Cards against humanity - angry friend

[CareBear50]

Last night we had a bit of a get together with v close friends and family. There were about 5 or 6 of us. I had been given Cards Against Humanity for Christmas and decided to play a game of it.

I explained the premise of the game to everyone and explained how it worked. I said some might find it offensive (and gave some harsh examples) but just wanted to make sure everyone was ok about it before we played as I knew some people might not like it. I explained if they were uncomfortable it was perfectly fine to say no. No one objected.

Everyone played the game.

Anyway - I called in to my friends house earlier to say hi and he had a go at me four times, complaining that the game was not ok. On four separate occasions I told him that I had given him the opportunity to opt out, along with everyone else, and if he didn't want to play that was fine. In the end I told him you have no right to complain after the fact, if you say nothing when we were playing it or before we started, as I am not a mind-reader and in such a small group you could easily have aired your concerns.

This person is normally quite vocal and no shrinking violet.

Was I being unreasonable?

I love playing it with my kids

Calm down, dear. Remember what I said earlier about being a mature adult? If not, I'll remind you: Everyone likes and dislikes different things.

Thanks for this patronising comment I do understand that people like different things. I don’t understand how anyone can find a joke about Madeleine McCann funny. I really just don’t understand that. If you do- then fine, I accept there must be people that do, it’s just beyond me how that’s possible. But as you say, each to their own, I’m not trying to insult you at all.

The thread isn’t about the game but her friend’s reaction. He is a grown up and should have objected at the time. This is peak MN:

That's oneof those games to give the opt out in private ahead of time not on the day.

I had no idea there was such a category of games. As for whether it’s offensive, it’s subjective and we are all entitled to our own opinions.

chomalungma
Some people use snowflake to dismiss those standing up against homophobia/racism/sexism etc and that's wrong.

However it also does perfectly describe a type of person who positively adores seeking to find offence in almost anything they can because it makes them feel unique, special, right on, enlightened etc. Said snowflakes really struggle that different ideas other than the snowflake approved ideas exist and so seek to censor and no platform those with different ideas.

For example, there are some political and social views I don't agree with. Because I'm not a snowflake I'm quite happy to enter into debate, hear people of those views speak, and can agree to disagree safe in the knowledge that by having the content out there people can engage in healthy and robust debate on the credibility of the ideas.

Snowflakes can't do that because any idea that isn't in the snowflake approved idea book is offensive and dangerous and should be shut down and censored. Those who hold different views shall be dismissed as bigots (which tends to be used incorrectly as a synonym for 'people who disagree with me'). For all they claim to be confident in their own righteousness when policing others, anyone looking in can see that their ability to debate and reason is rather fragile, which is probably why they yell bigot, no platform and claim offence at anything and everything.

I’ve never heard of this game and can’t say I’m inspired to google it after reading this thread. But I can say I had a bloody good game of Articulate with my friends on NYE and would highly recommend it.

tilly I'm curious to know what your granddaughter learned about you!

I have a close friend who doesn't agree that I'm a snowflake. Go figure

There's a selection of cards visible at the top of this article.

www.nytimes.com/2016/10/07/magazine/letter-of-complaint-cards-against-humanity.html

Sounds a game for people who believe themselves to be cool, edgy and considerably better than those people over there.

But the OP INBU, and her friend is an arse.

Also, you can view the current basegame as a pdf here, cardsagainsthumanity.com

My personal highlights just now are these following four separate white cards:
"The Jews"
"Auschwitz"
"Jews, Gypsies and Homosexuals"
"Poorly-Timed Holocaust Jokes"

I mean, what isn't funny with one of those as a punchline. /sarcasm

@chomalungma you do sound very offended, maybe you're just a bit sensitive, eh? also, I never referred to anyone as a snowflake nor did I insult their choice in humour.

😂😂 No, not a single insult there at all...

That was my point, to be ironic on purpose...

