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Having a baby who sleeps through noise is just luck

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Hustssleeping · 02/01/2020 23:59

My friends new baby will only sleep in perfect silence. Which means a family tiptoeing around with white noise on when they want to whisper. It seems crazy but I remember doing the same with my first.
Is it just luck if your baby sleeps through any noise or is there a trick to it? She desperately wants to know as her DSS comes EOW and she feels bad asking him to be quiet- she knows its important it's his house too..
So
IABU there is a way of teaching babies to sleep through noise (if so- share the magic please!)
IANBU- it's just luck

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Shmithecat2 · 03/01/2020 00:02

Just luck I'm afraid. I tried the whole 'hoover around them, they'll get used to it' with ds, and no, it didn't bloody work. He didn't need absolute silence at all, but did have a breaking point. Same as babies that sleep through from 6 days 🙄 and those that don't - you'll get some smug wanker mums telling you that it's all because of their superior parenting, but it really isn't. It's just luck.

Tumbleweed101 · 03/01/2020 00:03

It is literally just carrying on your daily routine, noise as well, until they get used to it. I also understand how scary it feels to make a noise when you're exhausted and you just want baby to sleep.

I did the tip toeing about thing with my first and he woke at the slightest noise because it was so quiet. With my other three I had other children and chaos going on so couldn't be quiet and they all slept fine in all sorts of places. Our babies at the nursery soon learn to sleep in a fairly noisy environment too, even if they are only children at home.

Ineedcoffee2345 · 03/01/2020 00:03

Dd1 we did the same. Tip toed around TV off etc when she was sleeping. Now 2 1/2 and still wakes at any bloody little noise
Dd2 7 weeks old sleeps no matter what's going on. I thibk its due to her big sister being a toddler and being noisy. I hoover have washed and dryer on when she's asleep from day she was home from hosp.i think best way is to make noise around the baby and they learn to sleep regardless of noise

TrixieFranklin · 03/01/2020 00:03

Definitely luck. Our twins were chalk and cheese with this as babies and even now at nearly 4 one can sleep through anything and the other wakes at every tiny noise.

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Hustssleeping · 03/01/2020 00:07

Yep I thought so...

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JellyfishandShells · 03/01/2020 00:09

Luck. DD1 was terrible about getting to sleep, but once she was, a brass band could have marched through the room and she would have slept on. DD2 was a delight about going to bed, right from the start, just put her down and she was away - but after about 1/2 an hour any kind of noise would wake her and she would be very tetchy about it .

Isithometimeyet0987 · 03/01/2020 00:11

I just kept doin what I would normally do when dd was born tv on or music playing, talking to whoever was in the house the way I normally would, just going about normal life really and she must of just got used to the noise.

EdHelpPls · 03/01/2020 00:12

I used to think it’s to do with how much noise they are exposed to, they get used to.
However, I know someone with twins and one can be lifted, nappy changed and loud noises in room and sleep through it. The other child wakes at a whisper.

I played the radio and stuff for my kids so it was constant noise. I can’t lift them from car to bed but they do sleep rather heavily.

Gibbonsgibbonsgibbons · 03/01/2020 00:17

Luck - my first would wake at everything & we got told it was our fault for being quiet in the rare moments she slept... third also woke to every noise so that was fun

Deadringer · 03/01/2020 00:17

My DC were great sleepers, but they didn't sleep through noise. I was probably guilty of keeping things too quiet with my first, but I have 5 dc so my house got increasingly noisy as time went on but none of them slept well unless it was quiet so yes just luck I think.

anon2000000000 · 03/01/2020 00:33

Mine need noise to sleep. If it's too quiet, they don't sleep.

LisaSimpsonsbff · 03/01/2020 00:36

Surely the causation probably goes the other way - she slept through anything and so you could carry on making all your normal noise? Would you really have kept the TV and music on if you had a baby who woke screaming from the noise every five minutes, just so they 'got used to it'?

atomicblonde30 · 03/01/2020 01:01

My eldest could sleep through the house falling down around him, my youngest however wakes if you pull the quilt back too forcefully. We all tiptoe around him with white noise blasting lol. He’s lucky he’s cute

mumxthr33 · 03/01/2020 01:08

I'v found most babies to sleep through general background noise, it's sudden bangs that disturb them. I think they need to carry on as normal though as there's a chance baby will get used to the noise, if not baby just needs to be put for naps upstairs whilst other child plays downstairs.

iamNOTmagic · 03/01/2020 01:32

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Yeahnah2020 · 03/01/2020 01:35

Complete luck

mumxthr33 · 03/01/2020 01:38

@iamNOTmagic I'm up with my no3 - 9 weeks old, can't blame it on noise!

HypatiaCade · 03/01/2020 01:43

I think it's a bit of both. Some children will ALWAYS react to noises, waking up at the slightest thing. Others can be gradually trained to become more used to noise - but again, with differing limits.

You don't know what you have until you try it - and the sleep deprivation you suffer in the attempt can be torturous!!!!

iamNOTmagic · 03/01/2020 01:44

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allfurcoatnoknickers · 03/01/2020 02:05

I think it's luck. My baby sleeps through anything in fact he sleeps better with a bit of background noise.

I sometimes wonder if it was because he was gestated and spent his whole life in a big noisy city. He's never known true quiet

sobeyondthehills · 03/01/2020 02:17

DSS apparently woke at a duck farting 15 miles away DS would sleep through (and still does) the house falling down.

My DP was a nervous wreck one day when I put the hoover on when DS was sleeping, couldn't believe he slept through.

MitziK · 03/01/2020 02:46

Just luck.

Offspring #1 was instantly, irretrievably wide awake the moment I opened one eye too loudly in the other bedroom with two solid wood doors between us until the age of about 13. Mind you, she never slept for more than two hours at a time until about 9, either.

Offspring #2 was sleeping soundly for six hours a night from ten days old. Never once went to sleep before 10pm throughout her childhood, but once she was asleep, that was it - and she had a lovely nap in her cot from 1.00pm to 2.30pm every day until she was four.

When I was a kid, I didn't sleep much, but I had no great desire for attention from humans as the cat was far more interesting. Once I went to sleep, though, just as now, as long as there was no light (or no small child peeling my eyelids open after I'd dozed for about 30 minutes between 3 and 3.30am), nothing will wake me.

Pure, unadulterated luck.

schafernaker · 03/01/2020 02:48

dd1 spent the first month of her life in hospital with the alarms going off constantly and bleeps and general hospital noise.

She could sleep through anything now!

One of the few advantages of having a NICU kid!

Ladyflop · 03/01/2020 02:55

Babies need to feed regularly and have no concept of day and night. So when people claim their baby 'sleeps through the night' I feel so sorry for that baby as their needs are obviously being ignored.

Nighttimenope · 03/01/2020 02:58

It’s luck, and sometimes ages and phases. All my babies I cracked on around them until it became clear it was no longer fair to them as they were exhausted and unable to sleep. With DD1 she was probably a couple of days old. DS2 managed really well, coming up 6mo or so. Now the older two can sleep through a lot of noise so the youngest is just soldiering on with white noise.
Unless your child does wake up at every noise, you might assume it’s because of your circumstances or something you did, but so goes parenthood!

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