Cockblocked by colleague

[GhostCurry]

I work in an office with a communal eating area.
There’s a guy I fancy, and for once he was sitting alone. I worked up the nerve to sit across from him - and my (junior!) colleague, who was sitting nearby, said “Ghost, there’s room for you here”. It felt weird to insist on staying put so I moved.

Should I say something? It’s not just about the guy - I find her a little patronising at times. I know she’s being nice and it’s very sweet but she has a habit of mothering people, and it rubs me up the wrong way

She’s always giving me concerned looks and asking if I’m okay

What an utter, utter cunt 😂

I agree with an OP who said that you're projecting. You're unassertive-ness [sic] manner makes you annoyed at this 'junior' whom you perceive to have too much confidence for the position she's in.

Cockblock is a term I have been familiar with for years, but usually attributed to a male.

Nope it's not.
I work in the media (written word) and have never ever seen it.

I never understand people who say something can't be commonly used because they have never heard of it.

The media covers quite a wide spectrum and I can't imagine it's used often in 'Fishing Weekly'.

Well, you should have called her out. "Bitch, no cockblocking!" in a strident voice, accompanied by a snappy hand-gesture, was the mature and reasoned response.

YABU and immature.

According to Merriam-Webster, the first known use of "cockblock" was in 1972. Huh.

www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cockblock

You should have just said ‘Oh that’s okay, fine here thanks.’

I’m not quite sure what cock blocking is, but I don’t think this can be it.

Merriam-Webster? Ah. Not in the mother country, then.

It's probably made it's way over there at some point in the past 48 years, though.

You should have said, "thanks but I'm comfortable here. You can sit here with me if you want".

@butwhateverfor good call. Also let’s the mark know she’s got plans.

This cockblock usage debate is ridiculous. I definitely used it jokingly 10 years ago when I was cockblocked by a colleague too. It ended happily though. The moral of the story that I can't be arsed to tell is that the cock will find you if it wants to.

Cock blocked saying been around for years. Usually used by men.

Not sure why someone who 'works in the media' thinks that qualifies them to deny its existence as a common place expression.

'cockblocked'...? what the hell is this? is it a THING?
Whatever, it sounds offensive. I assume there is a human being attached to his appendage?

Funny how men are the ones to use it most.

Funguy "I assume there is a human being attached to his appendage?"

yes. If I saw random cocks hanging around without their owners, I'd call the police!

no!! surely cock blocking is a thing that one cock does to another cock??
this is another maneuver -maybe there isnt a name for it yet?

your cock hasnt been blocked so I think what you have experienced OP is a form of 'cunt control'?
or 'pussy patrolling'

Such a non-issue!

@JinglingHellsBells I'm in my 50s, have also worked alongside various media (not London but still wide circulation) and have been aware of "cockblock" as a phrase for at least 10-15 years. Most often heard in clubbing/social locations rather than work canteens but nevertheless very standard slang phrase used frequently and jokingly without any offence on either side by people of ALL ages. Methinks you live a very sheltered life!

She's not dictating anything, she's nice and she tries to look after people and you dislike that so you're turning this into something it isn't.

You need an attitude adjustment or this guy will run a mile even if you do get near him.

Nobody likes a bitch.

'Cockblocked'? Ew, what a gross word. And the other 'junior' lady sounds nice.

“The moral of the story that I can't be arsed to tell is that the cock will find you if it wants to.“

This made me laugh out loud

Yes, colleague is very nice. I do think that it was odd behaviour to call me over to another table when I was clearly sitting with another colleague though. If i had’ve been on my own it would be different.

Next time you get the chance to sit down with him, and your overbearing colleague summons you over to sit with her, straighten you shoulders, hold you head high, and say clearly 'NO, I am sitting with Mr Hot Bloke at Work, we have something to discuss.'
Then turn to the man in question and say 'So how about lunch away from work sometime? You free this Saturday?'

Job done.

What is jumping out at me, Ghost, is that you say you were both about to speak to each other when dear little colleague intervened. I’m going against the tide here but this reads as her butting in, not to be lovely & nice, but to move you away from him. My hunch is that she thinks you may like him, may like him herself, also knows you are shy & easily embarrassed, & so intervened to separate you. I would say - don’t let her do this again. Just smile & say “I’m fine here, thanks.” as others have suggested. It may take some strength to do that if you are shy but it will be worth it. And next time she asks patronisingly if you are ok, say firmly that you are & ask how she is - that might shut her up for a bit, as it sounds as if she is overbearing & has worked out you are shy & lack confidence in some situations & is trying to play that to her advantage. Do you think, if you had been sitting on your own, with no fanciable guy there, she would have bothered asking you over to join their table?
Is it something she is in the habit of doing? I would give sitting with him another go, even if he is with a couple of others, & see how it goes. And yes- you were cockblocked. The cock was blocked off from you by little miss interfering - so please don’t let her do this again otherwise you will be in a state of constantly kicking yourself.