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To think my daughter shouldn't have to share a room with a boy!

723 replies

GColdtimer · 03/01/2020 16:15

Because if you are in Oxfordshire, the council thinks schools should facilitate mixed sex dorm rooms for residential trips, as well as allowing mixed sex loos, changing rooms and sports.

It's on this thread thread

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T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 04/01/2020 15:09

It just seems cruel after a while.

Have you any concerns of how cruel it is to females by forcing them to give up all their personal boundaries and not be permitted to state the truth, that the person in their female space is a man/boy? Have you any compassion at all for the actual females or is it about being ‘nice’ and centring those who are trans?

LittleDragonGirl · 04/01/2020 15:11

@Fairenuff

*But the debate really needs to move away from transpeople being a threat to men being a threat.

I do believe that genuine transwomen don't want to harm women. Unfortunately they have been thrown under the bus in the race for men to pretend to be trans to access women and children.

Men have also taken advantage of this to access womens' sports etc.*

THIS IS FULLY AGREE WITH. And is the point im trying to make that a transwomen and man are not one and the same :/

Fairenuff · 04/01/2020 15:14

LittleDragonGirl

But do you think that sex segregation should be removed everywhere?

PityParty4one · 04/01/2020 15:14

A hetro male has identified and been influenced by male role models and male social influences throughout life. A transexual women has been been influenced by female role models and female social influences throughout life.

Nope being hetro is shorthand for hetrosexual. If you are hetrosexual it is based on your sexuality being that of attracted to the opposite sex!!
It has nothing to do with the way a person dresses or presents 🤣😂🤣

But a hetrosexual man and a transexual women are not the same thing.

They are both MALE.
They are the same biologically or are you going to tell me they are not cos one where a dress 😂😂

Oh god I am laughing so hard at how stupid your post is.

LittleDragonGirl · 04/01/2020 15:16

@PurpleCrowbar It is faux concern about the LGBT community as i dont feel a need to be threatened by them.

TotallyFucked Makes who identify as trans commit crime at the same level as those that don’t, so I’m afraid you’re completely wrong. PLEASE find me supporting evidence for this that comes for appropriate unbias research literature and not pages which argue that transwomen are not included in womens rights etc? I have been searching academic journals and papers since your comment and cant find anything. Do you know why? Its because when crimes are recorded the BIOLOGICAL SEX AT BIRTH is recorded and not there identifying gender, so those stats are actually almost impossible to find and if they genuinely exist will be very skewed and based on self report and not unbiased and collected justice data.

NeurotrashWarrior · 04/01/2020 15:18

but if you consider that a typical Transitioning male to female child psychologically identifies as female, have been influenced by female role models and societal values,

Interestingly this is not how Seven Hex describes their childhood or the need to transition. (Seven campaigns for women's spaces and against the trans ing of children.)

DickKerrLadies · 04/01/2020 15:19

Its because when crimes are recorded the BIOLOGICAL SEX AT BIRTH is recorded and not there identifying gender, so those stats are actually almost impossible to find and if they genuinely exist will be very skewed and based on self report and not unbiased and collected justice data.

This isn't true for everywhere. Wasn't it the metropolitan police that were recording crimes based on self-identified gender and not sex? If I had to guess I'd say West Yorkshire police probably record by gender identity and not sex as well.

GailCindy · 04/01/2020 15:20

@totallyfuckedup

If you don't know, it won't hurt you. Doesn't matter really. I've probably been in changing rooms with trans women and not even realised. I'm more scared of the growing poverty and mental health issues than a trans woman. I think you're lucky if this what keeps you up at night. Look at the fucking world for fucks sake.

PityParty4one · 04/01/2020 15:22

I am done.
You really cant argue with stupid.
Especially those who think biology and sexuality are based on what you where.

I am in Jean's and DPs t shirt so I suppose that makes be male today.

Enjoy your afternoon people.

DickKerrLadies · 04/01/2020 15:23

A transexual women has been been influenced by female role models and female social influences throughout life.

Whether this is true or not, they will still have been recognised as male and treated as such throughout life before transitioning. Males and females are treated differently in society from before birth, no matter how they identify.

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 04/01/2020 15:25

Its because when crimes are recorded the BIOLOGICAL SEX AT BIRTH is recorded and not there identifying gender, so those stats are actually almost impossible to find and if they genuinely exist will be very skewed and based on self report and not unbiased and collected justice data.

That’s utterly untrue. In countries that accept males who identify as trans, such as Ireland and many police forces in the UK, the person’s claimed ‘gender’ is recorded and not their sex. Therefore their will be a recorded increase in so called female crime. That’s absolutely disgusting.

Fairenuff · 04/01/2020 15:26

While my son is at less risk than a girl I would take the same approach with any daughter of reminding them about body ownership and minding boundaries

How can parents do that when schools are taking away these girls rights though?

