Cockblocked by colleague

[GhostCurry]

I work in an office with a communal eating area.
There’s a guy I fancy, and for once he was sitting alone. I worked up the nerve to sit across from him - and my (junior!) colleague, who was sitting nearby, said “Ghost, there’s room for you here”. It felt weird to insist on staying put so I moved.

Should I say something? It’s not just about the guy - I find her a little patronising at times. I know she’s being nice and it’s very sweet but she has a habit of mothering people, and it rubs me up the wrong way

YABU. You'd not even spoken to each other. Unless you know she fancies him too and was trying to come between you trying to talk to him but you haven't said that's the case. I'd do that if I saw a colleague just sat with a random person or just sit next to them

Cock blocked as I understand it is a term used by men to mean they have been frustrated in an attempt to have sex with a particular woman. And, I get the whole situation with the hot colleague and other people getting in the way of your attempts to get to know each other better it happens all the time where I work too! But as someone else said if he likes you too he'll be looking out for you too and opportunities will present themselves you just have to be patient. Relationships between colleagues can take years to get off the ground!

Relationships between colleagues can take years to get off the ground!

Fuck that for a game of soldiers. I met DH at work, we liked the look of each other (to put it mildly), messaging within a week, first drinks within 2 weeks and the rest is history. Just ask him out OP!!

Are you sure she's always asking you if you're ok and it's not just her way of saying hello?

I had a work colleague (same level role) pull me aside one day and tell me to stop asking her if she was ok as it made her uncomfortable and she felt like I was prying into her private life.

That's fair enough and I apologised for making her feel like that. But I was ever so confused because as far as I was concerned she was just a colleague I said hello to and not someone I really had time or desire to talk to whilst at work.

Next day, I came in and exchanged pleasantries with a few other colleagues and then her as I was sitting at my desk... and she exploded and went 'See, you did it again, you do it to everyone!'

Turned out she felt me saying 'Morning, you all right?' whilst I distractedly set my desk up ready to work, was my way of prying into her personal life....
.... yes her first language was English. I cant remember where in the country she was from but apparently wherever it was, 'You all right?' was not a form of greeting like it is where I am from (and was working). Having explained this to her she went bright red and apologised for her outburst. Please note, none of my other colleagues were upset or even noticed me saying 'you all right?' Its pretty much a version of 'hello' where I live.

So perhaps her saying 'you ok?' Is your colleagues version of saying hello, and means nothing more to it than that, and she certainly isnt prying, and probably doesn't even care about the answer all that much.

Have you considered that her calling you over to sit with her is maybe because she fancies you??

You don't want people to know you like him! When did it become a crime to like someone. You have something of a brick wall attitude. When you loosen up you will get the man. Sorry but it sounds like something from a Russian spy movie.