DH is refusing to buy me medicine

[bloodyperiod1]

DH (as in dickhead right now) is at a mates house 10 mins away, and has refused to buy me paracetamol for my cramps, my period is due next week and I always get these awful cramps before my period. It hurts, I can’t sleep. Kids in bed, corner shop down the road from me and he says I should wait til he gets home, and he doesn’t know when he’s leaving. Shop is closing 11pm. He’s got a car and it will literally take him 2mins to come here. AIBU to think he’s being inconsiderate?

He is a cunt. And I dont use that word lightly. My ex made me come to him, cap in hand, to beg him to buy my tampons. We had been in a relationship for six years at this point, he was financially abusive, took all my money and expected me to borrow pads off his DIL. I had to explain that pads made me feel dirty hence why I like tampons, before he bought them for me. Notice he is an ex. Leave if you can, it wont get better.

Akways have a stock in.

Never rely on men to understand why. Be self sufficient.

It is just the thing that one human woud do for another isnt it?.

Help them from illness??

I currently don't have a wife or partner but i do live with a mature
au-pair. if she she was in pain from said condition there is a midnight chemsit still open I'd just jump in the car and go get whats needed and hope if i were ill someone would do the same kindness for me!

@jomaIone lol wait .. what?? Why do I need to chill out?? I made a fairly fluffy post asking people to be a little considerate about this woman's feelings be a little less arsey with her based on weird assumptions they just seem to be making up like some sorta little miss Marple .. perhaps she deliberately runs out to mither him at his mates .. oh oh maybe he went shopping earlier and asked if she need anything and she didn't mention it then .. maybe she's always demanding him to come home early .. 🤣🤣🤣

I mean really .. and I need to chill out??? She clearly states she isn't fussed when he brings them but the shop shuts at 11 so if he didn't head there ASAP he wouldn't be able to get any..

I just think it doesn't take much to just read what's written down and perhaps not get so caught up on a narrative being made up purely out of weird speculation lol!!

But sure I'll chill out .. why don't you tell the OP to
Just toughen up too!!

I can see both sides. On one side it’s shit to be in pain. On the other side it’s only paracetamol it’s not exactly difficult, knowing you need to take them regularly, to put a packet into your shopping every now and then so you know you’ve always got some. I’d probably be a bit fucked off to be called home from a night out to supply something that it isn’t exactly difficult to have to hand.

Also it varies in your OP between being 2 mins and 10 mins away.

If he hasn’t brought them for you and is still out that’s lousy and inconsiderate. I guess it’s too late to buy tonight, maybe his friend has some that he can pass on to your husband or as others have said check dosage on any of the kids’ meds.

Off topic a bit, but you should get something stronger if it's that bad. Also agree with a pp that bad cramps a week before is not usual and you should see GP.
In answer to the aibu, I don't think I'd expect my dh to leave a party and I'd be pretty pissed off if he wanted me to. However, I might ask him to go to the 24hr supermarket for me once he was done (though appreciate that's probably not an option tonight). I do find it difficult to believe that anyone doesn't have a couple of painkillers of some description knocking about though!!
Could you knock on a neighbour's door and ask if they have anything?

You are being unreasonable.

It is a known event and clearly the name suggests there is some fixation around this area?

Whiskeylover45 That is appauling abuse gladdend to here your now free from it!

No, you should keep paracetamol in, I would never have dreamt of disturbing DH night out to go to shop for some paracetamol.

I think I would be fairly pissed off if the other way round, but
I guess it depends how often he goes to his friends.

I always found a hot water bottle the best thing or tablets from the doctors. That said it is New Years Day, is it normal for him to go to his friends tonight and not spend it with you? I would find this more upsetting.

LTB

Don,t you have any pain killers in at all? Calpol, Ibrorofen, what ever? I would wait to he gets home before judging.

ask neighbour for some

Only joking. But I can see both sides!

Yes a YABU. You know your cycle.

What does that have to do with the fact that she is sitting there in pain?

It's a busy time of year and people forget things. He's a fucker for not sparing 2 minutes to make sure she feels better and is able to get some sleep.

We don,t know he hasn,t got them yet. As he isn,t home yet.

I would never have dreamt of disturbing DH night out to go to shop for some paracetamol.

I take you've never had bad period pain.

He's close and in less than 30 min could easy his wife's pain and even get back to friends.
I'd certainly hope my partner could rely on me to ask me for help if he was in bad pain.

And those who've never been caught short, can throw the first stone at the OP. It happens.

I mean, sure, you should have had some in. But he's still being a cock. Some chaps would be so distressed at the thought of the person they love in pain they wouldn't be able to enjoy themselves. He's actually telling you to wait for pain relief because he's too busy enjoying himself. Twat.
Is he always this selfish?

I feel for you but your DH will never understand .

I would have thought most people would have paracetamol at home... especially if you suffer regularly. are you sure you are not looking for a reason to have a moan?

You should have had some in...well duh.

But she doesn't. And can't access them herself. But, she has someone who cares for her, who could ever so slightly put themselves out for a few minutes, to ease her discomfort. And he's being a dick about it.

@ClarencesMum wondering how long you have been married and what your DH does for a living (Ie is he in a caring profession?). I’m always completely shocked when I hear about partners being this nice, where did you meet him?

It’s possible that if OP gets horrendous cramps a week before her period she doesn’t know until they kick in that her period’s on it’s way as that sort of fun symptom often goes with an irregular cycle...

OP, please go to your GP as advised by PP, they should be able to do something to help.

Obviously that doesn’t do anything right now - as others have suggested, if you’ve any Calpol in the house it’d probably be sensible to take the adult dose of that; & curl up with a hot waterbottle/heatpad-thing.

Unless you’re constantly hauling your DH back from social events on flimsy pretexts, HIBVU not to help.

As I said before if it's a one off I find it odd he's not helped.

But if you do this often when he's out I see his side too.

Not everyone has a painkiller tree planted in their back garden.

It's possible to run out.