Am I missing something as I have literally seen nobody claim to be "edgy or cool" for enjoying the game? Why do people seem to have this attitude that finding black or dark humour funny makes them think they are cool? I certainly don't think I'm edgy or cool for liking the game but then again I'm not near as judgmental as many of the posters on here....

@JamieVardysHavingAParty, what you mean you don’t find it funny to juxtapose those with black cards like:

TSA guidelines now prevent.......on aeroplanes

What’s that smell?

Whilst having sex I think of......

I drink to forget.....

Obviously you have absolutely no sense of humour if you can’t see how ab-so-lute-ly hilarious they would be when added to your white cards.

No anti-semitism in that game at all, oh no.

/end sarcasm.

I do not think I am cool or edgy. I am not a racist or a vile human being.

I just enjoy a card game. The funniest answers are usually the least offensive. If the game isn't for you then fine. There is no need to make assumptions about us as people for enjoying it.

I just enjoy a card game

Doesn't it get a bit predictable after a while?

Where's the challenge?

I think it's worth pointing out not every card is highly offensive. Some are just silly things that would be funny when juxtaposed with the phrases. But I'd like to echo U2HasTheEdge that I do not consider myself cool for playing and I am not racist nor a vile human being for occasionally laughing at a dark humour. The worst comments on this thread have come from the non players and their insults

gingersausage Oh, and the black cards include a reference to "American Indians".

In 20-flipping-20.

Doesn't it get a bit predictable after a while? Where's the challenge?

Show me the party game you can’t say that about.

Doesn't it get a bit predictable after a while?

Not really as it's up to the players what combinations they use and what cards they play. Plus there are many expansion packs.

The challenge is identifying what you friend will find the most funny - not what is the most offensive combination. There will always be some people you play with will find the most shocking combination hilarious but in my experience that’s not the norm. It’s usually things that ‘just’ push the boundaries/ make people a little uncomfortable that win. Like Jimmy Carr style comedy I suppose.

those things are hardly on par with the term Snowflake.

In your opinion.

Do you have some kind of badge that lets you decide what is offensive and what isn’t?

Doesn't it get a bit predictable after a while?

I don't play it that often, but I am sure it could. The challenge is to win the most black cards. Not all games need to be super challenging.

In the photo that LolaDarkdestroyer shared I assume Madeleine McCann's card could be used instead of Jade Goody's, so be paired with the statement "During sex, I like to think about ...". Would that be more hilarious or less, would that be the winning combination?

I do struggle why these names are used in this game. Is it just because you are so unlikely to meet any relatives of them you can't personally offend them? And for those PP who take those cards out of the pack you are still paying money towards the creators who thought these were a good idea, so I think you have lost the moral high ground.

I still have nightmares seeing my DF in his last few hours after cancer had completely destroyed him. Would it be funnier/more offensive if my friends swapped his name instead of Jade Goody's, or would that be taking it too far?

The challenge is identifying what you friend will find the most funny - not what is the most offensive combination. There will always be some people you play with will find the most shocking combination hilarious but in my experience that’s not the norm. It’s usually things that ‘just’ push the boundaries/ make people a little uncomfortable that win. Like Jimmy Carr style comedy I suppose.
I agree with this.
Some of the cards I find offensive, but the times I've joined in a game I didn't get the impression the aim was to be as offensive as possible because the aim was to get your answer picked as the winner for each turn and that relies on reading the group and the other players.

If you takea group of people who have a sense of humour I find distasteful then it could very easily become a hot mess of being offensive and I'd not want to partake in that, but then as an adult I'm more than capable of leaving games I'm not happy with or saying that something crosses a line for me.

I find it quite immature that the OP's friend played the game despite having time to withdraw or refrain from participating only to complain later.

What are the funniest'card combos that have had fans splitting their sides laughing?

Can you share examples of this comedy gold?

These are the sorts of things my family would find funny - but they won't come across as side-splitting here, because it's a game you play in a group - and lots of different answers are read out at the same time. It can be v offensive, but we play with sort of a black humour - most of the replies we do are just ridiculous or absurd.