That's the whole point of the thread!

GailCindy · 04/01/2020 15:26

Sorry that I don't run and cower in fear at men and cocks. I quite like them really. I find it all quite hysterical and pathetic. Most men do not use their penis to rape people so why the hell would you think a transwoman is MORE likely to do that? They are probably hiding in a doubleocked cubicle frightened that someone will see their body.

Now I can imagine what it was like when homosexuality was illegal with all the old biddies and Bible bashers driving themselves mad with theories of how they will take over. It would be funny if it wasn't so sad. Lol.

DickKerrLadies · 04/01/2020 15:27

I'm surprised there haven't already been articles talking about the rise in 'female' sex offenders, considering how many males are currently residing in what are labelled women's prisons.

GailCindy · 04/01/2020 15:30

What rights?
A female only changing room doesn't mean that you won't be leered at, groped, or anything horrible without your permission. I went to a girls school I can tell you. Yeah it was banter and play fighting rather than properly sexual but at least 2 of the girls that were mostly doing it are now gay. It made some girls cry. They used to get the Asian girls and pull their bras off. Not just those 2 but it happened all the time

GailCindy · 04/01/2020 15:31

There is a rise in female sex offenders. Straight women perving on teenage boys and girls

Datun · 04/01/2020 15:32

Its because when crimes are recorded the BIOLOGICAL SEX AT BIRTH is recorded and not there identifying gender,

So much of what you have said is wrong. You really don't know what you're talking about.

Crimes are being recorded according to gender identity.

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/police-forces-let-rapists-record-their-gender-as-female-d7qtb7953

Police forces are recording suspected and convicted rapists as female if they no longer wish to identify with their male birth sex.

Six forces, including South Yorkshire and Thames Valley, disclosed under freedom of information laws that if someone is arrested for or convicted of rape, the official record will state the gender they chose to identify themselves as.

Men who identify as women conform to male pattern violence. Half of all the transwomen in prison are there for sex offences.

Being trans does not mean a man suddenly acquires female pattern criminality.

You've seen all the information in schools and youth organisations.

If a girl wants to maintain her boundaries, she is bigoted and must be removed. What don't you get?

Do you agree with it? Do you agree that a girl, or girls who don't want to share with a boy, however he identifies, have no rights?

Fairenuff · 04/01/2020 15:32

GailCindy Do you think that sex segregation should be removed everywhere?

PurpleCrowbar · 04/01/2020 15:33

GailCindy hysterical, you say? OK, groomer.

Datun · 04/01/2020 15:35

GailCindy

So because you like cocks, young girls have no right to boundaries?

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 04/01/2020 15:35

If you don't know, it won't hurt you. Doesn't matter really. I've probably been in changing rooms with trans women and not even realised. I'm more scared of the growing poverty and mental health issues than a trans woman. I think you're lucky if this what keeps you up at night. Look at the fucking world for fucks sake.

Oh dear. It looks like the toys are being thrown out of the pram, or is that stroller that identifies as a pram? It’s a pity you think so little of women and girls’ safety. I know it’s a bit difficult for you to comprehend, but women can actually be concerned about more than one thing at a time, you know.

Considering poverty directly impacts on mainly females and children, how do you suggest we keep statistical data on that, if we can’t record the true sex of a person? As for mental mental health, how do you think forcing females to share with males when in supposed Male free settings, when they’ve been the victim of male aggression or violence affect their mental health? You go ahead a prioritise males who identify as trans and I’ll continue prioritising females and children.

PityParty4one · 04/01/2020 15:35

Gail I will use your way of reasoning then.

Because you are not afraid of men or cocks no women should be as they are as you say pathetic and hysterical but you have witnessed females sexually assault other females so everyone should think like you. That's what you have said yes?

Well I am one of those pathetic hysterical women who after being raped by a male I am now very aware when I am vulnerable and in the presence of males.
However I have never been assaulted by a female so I have no concerns with female only spaces and you are hysterical and pathetic to think differently from me Hmm

KatieAlcock · 04/01/2020 15:37

@LittleDragonGirl really doesn't understand those articles.
Children know if they are a boy or a girl but this isn't instant.
If a boy likes dolls he thinks he is a girl.
Hint: this doesn't make him a girl.

medium.com/@katieja/young-children-reality-sex-and-gender-3421f4f165f1

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 04/01/2020 15:39

Now I can imagine what it was like when homosexuality was illegal

Please stop using homosexual people as a gotcha, it’s really homophobic. Gay men have never demanded access to female spaces and they’ve never tried to force women to lie about their sex.

Datun · 04/01/2020 15:40

Oh dear. It looks like the toys are being thrown out of the pram

Women saying no is very annoying for some people.

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