Friend selling gifts I got her

[nobunfight]

Just been on Facebook and seen my best friend is selling some shoes she borrowed from me a couple months ago. She asked me if she could borrow them, I said yes of course. I hadn't asked for them back because I hadn't needed them, but I do want them back at some point! Anyway they are on Facebook for sale, I thought ok, she maybe forgot they were mine, but then I noticed there are 2 other things she's put on, gifts I bought her. One is a gift from a holiday, that I put a lot of thought into, and another a Christmas present that again, I spent a lot on and put a lot of thought into and she said she loved them.

How do I approach this? Am I being unreasonable to be pissed off?

I'm with nibdedibble

She's atwat - let the "friendship"* col.

*Inverted commas because obviously only one of you is a friend.

You have two guesses, but if you need the second one, I fear for you.

*coo - not col

Obviously . . .

OH FUCK!!!!
*cool - cool, COOL

Did you mean cool, @Schaden?

Thank you Zoidberg

Thank you, thank you . . .

🍦 😎

yanbu. i got some unwanted gifts at Christmas and I might give them to the charity shop or sell them but I won't sell them on Facebook as the giver is on there

Ff's stand up for yourself!!!
Call her out on the shoes. On Facebook if need be or you'll be back here again.
She's no friend don't lend her anything again.
Yes to no more gifts. No more favours
She lied to you them wafted it under your nose! Yeah I love my gifts - to sell on.
Why are you friends with her?
Why are you being a door mat to her awful rude behaviour?

She sounds horrible . Not a friend at all. When you have the shoes back don’t initiate contact with her and see if she actually gets in touch with you again. You don’t treat friends like this, it’s very hurtful . You don’t need her and are obviously too kind for her anyway !

I’d be raging!! How bloody rude can you get? YANBU

Another good reason to stop all this unnecessary gift giving we all do......

Definitely a CF, reminds me of the time my MIL sold our pram online (it was kept at hers for when DC were over)

I would reply on the advert saying, give me my shoes back please. Not much of a friend, she will know those are not here to sell.

I would say I've seen your selling my shoes I need them back and just give flowers and chocs for gifts

I would definitely post on FB : are these still available? I love them, I had these exact ones but they’ve disappeared!’

Get your shoes back!

CF

I'm glad you got your shoes back but no one "forgets" they just borrowed something.

Generally she is not a good friend to you so I would cool that friendship and not buy anything of any worth for her in future.

YANBU at all.

Unfortunately, the gifts, once given are hers to do with whatever she chooses! However, from now on spare yourself the effort of thoughtfulness and just buy wine or chocolates! The shoes however - they are your property and not hers to dispose of! A text or gentle reminder that they were on loan?!
I do think it’s incredibly thoughtless and unkind of her to post the sales where you will see them though! Are you sure she cares about you? Maybe time to reassess this friendship and take a step back from it!
Give your time, money and effort to those who appreciate it and appreciate you xxxxx

I'd be very cool with her when she returned my shoes. Frosty, probably. And I'd let the friendship go, to be honest. This woman is not a friend I'd want.

She’s a cheeky cow! She should have checked with you before posting the shoes, even if she really did think you’d given them to her! I’d respond saying ‘gosh no, they were really expensive! I can’t believe they would have been sold if I hadn’t seen them on Facebook! Can you bring them back tomorrow please.’

I've got the shoes back, still no apology though.

How bloody rude. No gifts again, no lending to her. You must feel so hurt!

She is definitely a CF no more gifts for her treat yourself instead

Thank you Numbers