Cockblocked by colleague

[GhostCurry]

I work in an office with a communal eating area.
There’s a guy I fancy, and for once he was sitting alone. I worked up the nerve to sit across from him - and my (junior!) colleague, who was sitting nearby, said “Ghost, there’s room for you here”. It felt weird to insist on staying put so I moved.

Should I say something? It’s not just about the guy - I find her a little patronising at times. I know she’s being nice and it’s very sweet but she has a habit of mothering people, and it rubs me up the wrong way

What is the relevance of her being a junior colleague?!!

Her being the OP's "(junior!)" colleague has bugger all to do with it.

Are you the poster, who always fancies a colleague and is sure it's reciprocated for the weirdest reasons?

Crikey, what a bitch!

What a horrible phrase.

@madambee the poster whose work bloke did a startled shuffle with his feet when he saw her, even though her back was turned at the time? I still at that.

@CassidyStone , I seem to remember there has been several 🤣.

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Cock-blocked. What an awful expression.
Did the person bring a huge inflatable cock, wave between you both and shout 'you shall not pass'?

Is this a genuine question????

She can probably sense you don’t like her and wonders what she’s done wrong, hence asking you if you’re ok all the time. Just be nice to her and she’ll probably stop.

Become more assertive.

When she said there’s a space, just reply: oh cool, next time
And stay put

Are you ok? Course, why do you keep asking me that?

what an horrible title.

How is this cockblocking? I don't get it.

So...if you don’t want people to know you like him and you don’t want him to know you like him...how are you meant to get the cock? 🤔

Why not just bite the bullet and ask him out for a drink? Or just stop stalking him 😂

Yeah we have a work colleague like this. She must have a radar because the moment a man of eligible age enters the building up she pops like a demented jack in the box. You can't even speak with male colleagues without her hovering in the background & coming up with questions which simply must be answered now - even during lunch nreal - all because she can't stand not being the only one who can talk to a man.

You didn't have to get up and sit next to her, you chose to. Here we just ignore her silliness and carry on talking.

It’s like she was putting me back in my box, it’s irritating. I don’t need help choosing my seat thanks

@GhostCurry Um, what?? She kindly offered you a seat. You decided to move to that seat, you didn't need to do that you could very easily have stayed where you were. You moved and now you're pissed off at her for being pleasant?

Why mention she is your 'junior!' colleague? What's the relevance?

You sneer at her for being a "junior", like you're all high and mighty and respectable... and then you use a phrase like "cock-blocking".

She didn't know she was "cock blocking" so stop being angry at her for blocking the cock.

It IS a pretty vile phrase isn't it

@GhostCurry Well, you learn something new every day!

How did I never know that the verb 'cockblocked' existed?

The mind boggles.

I understand from your post it means someone stopped you talking to a man.

Yes?

Have you made the word up or is my vocabulary sorely lacking?

@DirtyQwerty glad I read to the end of the thread now!

It’s like she was putting me back in my box, it’s irritating. I don’t need help choosing my seat thanks

She didn’t offer you help in choosing. She offered you a choice. You were the one who couldn’t choose to sit where you wanted and instead chose to be rude to the guy you had sat next to by getting up and leaving when an alternative offer was made. I find your attempt to blame your behaviour on your colleague here childish at best. The problem (in this instance) isn’t with your colleague. Take some responsibility.

Next time you'll just have to tell her you're fine where you are, you want a change of scenery/conversation, etc.

I do sympathise, though, if she's always acting odd around you or giving your patronising looks. I had a not-close friend in school who gave me unsolicited relationship advice (basically warning me off a guy she saw me having a casual conversation with, because she thought he was weird).

I found that odd; it was only a little innocent chitchat, but honestly it was none of her business if we had been flirting. It would've been different if she'd explained that she knew him better than I did or had some specific reason he should be avoided, but it seemed more like she felt she was "protecting" me from the potential social calamity of associating with the Weird Kids.

It also felt like she thought that because I hadn't had a boyfriend or dated, I was in need of her sage advice. (Never mind that she was the one whispering in the back of the classroom about her risky sexual encounters with an older guy... No, I was the one who required advice. )

Like your colleague, my "friend" probably meant it kindly (and maybe got a small thrill out of playing the experienced woman role), but I found it annoying and demeaning.

OMG hun, you all right?😢

Your colleague can not read your mind and it isn’t her fault that you don’t assert yourself.

You could have just said 'nah. I'm settled here thanks and smiled at your crush!