Cockblocked by colleague

[GhostCurry]

I work in an office with a communal eating area.
There’s a guy I fancy, and for once he was sitting alone. I worked up the nerve to sit across from him - and my (junior!) colleague, who was sitting nearby, said “Ghost, there’s room for you here”. It felt weird to insist on staying put so I moved.

Should I say something? It’s not just about the guy - I find her a little patronising at times. I know she’s being nice and it’s very sweet but she has a habit of mothering people, and it rubs me up the wrong way

Are you a teenager

Can't believe the faux horreur 😱 at the word cock

I would be annoyed too, but remember the intention was kind. I would say to colleague "I felt a bit rude moving when I had sat down at lunch, appreciate the thought but leave me be in future sometimes I like to sit myself or get to know others"

Taylor’s reply 😭😭😭

This is the cutest thing ever

@JinglingHellsBells cockblock is a very common phrase and has been for at least a decade...

It's not the word cock, it's really not.
It's putting it together with block to make cockblock.
I would be disgusted to hear a man say he had been cunt blocked, or twat thwarted, or even pussy plugged.

It might be just me, but I think it's gross.

Is this person just a cock on a stick, or is he attached to a person and all that......
Just sayin

cunt blocked, or twat thwarted, or even pussy plugged 😭😭😭

“You could have just said 'nah. I'm settled here thanks and smiled at your crush!”

That’s exactly what I should have done

I dunno guys, I’m just a bit awkward when it comes to social situations and unexpected things. I was sitting down having made my choice of where to sit and who to sit with, and then this person pops up and makes this other suggestion that was unexpected and unwanted and my brain just jams and I always feel like I make the wrong choice in that situation.

I feel really rude leaving the guy on his own (we were both literally about to speak to each other when colleague intervened) but I’m so awkward with this sort of thing that I would mess it up if I tried to say something to either party.

Mentioning that she’s a junior colleague was a dick move I agree - I think I’m letting my irritation at her mothering cloud my judgement, it wasn’t relevant in this instance at all so I totally get why people think I’m in the wrong about that

Thanks to those who knew what I meant!

I haven´t heard cockblock before either. I haven't lived in the UK for a long time though, so I am very out of touch with modern slang. I am not sure I care for it as an expression. Nothing to do with being offended by the word "cock", but more to do with it reducing a person to their genitals. He isn't just a penis.

cunt blocked, or twat thwarted, or even pussy plugged

😂😂 exactly!!

Very crass to say ‘cock blocked’. Not big or clever. Just a bit sleazy.

Jeez..... cockblocked ... WTF is that!

It was rude to leave the guy you like on his own after you had sat with him.

Like you got a better offer.

Clearly you have to sit with him again OP to make it up to him now😀

I do actually think it's rather weird to shout to someone who is sat with another person that 'there's a seat here' Seems rude to the person you're sat with regardless of the fact you happen to fancy them.
I think the fact you do fancy him is why you mishandled it a bit yourself (perfectly understandable imo we're not all uber-cool composed perfect people all the time).

Showing my age but hey

Anyone else only know the word cockblocking because of the Macklemore & Lewis song, “and we danced”? 😂

Just remember; on Wednesdays, we wear pink.

I think she was being off, and being asked all concerned 'are you ok?' for no reason at all is absolutely patronising and irritating and frankly it is unprofessional from a junior to a senior, it certainly would have earned you a very odd look in my office.

I don't blame you for being annoyed OP, have the courage of your convictions next time, just give her a faintly confused look and say 'thanks but I'm fine'

Cheshire youkiddingme and yesthatsaturd I agree with everything you wrote.

Ugh I wish I had’ve just carried on doing my own thing, those who have said I need to work on my assertiveness - you are correct.

I’m also amazed that so many people have never heard the term cockblock before... I guess it’s crass but it’s so standard by now that any “shocking” associations are long gone for me. The term has been around for well over 10 years, probably more, and not just in the UK

I'm not shocked by it, but I've never heard cock blocking used in that context before. Only in the context of a man 'getting in there first' so to speak, with a woman, thereby preventing his friend(s) from pursuing her.

@JinglingHellsBells cockblock is a very common phrase and has been for at least a decade

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Nope it's not.
I work in the media (written word) and have never ever seen it.

Is it used by under 20 yr olds perhaps?

cockblock is a very common phrase and has been for at least a decade obviously in less er, salubrious areas 😂

I always been aware of 'cock block'. Usually used by men.

I work in the media (written word) and have never ever seen it.
Is it used by under 20 yr olds perhaps?

I'm over 50 and I've known of it and very occasionally used it for at least 20 years, probably 30.

The Red Hot Chilli Peppers used it in their 2011 song The Adventures of Rain Dance Maggie but it was used commonly way before that.

Just email him and say, “Sorry I left you at lunch today - I thought ‘Sarah’ wanted me for something in particular. Do you fancy lunch together next week sometime?”