'll end up with Police dogs and Helicopters searching the area for you & DH/DP by day 3.

Really bad idea and incredibly cruel.

What is this obsession with keeping babies away from everyone?! Is it like when school kids get a kick out of knowing a 'secret' that nobody else knows!? Or is it simply a 'Harry & Meghan Complex'