Please help settle argument between me and DH! Purple armchair yes or no?!

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Hi everyone,

This is by no means an important issue compared to many on here but I would really appreciate your thoughts!

My husband and I went sofa shopping this afternoon and have decided on a suite we like from DFS (Navonna leather recliner). We have agreed on a 3 seater and armchair. We have also agreed that the 3 seater will be a cream colour (called biscuit). But the issue is with the chair, I really love purple (as per my user name, it’s my favourite colour!) and would like the chair in damson purple. It’s going to be in the corner of the room and not in prominent view or in anyone’s immediate eye-line. I’ve set my heart on it! I know it’s not to everyone’s taste at all. But I can’t see why the sofa and chair have to be the same neutral colour.
My husband says I’m being wacky and should just stick to neutral with both the sofa and chair in the same colour ‘like everyone else does’. He just doesn’t like to be different to the norm with things like this. Although with many other things he will say I don’t care what everyone else says or does!

My view is it would make me happy and when we move house in a year or two’s time we hope to have more space and this chair may end up in a different room anyway, so what does it matter?
Plus I’m paying for the sofa & chair ...... and my husband is going to buy some new french doors for the house.
In the end we didn’t go ahead with placing an order and just can’t agree on this!
Am I being unreasonable to want a purple armchair?!

Life is too hecking short, so have the purple if it will make you smile. DH can always put a 'biscuit' throw over if he feels so inclined.

Yadnbu but then I have purple velvet sofas that I LOVE so I am biased.

I’d usually say yes but I think it will look odd as it’s leather. If it was a fabric that was like velvet or similar it would be ok that that will have a shiny look on it.

No it’s a no from me

Although he settee and chair are not in a style I like I much prefer the plum colour to the cream. Cream sofas are so bland and boring and I imagine will get dirty easily. I would go plum in both!

I'd get matching cushions for both, put the purple cushions on the cream sofa, then cream cushions on the purple chair, I think it'll look fab!

Matching sofa and chair can look very dull and soulless - there really is no need to be so conventional. I think it sounds lovely and would make you happy. I hope you can change his mind with this thread!

@tigeronatrain. I love that sofa

I’d get the sofa in purple too OP.

I dream of this sofa

I’d love to go with plum / damson in both but in his current state of mind it will tip him over the edge lol!

How come he's the boss who has final say on decor? It wouldn't happen in my house, that's for sure.

‘like everyone else does’

Jeeze, that's a hard-to-live-with attitude!
He married you, not "everybody else" & as presumably he likes the biscuit-coloured sofa, surely he can yield to your choice of chair?

Sat NO to the beige, OP. It's your taste, your living room, & you are his wife, not "everybody else" that he is inexplicably trying to blend in with.

@Feelingpoorlysick - He has very definite ideas on the larger purchases for the house and anything to do with decorating like the wallpaper. He just tends to win but I really feel like digging my heels in with the choice of chair colour!

The purple chair is actually very restrained. Lovely shade of purple. If it would make you happy, op, go for it!

If your dh gets to veto all wallpaper, then you get to choose an armchair 🤷‍♀️

@messolini9 - I agree with you, why care what everybody else does with something like this, but he is very fixed on what is “normal” in situations like this for some reason!

DH is getting really arsey about it now, said I’m being so stupid, doesn’t care what anyone else says, saying “we should have neutral cream and that’s it”

He sounds charming. Is he always like this? Or can you discuss things with him and will he compromise in other areas?? I’d be very unhappy with being told I was stupid for wanting something different to him.

You have to love there too. Decor decisions should be joint.

Life is too short. Get the chair and enjoy it! I think you’ve done your fair share of compromising.

@olivertwistwantsmore - I agree, the purple is not a garish in your face tone, I can’t see a problem with it at all. It would make me happy, but so would some funky wallpaper but I’m not going to push it, one step at a time!

There is no ‘normal’, op! Some of our friends have matching suites but many more have non-matching.

We have bean bags, two matching couches and a non matching clause longer in our lounge, I love it.

I couldn’t live with bland cream couches... your h is not ‘right’. And he should care more about what you think than about what some random thinks.

Chaise longue! Bloody autocorrect.

I wouldn’t have matching sofa and chairs but I’m afraid I’m not keen on that colour, it’s a bit dull, as pp have said a stronger purple fabric in a different chairdesign would be better

No issue with the purple chair.

However, don’t get a cream sofa. We have a light grey sofa (leather), & no matter how often I clean it, it never looks clean.

We’ve only had it two years, but are already considering replacing it.

Just seen the link and I absolutely love it, I say yes to the purple chair !

Yabu. If you’re going for s purple chair, go for one with a bit more zing. I think it’ll just look bland when you get it home.

@olivertwistwantsmore -
He is actually a good DH, supportive, kind, etc and often compromises. But we do often clash on things like this. When he gets annoyed about things he doesn’t hold back and he is so fixated on the neutral option for this.

I also think creams, browns and magnolia is for rentals, like a blank canvas with no personality.