How many funerals have you been to

[grimreaper1]

First off, I'm aware this is morbid and I don't want to upset anyone, but I'm currently studying grief and loss and becoming aware of how much bereavement I have experienced.

I'm 35 years old and I've lost 6 family members, a close friend, a teenage neighbour, accompanied two close relations to funerals of people I also knew and have had a pregnancy loss. So 10 funerals and a miscarriage.

I was just wondering if others had experienced the same or less or more? I don't know if it's changed my experience of death.

AIBU in thinking it's a lot for someone my age?

Actually my 11th,just re counted.

Mid forties here. I've attended quite a few funerals over the years - a range of family, colleagues and friends. Not sure how many but it's certainly in double figures. I've also missed a few family funerals due to living abroad/them living abroad etc.

I've had a miscarriage too. I think a certain amount of loss is inevitable, but some people do seem to experience more than others. My DH is in his early fifties. He lost his dad in an accident when he was a teenager, and one of his brothers a couple of years later. He has since lost his mum two other brothers and a nephew, as well as at least three good friends.

Life is fragile, and we need to make the most of it while we can. for all those on this thread who have experienced painful losses, and especially to those who have lost their own children.

I'm 48 and I'm not sure but think about 40 funerals. Large extended family so that accounts for a good chunk. Friends, friends children, colleagues and neighbours make up the rest. (Nor irish but from a farming family. Farmers seem to go to a lot of funerals maybe because they're self employed?)

Too many..which started when i was 9 with my friend who accidentally hung himself, then my dad who died at just 36.
Grandad (mums side), Granny (dads side), friends son, then my partner.
In the last 7 years it's been tough losing my other granny, aunt and 7 friends, the majority of which were really sudden.

I'm 29 and have been to 5 funerals ( one was a joint funeral)
Great grandma
Grandad
2 childhood friends (joint funeral)
Nephew
High school friend

I’m early 40s and I reckon about 12, though there may be others. All family except one. I can think of another 5 or 6 I would have attended had I been in the country.

I’m From rural Scotland, the Scots aren’t quite as ‘funeral-minded’ as the Irish, but come close at times. I’m not sure how I feel about it tbh. I wouldn’t go to the funeral of someone I’d never met. As an immediate family member at a couple of funerals, I hated that there were so many people there I didn’t know, especially those who didn’t know the deceased person either- it made me feel we were on show. It’s one of the reasons I don’t want a funeral myself.

I'm 34 and have been to 9 funerals.
First one was when I was 15 last one I was at was only few months ago.
Most were family funerals but some friends also.

4

All grandparents

Up until my early 20s I hadn’t been to any

I have no idea, I am 48. I suffered 11 bereavements in one year during my late 20s. Stopped counting after that

I'm 32 and been to 4 funerals. My grandma, grandad, 30 year old cousin who died of sudden death and a 15 year old school friend who died of cancer.
A girl died from primary but didn't go the funeral. And my DS' mate from school's dad died suddenly a few months ago aged only 37. I used to work in a nursery and 2 of the parents died there. One was murdered and one died of alcoholism.

In my 50s, I would say about 20

I'm in your age bracket and been to 7 older relatives, a friend killed in a car accident and a family friend from cancer in his late 40s. Plus had a cousin who was still born

I’m 28 and I’ve been to six funerals, in order:

• my grandmother (age 15)
• parishioner from church (age 16)
• my grandfather (age 22)
• a classmate from college (age 23)
• my second ex to whom I was close friend (age 25)
• a family friend’s husband (age 25)

I lost my step-grandfather when I was 16 but neither myself nor my brother attended.
By the same token I’ve had to miss two funerals in the past two years (a parishioner from church and a co-worker, age 26 and 28 respectively).

A parishioner from church (age 19)*

sorry got the age wrong for second one as was half asleep

I'm also in your age bracket and have been to 11:

3 older relatives
6 friends' parents
2 neighbours/family friends

I've been to more than I can count. First one was my granny's when I was 4, then a handful more through childhood, then regularly as an adult. I'm in my mid 40s. I'm sure I've probably been to 50 or more.

From what I can remember 10 - although I will include one more death as it was very significant but I didn't go to the funeral as I was too young (my mum - I was four) taking up to 11.

3 Parents (mum, step mum, dad)
2 God parents (I was quite close to them as I lived with them for a while as a child and they stepped in a lot when my mum died)
3 Grandparents (all four are dead but one died before I was born)
2 Friends
1 Friend's child (adult child)

I accompanied other people to a couple of funerals too but I'm not including those

In addition to these 2 uncles, 1 auntie and 3 cousins have died - but I didn't go to the funeral (wasn't that close to them and it was in a different country).

I am 46 - when I was 35 I think I had been to six of the main funerals I listed.

I’m only 22 but I’m Irish and have been to aload of funeral, I was taken to funeral form quite young as it’s quite normal in Ireland for children to attend funerals (at least with the people I know can’t speak for everyone of course). I live in London now but do fly home for a funeral of family or friends if I can. We also go for food (usually buffet) after the funeral and some go on to pubs after that (yes even family, we all went Tom the bar after my grandads funeral, he told us to raise a drink to him as he knew he was dying sadly).

I’m 44

4 grandparents
1 friend
4 family members
1 neighbour

I'm 20 and I've been to 3

I'm 24 and i've been to 7 including my dads at 9 years old, my grandads was in december but otherwise all the funerals I was 19 or younger for.

I'm in my 50's and been to around 13-14 I think.

I’m 29 and I’ve been to 10 funerals. Lost a few great grandparents when I was young and didn’t go to theirs. First funeral was when I was 9.

2x godmothers
2x great-grandparents
2x grandparents (one from each side)
DH’s grandmother
Step grand-parent
Aunt
Best friend’s mum.

2019 was the first year that me and DH haven’t lost someone since 2014 (DHs grandma) and the rest have all been my family. Although we lost my mums dog in 2019 which we got when I was a teenager. Between me and DH we still have 3 grandparents and a step-grandparent but we’ve also started a volunteering opportunity in which we will probably attend funerals (working with older people) so I think that number will rise over the next few years.

35 year old here.

Grandad
Great Aunt
Grandma
Uncle
Nan
Mother
Grandad

No friends have died yet but out of my immediate family I only have my husband (plus MIL and terminally ill SFIL) and my dad left...

I am 47.

All 4 grandparents are dead, I went to one grandma's funeral (I was 16,) and not the other (I was about 5). I can't actually remember my two grandfathers (both when.i was about 21).

Uncle in law.

DH.

MIL