AIBU to think it's weird that my GP lied to me?

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I've been going to the same GP for years, and saw her fairly regularly for several years for a chronic condition. In her office, she has photos of herself and her 2 sons; in the past she has talked to me about her sons and I'm certain that when we've talked about holidays she has said things like "The four of us were in X" meaning herself, her husband and her sons, or "My husband is working this weekend, so I'm taking the two boys up to my mum's house" etc. All things which indicated that she has 2 sons and no other children.

Anyway, I had an appointment recently (having not seen her in ages), and in conversation I mentioned that my niece is choosing her secondary school at the moment. She asked which ones she's considering, and I mentioned the name and she said "Oh, my daughter went there, it's a good school". I was surprised because I'd never heard her mention a daughter, and because I know her sons went to a local posh private school and it seemed odd that her daughter would go to the local state school. Didn't say anything as it would have been strange, but it seemed weird so it had stayed in my head.

Yesterday I was talking to a friend who knows the GP (friend's mum lives next door to GP) and a one point she mentioned seeing GP over Christmas. That reminded me of the conversation so I asked her whether GP has a daughter. She said no, just 2 sons. Also definitely no step children, foster kids or anything like that.

It's just a bit... weird. I mean, I don't really care how many kids she has, but it's made me feel like I can't quite trust what she says. I know GPs probably don't want patients to know about their private lives, but surely they'd just not talk about it?

AIBU to think this is strange and to actually be a tiny bit upset that she appears to have lied to me?

I wouldn’t be upset. I’d be trying to catch her out in another lie to see whether it was a one-off or a ‘thing’.

You probably misheard her. She either said my friend’s daughter or my sister’s daughter or even just my friend.

Her daughter might have died or perhaps it's a step daughter, not sure why you are so concerned - it's really up to her how much she shares or doesn't share.

Slip of the tongue she was embarrassed to correct?
Meant goddaughter?
Child she considers to be like a daughter?

Could be anything or could be nothing - I find your reaction is a bit odd, though, especially that you actually "checked up" by asking.

Maybe she said “my doctor went there” ha

It's really none of your business and you're overthinking this way too much. She's your GP, nothing more. Perhaps she had a slip of the tongue and meant something else, perhaps there's a more difficult back story. Either way, it doesn't matter.

It's a little bit odd but I wouldn't waste much thought on it. Maybe she said daughter when she meant niece or god daughter. Since you don't know each other she probably assumed you didn't care about the details and didn't bother to correct herself.

Maybe she meant neice or something but said the wrong word if her mind was elsewhere. My DP does it all the time - sometimes saying the complete opposite of what he means

Oh ffs .........

Maybe she said God Daughter?

I know people that for many reasons don't have their children in their life. Sometimes they mention them sometimes they don't depending on how they feel that day.

Probably a step daughter. Or much older daughter so not part of what the husband d wife and 2 sons do.

She's your GP. You seem rather invested in this relationship, checking up on her FFS. It's none of your business.

Perhaps her daughter is quite a bit older than her sons and has moved away, so your friend hasn't seen her coming/going? I don't think my neighbour's daughter would have ever seen my oldest.

Could be a daughter in law? Whatever the answer is you sound way too invested in your GP's private life.

Could her daughter have grown up and moved out?

I agree with PP, either you misheard or it’s another female who she considers as a daughter, such as goddaughter. My godmother refers to me as her daughter and my DS as her grandson, we are so close it’s not weird at all.

YABU - it could just be a slip of the tongue, she meant her son but you mentioned a female child and she got mixed up, and by the time she realised her mix up it was too late to backtrack so didnt make a fuss.

Or there could be family dynamics that you weren't aware of and she does have a daughter but random neighbours and their family dont know everything about your GP

I would personally be interested to discover that a person in a position of trust was a bullshitter

Her life is none of your business at all, she is there to offer medical advice

I'm more surprised your GP has time for small talk!

It's really odd you're giving this headspace.

It's even more odd that you're upset she "lied" to you!

Bloody hell. She sounds like a lovely GP so you're lucky to have her.

It doesn't even matter if it's true or not, in fact it literally doesn't matter at all!

Her daughter might have died. She might be a step daughter. She might be a child that her husband had with another woman.

The only thing we do know is that it's absolutely none of your business.

I’m amazed you have seen the same doctor consistently over the years. They are always changing at my practice. It’s either an older grown-up daughter or you misheard. Either way it’s none of your business.

It is odd but tbh sometimes life is too complicated to waste time, especially when it's small talk.

For example, DH is an only child of a single mother. MIL's best friend has lived next door for 30 years, was also a single mother and has a daughter. Next door's daughter is 4 years younger than DH and due to being next door they grew up together (daughter is an only child as well, so absence of siblings for both of them). Next door family go to MIL's for Christmas Day, New Year's etc, so when chatting to work colleagues/clients about my Christmas I've mentioned 'my sister in law did X/Y/Z', despite the fact that anyone who knows DH would look puzzled as he doesn't have a sister - it's just quicker and easier than saying all the above...!! Would assume it's something like that.