AIBU to think it's weird that my GP lied to me?

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I've been going to the same GP for years, and saw her fairly regularly for several years for a chronic condition. In her office, she has photos of herself and her 2 sons; in the past she has talked to me about her sons and I'm certain that when we've talked about holidays she has said things like "The four of us were in X" meaning herself, her husband and her sons, or "My husband is working this weekend, so I'm taking the two boys up to my mum's house" etc. All things which indicated that she has 2 sons and no other children.

Anyway, I had an appointment recently (having not seen her in ages), and in conversation I mentioned that my niece is choosing her secondary school at the moment. She asked which ones she's considering, and I mentioned the name and she said "Oh, my daughter went there, it's a good school". I was surprised because I'd never heard her mention a daughter, and because I know her sons went to a local posh private school and it seemed odd that her daughter would go to the local state school. Didn't say anything as it would have been strange, but it seemed weird so it had stayed in my head.

Yesterday I was talking to a friend who knows the GP (friend's mum lives next door to GP) and a one point she mentioned seeing GP over Christmas. That reminded me of the conversation so I asked her whether GP has a daughter. She said no, just 2 sons. Also definitely no step children, foster kids or anything like that.

It's just a bit... weird. I mean, I don't really care how many kids she has, but it's made me feel like I can't quite trust what she says. I know GPs probably don't want patients to know about their private lives, but surely they'd just not talk about it?

AIBU to think this is strange and to actually be a tiny bit upset that she appears to have lied to me?

OP you are really overthinking this relationship with your GP, and even trying to check up on her as well with your friend.

I would personally be interested to discover that a person in a position of trust was a bullshitter

Hardly a bullshitter since whether or not she has a daughter is none of OP's business it's not the kind of fact the GP feels under pressure to get clear.

Maybe one of her sons IDs as a girl now? Could explain the school transfer, too.

I think its weird that you're so invested.

you're bloody lucky to even get to see a GP. You have to be dying round here before you get any further than a telephone convo and getting one of those is a rarity. First of all you have to get through the telephone queue though, just to find out there are no telephone appointments left anyway.

you are a bit too invested in your GP tbh.

Maybe she's a Mumsnetter

Daughter is probably grown up and lives far away.

The important question is does she provide good healthcare to you?

Next door neighbours aren’t always that knowledgable. Your GP could have a much older daughter who has a different father and predominantly lived with him or grandparents, or she could have said goddaughter.

I think you mishearing is much more likely than her lying to you.

There's at least 100 explanations for this (like you misheard her). The only weird thing is that you're not just letting it go.

Heaps of perfectly reasonable explanations, as others have pointed out. My best guess would be a goddaughter, or a child she fostered in the past. It really is no business of yours, and I can't see why an off the cuff remark about her personal life would influence your general trust in what her.

YA Incredibly U to nose into 'the truth' via a neighbour.

Stop being such a nosy git.

*in her.

easyandy101

I would personally be interested to discover that a person in a position of trust was a bullshitter

Would you now?

And what would you do about it?

Leave the practice despite having had
appropriate medical treatment there?

Ring the GMC and tell them... umm... what exactly?

Hold it over the GP's head and threaten to expose her for having had a possible slip of the tongue if she upset you in some way?

Or do you just think that people in a "position of trust", such as medical staff, teachers, social workers etc, should all be perfect and above any minor normal human failings?

Good luck with finding a saint to be your GP.

It's really none of your business and you're overthinking this way too much. She's your GP, nothing more

^ This. She's your GP and you are overstepping the boundaries of a professional relationship.

Probably a much older daughter not many people know about.

My mother regularly tells people she has two kids
I guess she means two kids that live with her or whatever but people are most confused when they find out I exist. I’m 15 years older than my siblings.

I would personally be interested to discover that a person in a position of trust was a bullshitter

Wouldn’t you be more interested in arranging a hearing test?

Maybe you misheard?

Saying that she 'lied to [you]' implies that you have some right to 'the truth', which you don't, however odd this strikes you as.

Hardly a lie of any consequence. I would assume a slip of the tongue and she meant niece or similar.

shes your gp not best mate! You are giving this way too much headspace.

Theres only one way to find out if shes lying but it will be tricky.

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Go to said school and sneak in, try and get to the school office (maybe pose as a student teacher or some sort) do whatever you need to do to get to the student files and try and find anyone with the same surname as GP. Suspensefully photocopy all student files with said surname) checking over shoulder several times while willing the photo copier to go faster,, hear a loud noise and drop photocopies onto floor but scoop them back up just in time for the school janitor to walk in, pretend you got lost and make off quickly and slip back out of school, frequently check mirror in car while spending off home. Arrive home. Wait until husband has fallen asleep and slip out of bed down stairs and lie out all photocopies of students with Gps surname on the floor and study each one for facial similarities. Stay up all night drinking coffee doing so. Try and pinpoint which student is most likely to be a match.

Track down GPs secret daughter by waiting in school carpark for her finishing. Watch from a distance with binoculars and try and get a few snaps of her from your smartphone. Print off photos.

Make a GP appointment, lock the office door while her back is turned and sit down. When she asks how she can help ask her how her children are, ask her to remind you how many children she has. When she says why slam your fist down on her desk and present her with all your findings including school records and a recording of your friend stating she doesnt have a daughter, lay all the evidence down in front of her and stare her down. Circle around her while she tries to explain herself (intimation) and warn her that anything she says might be used against her in court if it comes to it. If she gets confrontational pin her arms down and tell her the jig is up then pace up and down muttering step by step how you cracked the case.

Why on earth would she bother lying about that? And if she did, what does it matter?

She's probably much older than the boys. I was speaking to someone a couple of years ago that I've known for over 15 years. I know them well enough to stop on the street and chat, and have seen them many times over the years.
Two years ago she mentioned she had had an older child who died age 12yo from cancer before I knew her. This was the first time I, or the other friend had ever heard her mention her daughter.

@easyandy101

would personally be interested to discover that a person in a position of trust was a bullshitter

But what potential harm could this possibly do? She hasn't bullshitted OP in the negative sense that word implies. She's either said the wrong word, didn't want to give a complicated and frankly personal explanation or told a lie why on earth would she do this, I mean really what would she gain from lying.

Why on earth would she lie for any disingenuous reason?

She would only "lie" (or much more likely omit the information previously) and because she didn't want to tell OP the "truth" (aka personal information that's none of OP's business and has no effect on her).

What is the negative outcome of this really?

Genuinely can't understand someone calling her a "bullshitter" for this.

Individuals are entitled to privacy, mind your own business.

It came as a total surprise to my dad’s colleagues that he had 2 daughters. I went to his office one day when I was late teens and they didn’t believe me when I said I was there to see my dad. He had photos of mum, my brother and sister, and the family dog, on his desk. People are weird.